Should we work with a boss who is our college mate or room mate or class mate or hostel mate in the same organisation?

hai guys...

All of us study in colleges, get job at some place...and at the work place some times our close friend, college friend, room mate, class mate becomes our boss...we would have ‘cheers’ed the glasses with him...slept on the same bed...watched the same ’movie’...shared the shirt, smoke, sips etc...

Now what happens in an organisational environment...

If two close friends become ‘boss-subordinate’ either their friendship will suffer or official relationship will suffer. Both can not remain bang on. So, it is better to leave the organisation or section or department and work for a different boss.

This is because our expectations from a relationship called ‘friend’ is different from our expectations from a relationship called ‘boss’ or ‘subordinate’. Boss, subordinate, friend are different social statuses. The roles are different. Responsibilities are different. So, are the expectations.

When he behaves like a boss, you will see or expect him to be your friend, and therefore you may not like his way of talking, behaving, body gestures etc. When he behaves like your friend the bossy guy will expect him to behave like a subordinate.

I have seen that people are unable to handle both roles effectively. i.e ‘boss’ and ‘friendship role’ by one guy. ‘subordinate’ and ‘friendship’ role by the other guy.

now the comments....

• uncle in my point of view..a friend is one who respects his friend when he is his boss or a begger or watever he may be!!!!bcoz he is also a important person who knows the struggle, hardships his friend had gone through to reach a high position in his or her life......!but if a friend is turning to foe after he or she is becoming boss then it is not the meaning of true friendship.....

   

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• hai ...thank you for the comment...I understand what you are saying...in any organisation the boss is expected to meet some functional goals...he expects his subordinates to meet some targets...so, he expects his friend under him also to swing and rise up to the required level of performance...it is the 'way' in which he makes the friend-subordinate to work that matters...he can talk in a hurtful or not-hurtful way...it also depends upon how the subordinate perceives.....the subordinate also has to understand the role of a boss, the role of a subordinate and work accordingly without thinking that 'he is my friend, how can he handle me or treat me like that etc'...in an organisation every one is same...boss can not treat the friend-subordinate in a special manner...whereas the 'friend-subordinate might expect him to give him special concessions, treatments and a soft eye which is not possible...in a nut shell both have to understand that in an organisational context they are boss and subordinate...and outside the organisation they are just friends...problem will come if they expect the other to behave like a 'friend inside work premises' and the boss guy 'bosses' out side the organisation also....why all these hassles....it is better they work separately in different organisations...the friendship will survive...out of the two roles I think both should give importance to the 'friendship' role, as it is permanent for life....organisational role will come and go...it is short lived...

   

  rams