Dear all...Marriages can 1.survive 2. Exist 3. Live
Depending upon
1. Satiation of needs and expectations…they can be served without love also…(exist)…
Depending upon
1. Satiation of needs and expectations…they can be served without love also…(exist)…
2. For the sake of children (survive) or parents
3. Fear of society (exist /survive)
4. To avoid turbulence in professional, personal, family, spiritual and family life (survive/exist)
5. Feeling of ‘I want my better half to be happy!’ (live)
6. Fear of insecurity (financial, legal, emotional, social, physical, mental etc) (survive/exist)
Of course, situations where in combination of one or more of the above can also exist…anything more??
So, when people come with marital problems I look for presence of any of these…even if one is present then we can save that marriage…i.e at least we can make them to survive or exist within four walls (who knows, time can make them to live also!!)…
but if none of them is present, then we can not make them join…and of course, time is the best healer and judge…changing life situations, interests, needs and expectations with age might change their perceptions and make wonders and miracles in their relationships, without even the intervention of a counselor…only thing is they should have the patience!!...
when more options are available people will not have patience to wait and will end the relationship!!
so, it is soooooooooooooooo easy to do counseling!!! (haa.haa..haa!!)
peacefully yours....rams....health psychologist...
3. Fear of society (exist /survive)
4. To avoid turbulence in professional, personal, family, spiritual and family life (survive/exist)
5. Feeling of ‘I want my better half to be happy!’ (live)
6. Fear of insecurity (financial, legal, emotional, social, physical, mental etc) (survive/exist)
Of course, situations where in combination of one or more of the above can also exist…anything more??
So, when people come with marital problems I look for presence of any of these…even if one is present then we can save that marriage…i.e at least we can make them to survive or exist within four walls (who knows, time can make them to live also!!)…
but if none of them is present, then we can not make them join…and of course, time is the best healer and judge…changing life situations, interests, needs and expectations with age might change their perceptions and make wonders and miracles in their relationships, without even the intervention of a counselor…only thing is they should have the patience!!...
when more options are available people will not have patience to wait and will end the relationship!!
so, it is soooooooooooooooo easy to do counseling!!! (haa.haa..haa!!)
peacefully yours....rams....health psychologist...
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