Dear all…as you know, we can type volumes and volumes on love and lust…the most troubling issues of life!!...here is one new thing…
Love is felt by mind only as peace, happiness, calmness, cool, contented, successful, secure etc through people or relationships or places or items or life events. It does not give craving feeling. We don’t become possessive with such people or things. But we enjoy them and the very thought of them. We don’t consciously think about them always but subconsciously we keep thinking about them and they keep giving us directions of life, happiness, peace, good health, success etc which are the ‘pillars of life’ and living!!...so, we need to have more people, places, events and items we love. More they are, more we will be happy and peaceful. Loving does not affect the life of the person being loved. They can be alive or dead or non existent. They can be married or unmarried or old or young. Nothing matters. Because the person is what he or she is and what is giving us all the ‘pillars of life’ is not the person but our PERCEPTION OF LOVING AND THE thinking, behaviours and emotions we feel while loving…
Love is one end of the spectrum.
Now the Lust or Like…it focusses only on the body…body needs…i.e water, air, food, shelter, clothing, sex, physical intimacy etc…not related to mind…many can lust with out any love…many can lust many on earth…at the same time too…many can not lust with out any love feeling…these combined with the others can exist only during a part of our life cycle and can change after some time…i.e some might lust without love some times but later after reaching some stage in life might lust only if they feel love…so, unpredictable…!!...Lust gives pleasure, the craving one, which spoils the peace…It can make one possessive…more the lust, more the possessiveness…less the lust, less the possessiveness….but the possessiveness will lost only till the need satiation resourcefulness remains in the source…once the resourcefulness is lost then lust goes off…then the relationship breaks off…physically or mentally or both…
Lust is another end of the spectrum.
Now both love and lust can coexist…this is a troublesome relationship…because it has possessiveness, greed, and all other negative thinking, emotions and behaviours associated with it….during the initial stage in life when lust is more and love is more or less, possessiveness is more…and all sorts of negatives also are present…gives more pleasure…craving is more…less ‘pillars of life’ if love is less….so, amount of love during the initial stages of life decides the amount of ‘pillars of life’ we get amidst the negatives…
aging reduces the lust component…so, as we age the lust reduces, maturation increases with acquiring of knowledge and wisdom, possessiveness can decrease, craving reduces, more ‘pillars of life’…and love can increase….
Nature has produced us with the body...so it drives people for lust as without lust procreation can not go on on earth….and for rearing children a kind of possessiveness is essential…..once the production cycle is over, the gynaec system goes dormant, lust reduces, and possessiveness also reduces…
Nature has produced us with mind and therefore it pushes us to fall in love with people, places, items, relationships, life events etc so that the satiation of mind needs also get met….
More later…I am feeling hungry…bye….
peacefully yours....rams...health psychologist....
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