Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...
How to keep a relationship young, always thrilling, life long and not boring???
A person gets attracted towards another person for 'a feeling of goodness!!'...this could be out of anything.
When this is out of something 'which is changing' as we age or grow or mature etc, e.g interests and likings related to some age...then the common ground on which the relationship rests vanishes!!
If it is related to a personality which also changes with age, then also the common ground for socialization vanishes!!...e.g being a child like. when we find a person innocent, child like, cute, down to earth, we get attracted and go in relationship. But with ageing, if that person changes due to 'responsibility' anxieties or 'i have to behave with respect to my age!!' concept, then he or she loses the child in him or her, loses cuteness, loses the beauty, then the intense interactions in the relationship goes off.
If the relationship is committed relationship like marriage, then they spend their most of the time in things which are not common to them. They just remain to be friends in some domain or live together for kids or society sake. The intense socialisation vanishes.
If it is not a committed relationship then it might remain to be an acquaintance or contact without any interaction or with some 'good morning' 'good evening' 'good night' messages.
But if both of them decide to be dwelling in child ego always, above the responsibility anxieties, above the age related behaviours, if they love each other for this domain of their personality...then there is no way that the relationship can strain or vanish or intense interactions can reduce!!...Such a relationship can live for entire life time with lots of fun, excitements and thrills always!!
So, be a child like, and make and teach your partner also to be a child like always, irrespective of responsibilities and age!!
Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!
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