Hai all...
children generally face problems with parents only after they become adolescent in some of the issues like deciding friends, schools/colleges, selection of courses, jobs, place of living, belief systems, culture, dress code, social behaviours, life-mate. The general thumb rule to win the parents is.....
1. don't get emotional, while the parents are mostly emotional, compulsive, authoritative, loud-voiced in their communication
2. be patient, calm and cool...patience only wins!!
children generally face problems with parents only after they become adolescent in some of the issues like deciding friends, schools/colleges, selection of courses, jobs, place of living, belief systems, culture, dress code, social behaviours, life-mate. The general thumb rule to win the parents is.....
1. don't get emotional, while the parents are mostly emotional, compulsive, authoritative, loud-voiced in their communication
2. be patient, calm and cool...patience only wins!!
3. don't be in a hurry to win. Let it take time. Anything that matures
with time only will be stable for life time.Over night changes will not
be permanent. Let them also think, discuss and decide. Give them the
time to mature and evolve to your levels and domains. They are not fast
as you are. Their exposures are different. The secret is they are more
emotionally bonded and in many cases dependent on you than you are on
them!!! so, they have no option other than to change, in most cases.
4. Be firm. Don't yield to compulsions, requests, compromises, strategies and threatening. Don't lose your cool ever. Don't criticize them, laugh at them, yell at them and physical with them. Continue looking after them, showing love and affection to them, remember LOVE / AFFECTION is the only tool that can change them. Keep telling them 'I love you all. But at the same time i want to fly, expand, grow, win, achieve, learn and learn, go all over the world, experience every happiness on this earth, i want you to feel proud of giving birth to me, i want to take you all also and show the universe, give me that oppurtunity, don't make me just a mammal!!'...tell them whether they beat you or threaten you or force you, you will not yield and at the same time you will not leave them high and dry....
5. communicate repeatedly. Help them to expand by giving your hand and come out of their welded skull. They might have been groomed by their parents and closed social groups and that is what they are now. Explain in detail how you are right for your kind of living, place and social group. Explain how it will give peace, happiness, fame, wealth, success to you. Tell them to ask questions. Tell them to open our their fears. Think about them. May be some of them are useful to you to correct the course to your destination. Thank them for the questions, apprehensions, suggestions, fears which helped you to plan it better. They might fear for their and your insecurities, social stigmas etc. Answer them to the level of bringing confidence in them.
You are sure to win!!!...after all parents want you to be safe, secured, happy and peaceful, while all these of theirs are also looked after, by you or by their own selves or through the efforts of both and involving others.
all the best!!
rams
4. Be firm. Don't yield to compulsions, requests, compromises, strategies and threatening. Don't lose your cool ever. Don't criticize them, laugh at them, yell at them and physical with them. Continue looking after them, showing love and affection to them, remember LOVE / AFFECTION is the only tool that can change them. Keep telling them 'I love you all. But at the same time i want to fly, expand, grow, win, achieve, learn and learn, go all over the world, experience every happiness on this earth, i want you to feel proud of giving birth to me, i want to take you all also and show the universe, give me that oppurtunity, don't make me just a mammal!!'...tell them whether they beat you or threaten you or force you, you will not yield and at the same time you will not leave them high and dry....
5. communicate repeatedly. Help them to expand by giving your hand and come out of their welded skull. They might have been groomed by their parents and closed social groups and that is what they are now. Explain in detail how you are right for your kind of living, place and social group. Explain how it will give peace, happiness, fame, wealth, success to you. Tell them to ask questions. Tell them to open our their fears. Think about them. May be some of them are useful to you to correct the course to your destination. Thank them for the questions, apprehensions, suggestions, fears which helped you to plan it better. They might fear for their and your insecurities, social stigmas etc. Answer them to the level of bringing confidence in them.
You are sure to win!!!...after all parents want you to be safe, secured, happy and peaceful, while all these of theirs are also looked after, by you or by their own selves or through the efforts of both and involving others.
all the best!!
rams
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