Hai all....this is for the young boys and girls....
Who is a wife?...what is her role in our life?...if you ask this to the college students (boys), i am sure the answer would be as follows....
1. to get up first...early in the morning and make tea for all
2. to cook breakfast, lunch, serve, pack, make the children to get ready to schools
3. come back in the evening, clean the house, wash the clothes-dry-iron-shelve, teach the children, buy provisions, wash utensils, cook dinner, serve, wash, clean the kitchen
4. freshen up and look after the physiological needs of her husband
5. sleep last
6. attend all social functions of the relatives and friends
7. manage all the issue related to administering of the family
How the boys answer like this? Who taught them?...they observe their mothers, sisters, relatives and friend’s families and make such social roles of a wife….
all learnt from the primitive people (organisms!) of the previous generations...old junk and total slavery type concept...
if any one of the present generation expects all these from his wife and goes in for marriage he is going to get scccccccccrewed and will get a culture shock!!!...
such people can employ a servant for all the dirty jobs...satisfy their body needs by themselves or go to sex workers!!...it is better such people live single and enjoy their life in a flat where house keeping is off-loaded.
If some one thinks as follows then he is eligible for marriage from now on…
Wife is not servant but a FRIEND, a companion, she is there to share intellect...emotions…arts...knowledge...wisdom...play...sing...dance...enjoy spirituality...it is that BOTH ARE REQUIRED FOR BOTH FOR MEETING THEIR BODY AND MIND NEEDS…it is not one way traffic…all house chores are the responsibilities of BOTH…
in fact off loading all these mundane robotic jobs is the wisest to use those few minutes or hours of spare time you get at home for relationship building, fun, happiness, peace, all types of romantic, intellectual, spiritual (etc) communication, understanding the issues of children, their studies etc…otherwise you will end up only doing house chores, get tired and frustrated and then fighting on bed!!!...
this wrong concept of role of wife only has screwed up the wife-husband relationship in the past few decades...the present generation is growing in the correct way....i only wish the old primitive organisms of our era and previous era do not spoil them and screw up their lives too!!
We need to remember….
1. if a marriage does not end up in a divorce it does not mean it is a successful marriage….
2. there are many families where the husband and wife are cut off on many issues and at many levels. You ask the ladies they will list down the social system (marriage and family) and personality (of husband) related issues separately.
3. i have asked many ladies this question 'How much time you spend talking to your better half in a day?...whom do you enjoy talking to the most?....the answer so far has been 20 mts....my old classmates and close friends!!...
reason is they feel more closer to their friends, feel better and comfortable talking to their friends than their husbands, cherishing old memories, even if they talk every day!!!
Some tips are….
1. work out a healthy balanced diet menu for all three times that is easy to cook or make, require less items, takes less time and produce less utensils for wash
2. Children should prepare their food, clothes, room on their own (it is possible if it is done from the age of two)
3. Off load other mundane robotic chores 4. Share all the unavoidable chores between all at home…doing the chores should not be to finish the responsibilities but to enjoy, make fun, strengthen the relationships and social dynamics at home.
peacefully yours...rams...
Who is a wife?...what is her role in our life?...if you ask this to the college students (boys), i am sure the answer would be as follows....
1. to get up first...early in the morning and make tea for all
2. to cook breakfast, lunch, serve, pack, make the children to get ready to schools
3. come back in the evening, clean the house, wash the clothes-dry-iron-shelve, teach the children, buy provisions, wash utensils, cook dinner, serve, wash, clean the kitchen
4. freshen up and look after the physiological needs of her husband
5. sleep last
6. attend all social functions of the relatives and friends
7. manage all the issue related to administering of the family
How the boys answer like this? Who taught them?...they observe their mothers, sisters, relatives and friend’s families and make such social roles of a wife….
all learnt from the primitive people (organisms!) of the previous generations...old junk and total slavery type concept...
if any one of the present generation expects all these from his wife and goes in for marriage he is going to get scccccccccrewed and will get a culture shock!!!...
such people can employ a servant for all the dirty jobs...satisfy their body needs by themselves or go to sex workers!!...it is better such people live single and enjoy their life in a flat where house keeping is off-loaded.
If some one thinks as follows then he is eligible for marriage from now on…
Wife is not servant but a FRIEND, a companion, she is there to share intellect...emotions…arts...knowledge...wisdom...play...sing...dance...enjoy spirituality...it is that BOTH ARE REQUIRED FOR BOTH FOR MEETING THEIR BODY AND MIND NEEDS…it is not one way traffic…all house chores are the responsibilities of BOTH…
in fact off loading all these mundane robotic jobs is the wisest to use those few minutes or hours of spare time you get at home for relationship building, fun, happiness, peace, all types of romantic, intellectual, spiritual (etc) communication, understanding the issues of children, their studies etc…otherwise you will end up only doing house chores, get tired and frustrated and then fighting on bed!!!...
this wrong concept of role of wife only has screwed up the wife-husband relationship in the past few decades...the present generation is growing in the correct way....i only wish the old primitive organisms of our era and previous era do not spoil them and screw up their lives too!!
We need to remember….
1. if a marriage does not end up in a divorce it does not mean it is a successful marriage….
2. there are many families where the husband and wife are cut off on many issues and at many levels. You ask the ladies they will list down the social system (marriage and family) and personality (of husband) related issues separately.
3. i have asked many ladies this question 'How much time you spend talking to your better half in a day?...whom do you enjoy talking to the most?....the answer so far has been 20 mts....my old classmates and close friends!!...
reason is they feel more closer to their friends, feel better and comfortable talking to their friends than their husbands, cherishing old memories, even if they talk every day!!!
Some tips are….
1. work out a healthy balanced diet menu for all three times that is easy to cook or make, require less items, takes less time and produce less utensils for wash
2. Children should prepare their food, clothes, room on their own (it is possible if it is done from the age of two)
3. Off load other mundane robotic chores 4. Share all the unavoidable chores between all at home…doing the chores should not be to finish the responsibilities but to enjoy, make fun, strengthen the relationships and social dynamics at home.
peacefully yours...rams...
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