Thursday, 24 September 2015

Are our parents and teachers grooming the children correctly for social living in this world?

Dear all...there are many parents who grow their children keeping them away from the children of opposite sexes...there are many schools and colleges also who ensure that the girls and boys sit separately on either side of the class room...there are hundreds of rules sand regulations which microscopically bring out the dos and don'ts between girls and boys...they are scared if something sexually will go wrong between them...

they need to know what are they preparing the children and students for?

they need to know that both sexes need to coexist from childhood to death.

the world is full of and several kinds of social systems where they have to understand each other, adapt, coexist and make the aims and goals of the social organisations met e.g family, office, etc.

proper development, aging, maturing, evolving of the individual happens only when both coexist...

most of the families now are single child families...therefore it is imperative that parents, teachers, school and college administration ensure that they adequately mingle, work together, spend social times together, understand each other sexes and mature in life...

growing is the process of preparing the children for 'life on earth'

1. to marry and coexist in a family living

2. to know the needs and expectations of opposite sexes, respect each other, nurture each other, learn the social dynamics etc in practical life situations both at home and office environments

3. to have good friends for life (but they feel only husband or wife should be the close friend and not others which is not sufficient in society full of nuclear families)

4. to successfully perform in organisations as members and leaders of teams, groups and projects.
making them physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and socially strong, making them confident in decision making on life issues, exposing them to all the knowledge and experiences on relationships, life, living etc, making them to do social service every day for few minutes, self regulating through learning and healthy life styles is the way to ensure physical and mental safety of the individual...separating them physically, mentally and socially is not the solution....it will only result in opposite effect...as we are working against Nature!!

many think that everything will become alright after they get married or join organisations...which is not true...they will be head ache for themselves and others for life time...there is no point in blaming them later that they don't know how to live and adjust

many a times we find students very good in academics but very poor in social adaptation or social adjustments...the students are rigid and timid and are unfit and not employable in the present organizational environment...

when students or married people come for counseling we can clearly make out that they have not matured and evolved properly due to lack of opportunities for social learning during childhood and adolescent period....they are not ready for a married life...love life...organizational team working...correcting later becomes problematic...as social learning at the age of 30s and 40s is too late...when the organism has grown rigid and not flexible...with so many egos....

so, i wish the parents, teachers and administrators change their policies and make their children and students successful in their profession and life...

hihihi...and bring less job to psychiatrists and psychologists.....

peacefully yours...rams...health psychologist....

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