a comparison between US and India! (with respect to grooming of children)

hai all...how are we???

in US a thirteen year old girl or boy is groomed to an extent of making their own decisions in most of the life events...they are capable of deciding their destiny...

in india parents say like this...(common for both genders)

at 15 year old 'kid'..."oh! she is child! what does she know!"

at 30 years while seeing a match for marriage..."what does he know! he is a small boy! we only have to look for a girl for him!"...to the other party "oh, our son is a good boy. He will listen to us. We need not ask him. You go ahead with the marriage arrangements!"

after marriage...."She is an innocent girl! Can get cheated easily. Let us go and check up what they are doing!"

at the age of 55..."what does he know!...we only have to do something for our grand daughter. She is ready for marriage!"

I don't know what our parents do?...they keep saying they are grooming their children...to be good and with value systems...but for what?...all organisms prepare their off springs to get their own food and protect them from enemies...are we not preparing our off springs to decide their own destiny and live a life on their own...how long we will keep thinking that 'he (or she) does not know anything and we only have to do everything!"...how long we will keep thinking that "we have a responsibility to look after our kids!"...when will they look after themselves?...when will they grow?...

Will there be any time in india when the children can do their chores, prepare their own food, keep their living room neat and hygienic, wash their own clothes and make it ready, select their own school, subjects, friends, college, course, job, life mate, place of living etc etc.?????

a comment received is...

Actually I think some parents don't want to detach themselves from their children, no matter how old the children get! Such parents tend to brain wash the kids into believing that they cannot make any decisions for themselves! I had an uncle who always was the 'authoritative' figure deciding everything for all his kids, never asking for their opinions and inputs. So his children grew up with absolutely zero decision making skills and doubting their own skills and abilities for the rest of their lives! How can the children become self confident and reach their full potential if they are led to believe that they cannot make any good decisions about their own life? Usually with great freedom, comes great responsibility!

keep rocking guys!

rams