our parents groom children for mammalian life only!

• Hai all...
  
  for some time one of our relative girl has been behind me to guide her to become an achiever in life i.e to become some X in life (she probably thinks that i am an achiever, compared to others in our small relatives circle or community, whereas i myself am running towards the stars!). I told her there is no point in making her that X because her parents will get her married to some guy from their place of living (rat hole), relatives circle who or whose parents will finally call her back to their place and their way of living and make her yet another 'mammal'...i.e 'kutti pottu paalootti valarkkum animal'...she said no uncle...then the mobile was put on speaker mode and when i asked her father 'what is the intention of educating her?' he instantaneously answered 'to get her married off!'...
  
  

  when i asked 'will u allow her to marry a boy of her like, matching to her way of living, her profession, place and culture of living?' there was a silence and hesitation. When i forced for answer he said 'no' using different words.
  
  So, our culture is wealth based, marriage centered, marriages and life are a business, living is another emotional business, rat-hole living, parasitic, 'parents think (!)-children follow (goats?)' philosophy...not based on expansion, liberation, independence, using the brain positively to use the sixth sense to design their own life, belief systems etc.
  
  There are parents who groom for independence but most of them groom for rat-hole mammalian living only!
  
  Children, wake up!!!
  
  rams
  
  the comments and my remarks are below...
   

  Parents mean good for their children.They are not supper human beings.Their knowledge is also limited.They know what is good for their children.They do whatever is possible within their means and as per their knowledge.

   

  • Manickarajan Ramasubramanian agreed...but they should also know and accept that their knowledge is limited and they have kids who are super smart and intelligent than them in the present world of knowledge and technology explosion...they need to also know that if they are unable to groom or show the path, there are enough people who can guide and groom the intelligent and liberated brains and minds....they also need to know that what they perceive as good for their children is out of their limited exposure and wisdom. They also need to know what they know is not everything, and what they know is only right and all others are wrong!...illaiyaaa? (smiles)

     

     

     In the west,both parents and children are born rich and educated .Children are very smart even at young age.Then,why there are break ups ? Half of Manhattan is single .This problem is not endemic . Epidemic

     
• Manickarajan Ramasubramanian they may be only 'educated'...not 'learned'...not all educated are learned...rich in wealth need not bring wisdom...they may be smart and intelligent...by the way, more the IQ less the EQ....so no wonder all these intelligents and smarts are ending up with break ups...maturity and evolved minds do not come up with class room education of engineering or management or any other subject that grooms us for earning our living...human being is the most complicated organism of the nature...so, learning TEXT BOOKS related to human behaviours and social behaviours with an aim of learning (not scoring marks or earning degrees) will help to shape our life...illaattee whether is Man-hattan or women-hottan...yellaam appidithhaan....by the way, living single with many friends (don't anchor the life at SEX) is not wrong...with the death of agrarian society the definition of family social system also has changed...we need to understand that...else we will be left lonely!!

   

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   Bringing up children with correct value which let them realise from family fabric to social bonding to national understanding, to human relations are most important, read Chankaya where he define at what age which way children to be treated. As they grow our rigid guidance has to slowly change into advisory and suggestive and when they are ready to take the wings let them fly. By 16-18 if parents have not become good friend of their child it is very difficult, conservative society , letting a girl grow up to their potential remains our society problem area, efforts are on things are changing , but miles to go before we rest.
 
 
Marriage or no marriage - People are happy only when they are growing and expanding and blooming in a loving and free environment!