Dear all...THIS IS MAINLY FOR THOSE ABOVE 20 YEARS...i.e future parents...(but those above 13 also can read to know why they are like what they are now!)
Most of us suffer as adults due to various reasons. Many suffer in relationships but they cannot live without people and relationships. Many also know the reasons, or know that they are the reason for the suffering, but unable to do anything....why???
From the day the first cell of ours is formed in the embryo, the manufacturing of the product has started. Though the fundamental base of the product gets completed by 20, the shape and characteristics of the product keeps getting changed for entire life due to ageing, weathering and maturing. During this process of manufacturing till 20, all the genetic and environmental influences affect the way we are manufactured. This affects us throughout our life.
Our past affects our present. Those who forget history are doomed to repeat it. This holds good for individuals too. Though we may repress very early experiences (thus we do not remember them), the theory is that the "id" never forgets the experiences!!
As a child if we had been rewarded with sweets, even today when matured and grown up, we reach out for the tub of ice-cream whenever we are depressed and we want cheering up (so the defense mechanism of depression, of eating what we like, mostly the unhealthy junk food, due to sedentary life style of ours, results in obesity, which adds to the depression further, and becomes another big 'mania' issue to be handled separately)
So, the crux is....
What we are now, who we are now, depends upon our life experiences in our manufacturing process. From the first cell to about 20 years of age what decides our manufacture?...
Good healthy nourishing food by mother (before birth), good physical-mental and social health and general stress free, peaceful, contented, happy and healthy life style of mother (before birth), lots of love and affection experienced/perceived by mother from environment and people around (before birth), type of delivery (perfect normal or forceps or cesarean), nourishing food, love and affection, right learning experiences, right developmental challenges in each stage of life and support from people around to come out successfully with positive learning and maturing to age, health-happiness and peace state of family/home, presence of all types of relationships and the dynamics in them, presence of factors in growing (i.e exercises for the body, mind and relationships) that increases the Intelligent Quotient, Emotional Quotient , Spiritual Quotient (understanding of life, mind, mental processes, positive psychology, life processes, society, environment, purpose of life and living, how to be cool, calm, happy, peaceful, balanced, focused, positively energetic, pepped up with high self concept-self esteem-self confidence, handling life situations-people and relationships with positive energy and emotions)....alllll these decide who we are or what we are when we reach the age of 20 years.
Any shortfalls in this process will affect us and create a personality in us that is damaging to us and others who are close us for the entire life!!....For e.g those who lacked love and affection, support in facing challenges, felt insecure during the process of development will always search and run for love and affection from people throughout their life!!
Peacefully yours...Rams...Health Psychologist!!
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