THIS IS FOR ALL WHO WANT TO BE SUCCESSFUL IN THEIR LOVE LIFE WITH WIFE OR LOVER!!

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL WHO WANT TO BE SUCCESSFUL IN THEIR LOVE LIFE WITH WIFE OR LOVER!!

Belief and faiths become bedrock of our definition of life!!

What ever knowledge or wisdom or philosophy that is available on earth can be divided into two categories:-

(1) Proven by science
(2) Not proven by science

Those proven by science are indisputable (till they are disproved which generally takes decades by which time our life will get over!!). They are universally accepted by all, and same, irrespective of the person, place and time (past, present and future) as they are proven by all possible methods.

So, if two people join together who believe in or those whose definition of life or living is based on proven facts, then they will have common understanding, common back bone of life, there will be no disagreements, fights, arguments and resultant relationship failures, head aches, anger, frustration, sadness and related damages in life and living. They will always discuss issues where the issue takes the priority or merit and come to common consensus.

When our life is based on things not proven by science, then every one has different feelings, perceptions, beliefs, understanding and conviction. They are FELT things. Every one feels them differently and explains differently. No one can prove as they are not proven. They are only beliefs and faiths. So, one will not be able to convince the other or prove to the other. They will always land up in arguments and fights. "I am right/correct/true!" EGO only will be there in the front and the issue will take back seat. They will never be able to peacefully discuss. So, they will always have fights, disagreements, no or less satisfaction in relationships, even physical intimacies. This will go worse if a person is obsessed with his or her beliefs and faiths!!

If the other person also feels the same or accepts the faiths, beliefs and feelings of the other person, respects it, though there is a difference of opinion (i.e accepting the person as he is or as she is!...or agree to disagree...) and both of them come to a common understanding that both will follow their faiths and beliefs without the interference of one on the other, keep HUMANISM above their beliefs, give priority to their relationship more than their obsession on their beliefs, then they can live together peacefully. Otherwise it can result in catastrophic failure!!

But every one has faiths and beliefs which are mixture of both. i.e some are scientifically proven and some are not. In such cases the percentage of proven should be more than the unproven, between their beliefs. Then they can easily compromise or sacrifice for each other without much of losses and stresses/strain. Else compromising or sacrificing becomes stressful...less or more!!

Therefore, the crux is...

1. Adaptability should be groomed from childhood.
2. Rigidity, strictness on the name of Discipline should be avoided.
3. Flexibility should be groomed in us and children.
4. Humanism is superior and more important than all other 'isms' which have a Pandoras box full of faiths and beliefs. Our life and peaceful living with others at home, relative circles, organisations, society, city, state and country is more important than anything else under the sky!!
5. People and our relationships with others are more important than anything.
6. Difference of opinion and resultant stresses and strains in relationships will be less, adaptability is easy, compromises and sacrifices are cool, losses are less if people have more percentage of faiths and beliefs which are based on scientifically proven facts.
7. So, before falling in love or before marriage discuss these beliefs and faiths and check out.

Peacefully yours...rams...psychologist!!