Dear all...lots of things have
been written here on my wall about 'LOVE' and 'LIKE'...but there is
always something which is new...that is the beauty of these two
feelings!!!
ok...we will just revise the definitions before we go to the special issue on these two feelings....
1.
LOVE - it is a feeling we get with anything living or non living or a
place or a life situation or event or a process or a reality or a
fantasy...whether in the physical presence or not...the feeling of
happiness, peace, contentment, good physical-mental-social health,
success, freedom, out of the body and out of the world feeling, growth,
mentoring, grooming, feeling like talking and sharing every
knowledge-wisdom-feeling-thought-emotions-behaviours and any damn thing
under the sky, feeling of reverberation both in the mind and body,
feeling of a soul-mate ship, feeling positive energy or vibrations, 'I
want to live!' feeling, high self-concept, high self-esteem, motivation
in all dimensions of life etc.
LOVE
is something that makes us to radiate all the above to others, makes
every one to LOVE us, makes us to LIVE each moment in spiritual
enlightened ecstasy.
It is felt by the mind and not by the body.
e.g
we love our friends, parents, mentors, siblings, teachers etc...e.g the
entire country loves Dr APJ Abdul kalam...most of the girls in this
country love Lord Krishna...every one loves gods....
We
can love as many as our heart can hold in our life, Nature has created
us with this ability...when who will love whom, no one knows!!...once we
love a person, we love that person for entire life...we can not hate a
person (from the heart) whom we loved...the capacity or ability to love
is always there entire life time...it does not vanish....there is
nothing wrong in loving many people in life...we can love a married
person too, nothing wrong in that....the more the number, the merrier
the life is!!
2.
LIKE - it is a feeling that is felt by the body with symptoms of some
changes in side and outside the body which can be noticed or felt by the
person. This feeling is felt only with living organisms, generally of
opposite sex. It is generally based on appearance. It could be based on
personality traits also. It is the lusty component. One body can lust
with one or more bodies in reality or fantasies, which varies from
person to person. The body can forget a person which it 'liked'. It is a
need based feeling of the body, which can vanish with that person when
the need vanishes. The feeling of LIKE will appear only when we have the
body need.
LIKE can have the LOVE component...and LOVE also can have the LIKE component...again it varies from person to person...
but
if only the LIKE component is there, then there can be no relationship
between the two or the relationship can vanish when the need vanishes or
the ability to satisfy the need from the other person vanishes...
Nature has also given the ability to LIKE many and LOVE one or many same time...
from the definition we can identify whether we have the feeling of love in the mind, or like in the body with any person...
SO,
WHAT WE LEARN FROM THE ABOVE IS....THE CONCEPT OF LOVE AND LIKE WE HAD
TILL DATE IS PROBABLY WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...IN FACT, IT IS JUST
THE OPPOSITE...i.e those whom we liked, actually we loved...those whom
we actually loved, we only liked....!!!
OK NOW COMES THE CRUX OF THIS POST.......
1.
when we experience both LOVE and LIKE with a person, then we become
POSSESSIVE and make others to feel JEALOUSY of us!!...this can lead to
anger, frustration, sadness, cries, depression etc...if the other person
whom we love and like is married then we become jealousy of his/her
spouse.
2.
These two negative personality traits can make our life miserable. They
are spoilers of peace, happiness, good physical-mental-social health,
contentment and success. This can also result in vanishing of love. This
can also lead to loss of job, loss of relationships, property,
depression, anxiety, self-destruction and all sorts of crimes.
3.
if the other person whom we love does not like this like component,
then we might lose the relationship, love, person temporarily or forever
in life which can again destroy all those we get through LOVE.
4.
when a person experiences both love and like feeling with more than one
person, then again the possessiveness and jealousy can ruin the life...
5.
when you like only one person and love more people then generally there
is not much of problem...as the possessiveness and jealousy components
are generally with body...i.e like...
6.
of course, there are people who feel possessive about people whom they
love and don't feel the like component with them e.g we feel possessive
of our friends and their relationship with us...we become possessive of
their time, physical presence, mind, body etc....
7.
While nature has created all such chaos, it has given the coping skills
for all such problems too...only those who can not perceive coping
skills need treatment...
peacefully yours...rams...health psychologist...
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