Dear all...
about 15 years back I served in an organisation where I was the senior most next to the boss. All others were junior to me by about 5 years and more. Lots of authority and power. I was looked up as a very senior person!!!...haa..haa..haa..sema gethhu!! (winking)
When I went on transfer to the next organisation I was the junior most with every one senior to me by about 10 years!!...So, I was looked down upon as a junior person, a baby!!! (all gethhu gone!!!....kaathhu pona balloon maathiri!!)
This gave me a realization in life that authority, power and the related ego is all waste and only ruins the mental, physical and social health of an individual. So, I threw away what ever residual ego I had due to the traditional hierarchical organisation structures we have and felt a great freedom.
Felt cool, calm, relieved. Could easily do meditation. Could easily be in the ‘present’. So, ego is a heavy, painful, idiotic, irrelevant, burden which we are carrying!!...this does not allow us to be close with people physically, mentally and emotionally, does not allow us to be in the PRESENT moments, gives us anxiety, gives us anger, rigidity, ‘zero error’ syndrome, strictness, stiffness…builds a rigid wall between us and rest of the world at home, office, society everywhere...and we lose people, relationships, happy moments....wofffffffff….too much!!
I felt much younger when i threw away the ego of being senior. ‘Senior’ gives an old feeling. You look at every one as immature, young, baby like and talk also like an old man with all the standard phrases of 'when i was young...'...'During those days...'...'My younger days were....' etc. I felt this had been aging me faster!!!...so felt it is a better and earlier realisation than later or never!!
Same time my promotions came to a stand still. My juniors started getting promoted. I started addressing them sir. I could easily do this as I did not have that ‘Senior’ ego!!...They liked it as their ego of becoming senior was getting satisfied. As they felt great and a sense of achievement. They probably felt 'i have made my senior to address me sir!'. They reciprocated my greetings with a good smile and every time i addressed them ‘sir’ with respect and associated body gestures, their happiness multiplied. I also felt happy that i made some one happy. It is a ‘social exercise’ which is required for keeping our social health good, like physical and mental exercises for physical and mental health.
Every year some got promoted. They became seniors, older and more egoistic. I started becoming learned, matured, younger and younger every year. Started feeling less egoistic, more happier, more sense of freedom.
During the last 15 years even the fresh recruits of my “Senior” times have become senior to me now!!...Those whom I promoted them from clerical grade to Officer grade have crossed me and have become my seniors!!!...(of course, all of them have that potential to grow!!)…I am able to address all of them Sir…many wonder how I am able to do that…probably they might feel I don’t have Izzat or Rosham or a feeling of ‘Self’ ‘Me’ ‘I’ etc…some might also be feeling ‘he is a fool or idiot’ to address the old time juniors also saying ‘Sir’…but my side of feeling is to be felt to understand how cool it is!!!
Slowly i felt i am becoming learned. I started becoming calmer, peaceful, better regulation of mind and this realisation gave me a feeling of enlightenment about life, living, relationships, authority, power, fame etc. I started understanding many management and leadership principles from this self-actualized feeling.
My principles that 'Life is a process of learning, maturing, evolving, adapting, developing' got reinforced further.
One good college friend of mine keeps galloping and getting promoted. I keep telling him jovially 'sir, you keep getting promoted, going up with more and more authority and power...more and more egoistic...I keep becoming younger and younger every year with more people going above me, i keep becoming learned, matured, enlightened and mentally strong, becoming calm and peaceful and radiating the same to all...'...He gives a meaningful smile and moves on!!!
so the crux is....
1. Life is not a 100 metre dash...to run with anxiety all the time
2. It is a journey of learning, branching out, growing like a banyan tree where many birds can come and learn, many can come under the shade and get enlightened
3. We need to enjoy the process more than the product
4. Life is all about maturing, evolving, developing, enjoying each moment, being more with nature, being in the present all the time (Meditative living)
5. Not being a ‘Milk Man’ of Milking Cows (subordinates)…grooming the subordinates and making them work from within with interest and self motivation, self driven, with involvement, creativity, fun, enjoyment, without stress, without anxiety, with a feeling of ‘work is worship’…’work place is heaven’
6. Throw away that negative ego…it is sooooo easy to tame and regulate the mind for various positive energies!!
peacefully yours...rams...health psychologist....
about 15 years back I served in an organisation where I was the senior most next to the boss. All others were junior to me by about 5 years and more. Lots of authority and power. I was looked up as a very senior person!!!...haa..haa..haa..sema gethhu!! (winking)
When I went on transfer to the next organisation I was the junior most with every one senior to me by about 10 years!!...So, I was looked down upon as a junior person, a baby!!! (all gethhu gone!!!....kaathhu pona balloon maathiri!!)
