Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...
Our definitions about many issues in life is wrong...that is why we land up in problems, loose peace, happiness and good health.
one e.g is the word BEAUTIFUL!!
As i have always been saying...we have only two things...1. Body...2. Mind.
Anything that arouses these two, we call it as BEAUTIFUL!!
Anything that arouses our body...we call it beautiful!!...e.g the boy who goes to see his life mate, declares her beautiful, if she is arousing his body. Is there any one who agrees to marry any girl who does not arouse him sexually?....In case he feels that he can not have a sexual urge with any girl, will he agree to marry?...Yes, she might arouse his mind, and he might say she is beautiful, but he will not agree to marry, or remain in a confused state, what to say?...will i get aroused later?...Should i agree? etc.
This is how we make matches (no wonder we get dissatisfaction in this domain, which is vital and natural need!!)...of course, we look at various other things of the family etc...so, our marriages are mainly a family affair and not an individual affair. The boy agrees if he gets aroused, and in many cases they lose that arousal slowly, gradually and steadily as children are born and the lady goes out of shape and when she starts saying 'yenna nethu thaan kalyaanam aachhaa?...puthusaa kalyanam aana ponna!!....vayasaachhilla...kolanthainga yellaam valarnthiduchilla!!"...and when she starts exhibiting the age related behaviours...when she looses that appearance and cuteness...ie after few years (roughly 10 years after both of them know what they have and what they are capable of doing in romance, physical intimacies and related behaviours!). So, no wonder most of the marriages here remain for society sake, family sake and children sake and we call it successful!!
Of course, one can feel contented and fulfilled and feel happy, though not satisfied in physical intimacies, that 'she/he gave me a family. Gave me my children. Gave me a life. Gave me social acceptance and status. I have a family because of him/her. i am grateful for that. She/he is my god...great friend!! I am always indebted for that!!'...This way also a person can be perceived beautiful...this beauty arouses the mind!!
There are many things that can arouse our mind!!...anything in Nature, knowledge, wisdom, etc. Then also we feel beautiful. Things which arouse us in mind...like Nature etc, also can create a romantic mood in us...and arouse us...may or may not be sexually!!
Mind arousal can give both pleasure and happiness and can remain everlasting in life!!....so, if our life mate can arouse us in both mind and body then life can be thrilling for entire life, and relationship will be all rocking!!
Innocence is beautiful...it is a beautiful personality trait...it makes a person cute, it is beyond age and appearance, it makes us to fall in obsession with that person, then everything of that person, everything that person does...all appear beautiful to us!!...it first arouses the brain...the mind...then it arouses the body too...so, it gives both happiness and pleasure!!
So, innocence arouses both body and mind, it makes us to perceive everything of that person to be beautiful for ever, irrespective of the age, it helps to perceive many relationships with that person!!
Therefore, the crux is...if one gets a life partner, who is innocent, makes a fulfilling family life, then the person can be beautiful beyond age and physical appearance, and that person can arouse the mind and body for entire life!!
So, be innocent...be a family maker...(family can be with or without children, as per the definitions of both of them!)
Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!
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