Hai all…What is the way out for this girl?.... she tells like this...
“sir, I have a problem. Kinddddddddly help me!!...two years back I joined the college and opened a FB account to have friends. Initially I had only my classmates. One of my classmate’s friend’s friend sent a friend request and I accepted it. We used to share and like each other’s posts. Then we started chatting. Then we started talking on telephone. I slowly started loving him. Our families came to know about us. He is from a different religion. So, parents are not agreeing. There have been many attempts by our parents to stop this relationship. I have made few suicide attempts also on this issue. I can’t live without him.
Initially he used to chat and talk with me only. After some time I observed him to be chatting with girls all over the world. When I ask him he will delete the chat messages. He repeatedly said he loves only me but talks to other girls also just like a friend. Sometimes his brother called me up and said he does not love me and it is only a time pass. When I asked him he said nothing like that and it is just that his family is trying to break our relationship with all such things. Slowly he stopped attending to my calls. He never came on chat also. When I ask him he says he is busy and at home surrounded by people. He never calls up. I only have to call him. After two or three days of trying he attends to my call, says busy and cuts off. Whereas I find him on FB all the time and chatting with others.
I feel miserable when I have not spoken to him in a day. My chest pains. My stomach pains. I feel totally down and unable to attend the classes. My attendance is so low that I may not be able to write the semester exams. I often feel that there is no point in living. Every one is a cheater here.
I can’t trust anyone. Lovers of my friends and hostel mates come often and spend time with them. This guy never comes. Says the train journey takes 8 hours. Sir, tell me, is 8 hours a big time to see his lover? Many a times I have cried asking him to come but he has no feelings towards me. But he says he loves me a lot. I don’t know what sort of a love is this! Though the hostel does not permit I have only gone to see him for just few minutes and suffered all the disciplinary issues after returning back. When I threatened once that I will commit suicide if he does not come then he came once.
Yesterday when I called up and asked him to come to see me, he started saying ‘Listen yaar. I never loved you. I just was a usual fb friend. But you only forced me to chat, email and talk and threatened me. My friends also told me that if you commit suicide then I will be put behind the bars. So I got scared and said I am in love etc. But your torture has been increasing and it is affecting my peace. I also have to move ahead in my life. So, please understand that I am just your friend and not a lover etc. So, don’t dream too much!!’…sir, I don’t know what to do…I never expected that he will ditch me like this!!...I can’t think of my life without him. I feel like ending my life. I am ready to do anything and ready to sacrifice anything for him. Please tell me what to do sir!!’
I am sure there must be thousands of boys and girls like this in colleges...
I only get a big hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm when i hear such things....
What is the way out???????????????????????????????
peacefully yours....rams....Health psychologist...
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