Hai all...how are weeeeeeeeeeee? (smile)
hmmmm....what is beautiful to some one is not to some other...same way what is love for one is not love for the other...that is why so many definitions of love and we are discussing it!
attraction towards opposite sex is termed as infatuation...it can happen to any one at any age...so, not just for children...it is not termed as love, whether it comes at 12 years of age or 40 or 50 or even 80 years of age...if it has only sex element...but how to know whether that attraction is for sex or real love...some who love at young age remain together with intense love till end of life...some leave once the physical attraction goes, indicating that it is only sexual attraction...the thing is, whether it happens for a boy or a grown up man or lady, how they will know that it is only infatuation and not real love, after messing it up?
"few years back when both worked outside home and inside home, they might have been just OK...ask them...they would say how hard it was and what all they lost!...romance in house chores does not last long...after some time both feel there is no more romance in that and it is a drudgery...
by the way, (haa...haa...when one question gets answered many questions arise!...of course, that is what has made me to put up this question for discussion!)
Is 'sacrifices and compromises love'? (how is that?...LBNL...Laughing But Not Louder!) "
"...nature has not made the statement 'man is the bread winner!'....it has produced both equal, but we made this statement, as if man is superior to woman, which is not true, so it has failed...at the time of change over from 'food gatherer' to 'food producer' when society, social systems, family etc formed we made this demarkation of jobs and responsibilities...that 'man will work outside the house' and 'woman will remain with sinks and bathrooms!'...though both worked in farms initially...nature has proved that we are wrong...by way of recession and takign away the job of a man...nature wins...we have to accept that we are wrong in many ways!...let us redefine things for the betterment of the future generations!"
"in india too it is girs every where now at univs and work places...good change!...they must be feeling liberated as they were confined inside the houses for many decades!
for a teen or before teen boy or girl the body of opposite sex and the transformations turn him awe, shows his or her gynac system is fully developed (for a girl partially...nature is bad in this...it makes her ready to get pregnant but the parts inside associated with uterus etc are not!...nature needs to be kicked for this...not only this, for making only women to suffer (or enjoy) pregnancy and not men, also the nature needs a kick!...it needs a kick for some more on this 'love and sex' issue...which we will see tomorrow!...so, nature drives the gynaec systems for testing...this is understandable.
But for people over 30s to 80s?...it is need for affiliation, attention, emotional support...what else?...so it more for this and of course leading to sexual gratification too!
anyway...it is not saturation of infatuation...still more to come on infatuation!...bye!"
hmmmm....what is beautiful to some one is not to some other...same way what is love for one is not love for the other...that is why so many definitions of love and we are discussing it!
attraction towards opposite sex is termed as infatuation...it can happen to any one at any age...so, not just for children...it is not termed as love, whether it comes at 12 years of age or 40 or 50 or even 80 years of age...if it has only sex element...but how to know whether that attraction is for sex or real love...some who love at young age remain together with intense love till end of life...some leave once the physical attraction goes, indicating that it is only sexual attraction...the thing is, whether it happens for a boy or a grown up man or lady, how they will know that it is only infatuation and not real love, after messing it up?
"few years back when both worked outside home and inside home, they might have been just OK...ask them...they would say how hard it was and what all they lost!...romance in house chores does not last long...after some time both feel there is no more romance in that and it is a drudgery...
by the way, (haa...haa...when one question gets answered many questions arise!...of course, that is what has made me to put up this question for discussion!)
Is 'sacrifices and compromises love'? (how is that?...LBNL...Laughing But Not Louder!) "
"...nature has not made the statement 'man is the bread winner!'....it has produced both equal, but we made this statement, as if man is superior to woman, which is not true, so it has failed...at the time of change over from 'food gatherer' to 'food producer' when society, social systems, family etc formed we made this demarkation of jobs and responsibilities...that 'man will work outside the house' and 'woman will remain with sinks and bathrooms!'...though both worked in farms initially...nature has proved that we are wrong...by way of recession and takign away the job of a man...nature wins...we have to accept that we are wrong in many ways!...let us redefine things for the betterment of the future generations!"
"in india too it is girs every where now at univs and work places...good change!...they must be feeling liberated as they were confined inside the houses for many decades!
for a teen or before teen boy or girl the body of opposite sex and the transformations turn him awe, shows his or her gynac system is fully developed (for a girl partially...nature is bad in this...it makes her ready to get pregnant but the parts inside associated with uterus etc are not!...nature needs to be kicked for this...not only this, for making only women to suffer (or enjoy) pregnancy and not men, also the nature needs a kick!...it needs a kick for some more on this 'love and sex' issue...which we will see tomorrow!...so, nature drives the gynaec systems for testing...this is understandable.
But for people over 30s to 80s?...it is need for affiliation, attention, emotional support...what else?...so it more for this and of course leading to sexual gratification too!
anyway...it is not saturation of infatuation...still more to come on infatuation!...bye!"
all organisms forget the relationships of mother and child once the off springs become independent...the mother does not recognise the child and child does not recognise the mother...so, there is no possessivenes...but in the case of human beings we don't forget and feel possessive about our children, spouse and assets...most of our problems are due to possessiveness...id drives...possessiveness does not allow!...again stress!
why did nature give the urge to have multiple sexual relationships?...why did it give us possessiveness?...why did it give the sixth sense when it comes to sexual relationships?
Oh Nature, My god!...you don't want us to live peacefully or what?...you want to kill us or what?...then why did you produce us?...to fight, to cry and die!...LOL!
why i brought this issue is 'love and sex' are related...though only love can exist, lonly sex can exist or both love and sex can coexist, even if they coexist for how long?...we are unable to identify the feeling of attraction whether it is due to love or sex...only after some time, after the damages are done we realise what is what!
by the way...the next question is 'Does innocence stimulate love in other person?'...e.g an infant's smile stimulates love in us...any innocent person attracts another human being."