Hai all…
we like doing things which give us happiness…when we do these liked things we are in the present moment, we are focused, forget the surroundings, no looking at watch, forget day and night, forget food and sleep, no fear of unknown future, no sad feelings of the past, no expectations, we enjoy doing, we do it for just doing it for happiness, we are creative, we do it well, others appreciate, we get rewards, our self-confidence and self-esteem go up, we feel powerful, we want to do more, we feel achieved…we live our life!!!
we like doing things which give us happiness…when we do these liked things we are in the present moment, we are focused, forget the surroundings, no looking at watch, forget day and night, forget food and sleep, no fear of unknown future, no sad feelings of the past, no expectations, we enjoy doing, we do it for just doing it for happiness, we are creative, we do it well, others appreciate, we get rewards, our self-confidence and self-esteem go up, we feel powerful, we want to do more, we feel achieved…we live our life!!!
Children do things that give them happiness. If we force them to do
things which do not give them happiness they will resist, might do till
we are present, then go back to do things they like.
But is it always possible to do only liked things?...No. At the very second of birth we are born in a social system called family. As we grow we become a part of more and more social systems. We have a status (e.g son, father, friend, student etc) in each and comes with it the associated role. Whether we like it or not we have to accept those statuses and perform the roles to be a part of that social system. Otherwise we will be thrown out. Social systems provide all our physical, mental and social needs. So, we have to do things which we may not like.
If we live alone in a forest then only we are free to do what ever we like all the time, the entire life. But being social animals, we have to live in social systems and good social health is a MUST for good mental and physical health.
So, what is the way out?
Meditative living is the only way!...i.e having the Life definition that ‘Life is to Learn’. When we have this feeling then from morning to night we want to only learn in what ever we do. So, we are inquisitive and get involved in the way I said in the first para. So, we live our life.
As we deliver the responsibilities in social systems, meet the expectations, others are happy with us. We get the ‘feeling of acceptance’. No feeling of rejection. So, we feel peaceful, happy, healthy and successful.
peacefully yours....rams...Health Psychologist.
But is it always possible to do only liked things?...No. At the very second of birth we are born in a social system called family. As we grow we become a part of more and more social systems. We have a status (e.g son, father, friend, student etc) in each and comes with it the associated role. Whether we like it or not we have to accept those statuses and perform the roles to be a part of that social system. Otherwise we will be thrown out. Social systems provide all our physical, mental and social needs. So, we have to do things which we may not like.
If we live alone in a forest then only we are free to do what ever we like all the time, the entire life. But being social animals, we have to live in social systems and good social health is a MUST for good mental and physical health.
So, what is the way out?
Meditative living is the only way!...i.e having the Life definition that ‘Life is to Learn’. When we have this feeling then from morning to night we want to only learn in what ever we do. So, we are inquisitive and get involved in the way I said in the first para. So, we live our life.
As we deliver the responsibilities in social systems, meet the expectations, others are happy with us. We get the ‘feeling of acceptance’. No feeling of rejection. So, we feel peaceful, happy, healthy and successful.
peacefully yours....rams...Health Psychologist.
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