hai all...here are some more views about love from people world over...but from experts who have researched on this topic...of course, some non research material is also there...
the reason we incarnate here is because earth is the school where we come to learn love.
Love is the symptom of relating on a deep, authentic and meaningful level.
Love is a temporary infatuation between two or more individuals taking to the proximity of mental sickness. For some it is a infatuated habit where love arise, dies and again arise.
yes...it is a temporary one till the end need is achieved. Once done, for some, it changes over to another person...for some it remains with the same person till that person seizes to become a 'source of happiness through love'...infatuation remains at body level...after socialisation if personality attributes are also matched and liked then it remains for more time...till the match goes off due to varied needs as we grow...maslows theory of hierarchy of needs...the needs do not remain the same for both the people always. For one it might change to higher level earlier than the other.
'love is not an emotion. Love is life!'
Infatuation comes to a school boy towards a young school girl...why it does not come looking at an old lady?...he loves his grandmother or any other old lady...but no changes happen inside or outside his body...heart beat does not increase...but looking at a young beautiful girl there are changes inside and outside his body...so, as you rightly said it is towards acts of procreation...the way mother nature ensures progeny to continue...of course, nature is so strong that it drives the id of the boy to 'do anything' towards satisfying or gratifying his id needs...procreation needs...it makes him to become mentally ill, or ego and superego components get suppressed by id to an extent that he can kill the girl, commit suicide or kill any one who is abstructing him to achieve his id needs, obsessed with the girl etc...hmmm...no wonder nature is god!
how would you define if the other person loves another person too at the same deep, authentic and meaningful level?...we might get this love for another person. But that person also should get the same level with us...is it not?...what is the guarantee?
now here is something from a famous personality....
“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more.
You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself.
Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around.
You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever.
Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant.
Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all.
A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby.
Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do.
Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible.
You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you.
You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile.
Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.”
― Bob Marley
i think presence or absence of sex in the relationship brings the difference in different types of love that we experience...for e.g father, mother, grandfather, grand mother and siblings are the relationships where sex can not exist...if it exists then i think it is referred as 'mental health' problem with one or both the people involved.
Sex can exist in any other type of love. Also it is not mandatory to be present in these types of relationships (i.e relatives, friends etc). Also sex need not be present in a love to experience it to the most.
as long as love does not affect a person's normal living...i.e ability to do the daily chores, then the individual is regarded as mentally healthy...happiness, physical, mental and social health and success...when it affects his or others' life then the individual is regarded as having mental health problem.
i think in any love there is an element of expectation and possessiveness...when it goes beyond the ability of the other person to provide the 'love resources', that is the breaking point of happiness in love when both the people involved start feeling miserable, angry, frustrated, unhappy, cheated...i.e all 'negative emotions' that can be felt by a human being!..they might still be in love. But happiness may not exist.
If the people involved have very high Emotional Quotient and Spiritual Quotient, then probably they will understand the limitations in the 'resources', 'ability' and the oppurtunities in providing the resources and still be happy within the 'love envelope' between the two.
ok guys and gals...keep rocking!...more later...bye...
rams
the reason we incarnate here is because earth is the school where we come to learn love.
Love is the symptom of relating on a deep, authentic and meaningful level.
Love is a temporary infatuation between two or more individuals taking to the proximity of mental sickness. For some it is a infatuated habit where love arise, dies and again arise.
yes...it is a temporary one till the end need is achieved. Once done, for some, it changes over to another person...for some it remains with the same person till that person seizes to become a 'source of happiness through love'...infatuation remains at body level...after socialisation if personality attributes are also matched and liked then it remains for more time...till the match goes off due to varied needs as we grow...maslows theory of hierarchy of needs...the needs do not remain the same for both the people always. For one it might change to higher level earlier than the other.
'love is not an emotion. Love is life!'
Infatuation comes to a school boy towards a young school girl...why it does not come looking at an old lady?...he loves his grandmother or any other old lady...but no changes happen inside or outside his body...heart beat does not increase...but looking at a young beautiful girl there are changes inside and outside his body...so, as you rightly said it is towards acts of procreation...the way mother nature ensures progeny to continue...of course, nature is so strong that it drives the id of the boy to 'do anything' towards satisfying or gratifying his id needs...procreation needs...it makes him to become mentally ill, or ego and superego components get suppressed by id to an extent that he can kill the girl, commit suicide or kill any one who is abstructing him to achieve his id needs, obsessed with the girl etc...hmmm...no wonder nature is god!
how would you define if the other person loves another person too at the same deep, authentic and meaningful level?...we might get this love for another person. But that person also should get the same level with us...is it not?...what is the guarantee?
now here is something from a famous personality....
“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more.
You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself.
Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around.
You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever.
Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant.
Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all.
A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby.
Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do.
Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible.
You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you.
You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile.
Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.”
― Bob Marley
i think presence or absence of sex in the relationship brings the difference in different types of love that we experience...for e.g father, mother, grandfather, grand mother and siblings are the relationships where sex can not exist...if it exists then i think it is referred as 'mental health' problem with one or both the people involved.
Sex can exist in any other type of love. Also it is not mandatory to be present in these types of relationships (i.e relatives, friends etc). Also sex need not be present in a love to experience it to the most.
as long as love does not affect a person's normal living...i.e ability to do the daily chores, then the individual is regarded as mentally healthy...happiness, physical, mental and social health and success...when it affects his or others' life then the individual is regarded as having mental health problem.
i think in any love there is an element of expectation and possessiveness...when it goes beyond the ability of the other person to provide the 'love resources', that is the breaking point of happiness in love when both the people involved start feeling miserable, angry, frustrated, unhappy, cheated...i.e all 'negative emotions' that can be felt by a human being!..they might still be in love. But happiness may not exist.
If the people involved have very high Emotional Quotient and Spiritual Quotient, then probably they will understand the limitations in the 'resources', 'ability' and the oppurtunities in providing the resources and still be happy within the 'love envelope' between the two.
ok guys and gals...keep rocking!...more later...bye...
rams
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