This gave me a realization in life that authority, power and the related ego is all waste and only ruins the mental, physical and social health of an individual. So, I threw away what ever residual ego I had due to the traditional hierarchical organisation structures we have and felt a great freedom.
Felt cool, calm, relieved. Could easily do meditation. Could easily be in the ‘present’. So, ego is a heavy, painful, idiotic, irrelevant, burden which we are carrying!!...this does not allow us to be close with people physically, mentally and emotionally, does not allow us to be in the PRESENT moments, gives us anxiety, gives us anger, rigidity, ‘zero error’ syndrome, strictness, stiffness…builds a rigid wall between us and rest of the world at home, office, society everywhere...and we lose people, relationships, happy moments....wofffffffff….too much!!
I felt much younger when i threw away the ego of being senior. ‘Senior’ gives an old feeling. You look at every one as immature, young, baby like and talk also like an old man with all the standard phrases of 'when i was young...'...'During those days...'...'My younger days were....' etc. I felt this had been aging me faster!!!...so felt it is a better and earlier realisation than later or never!!
Same time my promotions came to a stand still. My juniors started getting promoted. I started addressing them sir. I could easily do this as I did not have that ‘Senior’ ego!!...They liked it as their ego of becoming senior was getting satisfied. As they felt great and a sense of achievement. They probably felt 'i have made my senior to address me sir!'. They reciprocated my greetings with a good smile and every time i addressed them ‘sir’ with respect and associated body gestures, their happiness multiplied. I also felt happy that i made some one happy. It is a ‘social exercise’ which is required for keeping our social health good, like physical and mental exercises for physical and mental health.
Every year some got promoted. They became seniors, older and more egoistic. I started becoming learned, matured, younger and younger every year. Started feeling less egoistic, more happier, more sense of freedom.
During the last 15 years even the fresh recruits of my “Senior” times have become senior to me now!!...Those whom I promoted them from clerical grade to Officer grade have crossed me and have become my seniors!!!...(of course, all of them have that potential to grow!!)…I am able to address all of them Sir…many wonder how I am able to do that…probably they might feel I don’t have Izzat or Rosham or a feeling of ‘Self’ ‘Me’ ‘I’ etc…some might also be feeling ‘he is a fool or idiot’ to address the old time juniors also saying ‘Sir’…but my side of feeling is to be felt to understand how cool it is!!!
Slowly i felt i am becoming learned. I started becoming calmer, peaceful, better regulation of mind and this realisation gave me a feeling of enlightenment about life, living, relationships, authority, power, fame etc. I started understanding many management and leadership principles from this self-actualized feeling.
My principles that 'Life is a process of learning, maturing, evolving, adapting, developing' got reinforced further.
One good college friend of mine keeps galloping and getting promoted. I keep telling him jovially 'sir, you keep getting promoted, going up with more and more authority and power...more and more egoistic...I keep becoming younger and younger every year with more people going above me, i keep becoming learned, matured, enlightened and mentally strong, becoming calm and peaceful and radiating the same to all...'...He gives a meaningful smile and moves on!!!
so the crux is....
1. Life is not a 100 metre dash...to run with anxiety all the time
2. It is a journey of learning, branching out, growing like a banyan tree where many birds can come and learn, many can come under the shade and get enlightened
3. We need to enjoy the process more than the product
4. Life is all about maturing, evolving, developing, enjoying each moment, being more with nature, being in the present all the time (Meditative living)
5. Not being a ‘Milk Man’ of Milking Cows (subordinates)…grooming the subordinates and making them work from within with interest and self motivation, self driven, with involvement, creativity, fun, enjoyment, without stress, without anxiety, with a feeling of ‘work is worship’…’work place is heaven’
6. Throw away that negative ego…it is sooooo easy to tame and regulate the mind for various positive energies!!
peacefully yours...rams...health psychologist....
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