How our parents spoil our life without their knowledge?

Hai all...

all our parents know some safe method of EXISTING or SURVIVING in a perceived rat hole...they think that is the correct method of LIVING...they think all other methods are risky, unsafe, dangerous etc...so they teach their children also the same thing as RIGHT, ensure they follow that path by force or advice or cunning methods called strategies (i.e aappu adichhing by using honey coated words and showing carrots in front)...and finally put them in their RAT HOLE, feel happy and call themselves the best parents!!

e.g telling children 'read this holy book written by our god, this is our religion, live as per this!'...the right parenting is 'Read all the holy books. Read all the books that teach moral values. Read all science books. Use your brain and think. Define your religion ie your way of life (dressing, eating, belief systems, living) depending on your place of living and working, social conditions, climate etc and live as per that'!!...this will liberate the children and make them live a better, happier, peaceful, healthy life in their environs!!...selfish parents for their own parasitic dependence wrongly guide their children and screw up their lives!!

rams

comments and my replies are below...

• Ur opinion abt parents is so prejudiced. Guess u r a parent too, does dis opinion apply to u as a parent. Bet no. No one can love dere children as selflessly as a parent does. V cant have two set of rules one for our parents n one for us as parent. To presume tat children r always ryt n parents always wrong would b naive. Our advise to children should b balanced. Our aim should not b popularity among children by just praising dem n criticising parents. Dey have seen life...dere views n opinions r based on dere experiences. Dey could b wrong at times but dere intent of wanting dere children to b happy n successful should never b doubted...den n now.


• Manickarajan Ramasubramanian most of the parents in villages and sub-urban areas live a life which is centered around their business, agriculture, social dynamics among the relatives, rituals, beliefs, functions, customs and traditions of marriage and others...so they conceive a plan for the future life of their kids centered around their own way of living within the community....the children coming from this background to cities have high ambitions, sense of achievement, want to go around the world for work and experience...which is not encouraged by their parents as their wishes are against the wishes of the children...may be the parents have the fear of unknown...i have many college students approaching me to save them from their parents...there is no space and time to type each case...horrrible...i could liberate few...few have given up and succumbed to the parents' wish and gone back to their backyards, farms, kitchens and toilets...some of them are 100/100 variety in +2, univ gold medals in engg, best outgoing student award winners, medal winners in all sorts of sports, extracurricular activities etc...if it is one or two i would not have typed the post...but a big mass of students i find in this issue...so i typed...


Manickarajan Ramasubramanian many of my friends, during our times, who have high intelligence, skills and ability to shine, were guided by their clerical parents to learn certain skills like shorthand, type writing etc and finally landed up in clerical like their parents...parents were too happy...but i told them they have spoiled their children by showing a small rat hole and whereas they are capable of much more...as they were much better than me in all ways...later when the boys wrote some exams, got promotions, their parents discouraged them from moving away as they wanted their children and grand children to be around them...these guys also gave up and are still clerks...so, truly their lives have been spoiled by their parents due to lack of knowledge...ok, this is the case of 30 years back...leave it...but even now in my own organisation the clerical, foremen, supervisors, chargemen etc mostly look for education or jobs related to their level only...only very few have big goals and allow them too to pursue...i feel i am living 30 years back in this organisation!!...still there are communities which do not allow girls to work...marriages happen in these communities only if the girl is highly educated but not working...the feeling is 'we have got lot of money...there is no need for her to work...she just wanted to go to college like other girls around and so we sent her with a promise that she will marry only the boys we show!!'...so, STILL THE PERCEPTION IN VILLAGES AND SUB-URBAN AREAS IS 'WORKING IS FOR EARNING MONEY TO RUN THE FAMILY'...IT IS NOT RELATED TO SATISFACTION OF MIND, SELF CONFIDENCE ETC...