Life skills....Understanding Adolescence....Part I

Hai all...something from the Power Point Presentation i have on "Life skills - Understanding Adolescence"...

If a teen age person is in trouble then who is at fault?

We, the parents are responsible

For not understanding adolescence, having been an adolescent once!

For not knowing how to groom children helping them to think, be creative, find solutions for life problems, design their life, make their own beliefs, behaviours, value systems, select their subject of study, make their career and win in life.

For being ‘controlling and spoon feeding’ parents rather than being ‘mentoring parents’

For grooming children with ‘fear and dependence’ and not ‘brave and confidence’

For forming a society with wrong stereotypes about adolescents.

For forming a wrong culture where ‘we are shy to teach our children those which we fear about that our children will get spoiled or cheated’ and making adolescents ‘unguided missiles’.

For creating a ‘social envelope’ with our children with a big and strong dividing wall, clear boundaries, across which both the parties keep fighting with their weapons…with love and hatred…being friends and enemies…

Parents want children to be ‘like them’!

We are responsible for not knowing how to handle ‘puppies’ and ‘cats’

For not knowing how to ‘go with them’ and achieving goals, as goals of both parties the same!

Boys run behind girls! Girls chase the boys!...parents and teachers run behind both!

Aims of all four are the same!

Parents and teachers want…good in education…good value systems…good job…girls also want only these three from boys.

We make them confused-’Behave yourself! You are no more a child!...You are grown up’

‘hey! You don’t know anything about life! Better listen to us!’

We are responsible for not creating an atmosphere at home for selecting the course, behaviours, career and life liked by parents.

For not creating a good culture and habits with yoga, meditation and other physical and mental behaviours leading to high EQ, SQ in addition to IQ.

For not teaching how to ensure the urges are less.

For not teaching how to handle the physical and mental urges within the legal, social and value boundaries.

For not teaching healthy way of creating and handling relationships with same and opposite sex of any age.

For not giving proper sex education-making them to learn from friends and net.

We think we know everything about our kids. Truth is we don’t know many things.

We decide their everything, whereas they don’t like anything of that everything.

For creating a culture based on ‘reproduction and rearing’ rather than ‘learning the life and nature, while being with them entire life and enjoy!’

ohhhh...the post has become sooo long...so i stop here...and more later....

piece piece aa yours....rams....adolescent psychologist (??)