Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL PARENTS AND COLLEGE STUDENTS...THIS IS AN IMPORTANT POST ABOUT LOVE AND MARRIAGE...
Many hundred years back, when civilization started, people did farming and as technology developed various other professions like carpentry, smithy etc came in. So, people started doing many other professions.
All those who did the same profession lived together to reap the benefits, both in profession and day-to-day living. If we closely observe their life following things clearly emerge...
1. Profession was their main stay of living as it gave their livelihood.
2. their home and work place were integrated together.
3. They worshiped their job, got lost in it, did it with creativity and passion, were fully involved in it and therefore enjoyed doing it.
4. There was almost no fixed time for their job...they did it all the time...they also took rest and breaks and got involved in family issues too.
5. They married people within the same profession meaning 'they can live together'...mainly the married couple can live together.
6. Girls at home were also involved in the profession at some level or the other.
(till this period of civilization everything went on well and defined very clearly the basic ingredients for healthy way of living)
7. Various castes took birth from this way of living. I.e castes were named after professions they did, to identify them and their clan.
8. All these happened before the religions came into existence.
Religions and caste took different shapes and forms in their evolution when power mongers and rulers came in the form of politicians, religious leaders etc, many rules and regulations were brought in, social customs got roped in, stigmas were attached to girls, social evils got formed and life became a torture and earth became a hell!!
But over the years many other professions originated and slowly people started moving away from their village, home etc. Work place and place of living got separated and became different. Equality of men and women got changed. People were not involved in their work and went to organisations only to earn money for their family living. Revolution in education also made people leave homes at an early age in life. Booming technology, job opportunities, economy, life style, thinking above life and living, freedom of speech, mixing of cultures etc. So, families got affected. Peace, happiness and health both in families and work place got lost.
But still the power mongers are same and most of the people and societies have not changed in their way of living, match making, marriages, definition of family, home, living, working etc.
People of same caste are not doing their caste-profession any more. People of same profession are not living together any more. Therefore, castes have lost their meaning in true sense. They are only on paper and in the minds of the sensitized people and not in actual day-to-day living and life.
But people still insist on caste, religion, fake projections about people on money, wealth, education, job, salary etc and have deviated far away from the basics of healthy and happy living, both in profession and family life.
They match a boy and a girl who are in different professions...work at different organisations...live far away from each other...and force the soft target, i.e the girl to resign and come back and start living her family life, sacrificing her passion, goals, aims, objectives, dreams etc and live her life with an unknown guy with different of 'everything'.
so, the crux is...our ancestors defined it clearly that 'work, family, equality of both sexes and living...the places and dynamics....can not be separated. They are one inside the other. If they are separated then family, work, happiness, good health, peace, good relationships can not exist!!'
Therefore...
1. Work, place of work, definition of life, living, goals, passion, objectives of life, aims, dreams etc of both the boy and girl should match. Else they will not be able to live together peacefully, understand each other and make a healthy family, healthy offspring and their life would be a colossal waste!!
2. Caste and religion are redundant social evils still being used by power mongers and separatists to divide and rule people, societies, spoil the peace-happiness-health-relationships etc in the life of individuals and families, homes, married life etc for self motives.
3. Good human beings are important for living peacefully, happily and healthily than caste and religion.
4. There is a need to integrate the work place and place of living. They can be close-by or same. If not the ideal state, at least we need to bring in changes in organisations and homes, the way we live, the way we cook, do chores, manage our day to living needs, raising family etc to take them as close as possible towards complete integration of work, personal living and family living.
5. Keeping the work away from family life is not possible...i.e 'I am coming to office and work only to earn money for my family living. So, i will only do what ever work you give me. I will only work during specific working hours' etc will not work out, as this came in-between in evolution of 'office, work, organisations, family living' etc when organisations and homes were separated. Total involvement both in body and mind while being at office and home, being creative, being mixed completely with work and family (the way people lived during beginning of civilization) is essential for survival of individuals in jobs and organisations in the business, in the present and future competitive market scenario.
Peacefully yours....rams...Health Psychologist.
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