Is it wiser to look for soulmates and life mates on fb?

Hai all...other day a college girl was talking to me and enjoying about my motivational speech...i told her to read my posts in facebook...she said 'Sir, i have already got a lover through facebook. So, i don't need it any more!!'

So, many students use the facebook only to get their lovers and life-mates!!

What a tragedy!!...no wonder these loves and marriages break off fast and they start crying!!!!

'hmmmmmmm rams'!!

a comment...

•  Rams u claim to b so well read n yer people finding love on fb surprises u...wenever two people interact, share n exchange views dere is a high possibility of falling in love or getting emotionally involved...
  People have fallen in love while travelling in trains, buses, cinema halls wid very little interaction between d boy n d girl...dats y dey say love is blind...
  D most intense love stories fail n most briefest of romances click n survive...it has nothing to do wid where u meet ur partner...its all abt two individuals n how dey wanna take d marriage forward...
  Finally, just bcox people r married does not mean All is Well...dere r people who prefer to suffer in silence while putting up a brave front to d world while dere r others who separate n free each other of d misery. My view is tat if people r not happy in a marriage dey should accept it n move on...compromising n living wid someone who is not compatible is just not worth it...ALWAYS REMEMBER... TO BE HAPPY IN LIFE LIVE FOR URSELF...TO GIVE HAPPINESS' TO OTHERS, U SHOULD BE HAPPY FIRST...
  Purinchada? 

my reply....

• "after i finish my series of posts on adolescence i will type something...you read that...i am not typing for a 50 year old guy here...these are for people who are in a transient, growing, unstable stage of life who sometimes take major decisions in life which can screw up and make them think later on 'why did i take that decision?...why no one guided me properly?'...and i am not talking out of my hat, i am talking from the proven research studies which have been conducted with proven tools...with proper scientific methods...i am not those few people who sit under the trees or mutts, eat paan and talk some crap to pass time...i don't talk with just my experience only...i talk after studying 'text books and reference books' (not the road side books) which are followed world wide in all the universities...with my experience and also hearing to the issues of students...and what ever i have spoken and much more i have done amidst specialists in this field world wide...all those who questioned 'who is this engineer' to talk about all these have accepted and have started asking for suggestions...i am not saying i am great etc...most of the issues of human beings get resolved when we look at the issues 'human'ly, with blank mind (without prejudices, heuristics etc), and from the plane of how nature has created them and how their misalignment from this has put them into whatever issues they are in...etc...(i think you are in a down state or mild depression...you must be under stress...your subconscious mind is not cool...it is turbulent and not in peace...lots of struggles inside...it is like a pressure cooker...you are emotionally stressed looks like...it is better you consult some doc and stabilize...!!)
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• Omg Rams...calm down buddy...u seem to have drawn ur sword n r ready to cut me down to size. Hahaha...Manichiedu machaan No hard feelings and no personal attacks plz...pulling each others legs is permitted....but to get personal accusing me of depression n in need of medical help makes me laugh...funny rams as u say...hahaha...on a serious note if I hurt ur sentiments I am sorry...i was just expressing my views n didn't really mean to offend u...
• Having apologised lemme b honest wid u...i call a spade a spade buddy. If u r ok wen I like n agree wid ur post, u shld also b ok wen I disagree n criticise ur post. U don't have to make me a mental case for tat. Now coming to ur post, what I was trying to put across was tat it really doesn't matter if love sparks off on fb or a moving train...two of our course mates found dere better half on trains n dey r happily married till date...wat matters is d follow up on d spark..whether dey discuss all issues openly n honestly n den decide whether dey have d requisite compatibility to get married. If dey do so dey stand a better chance, no guarantee, of making dere relationship work...so don't blame fb for messsing up someone's life..
  I rest my case ur honour...not interested in d verdict...i accept defeat....chill...n sorry once again.
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•  oiiiiiiiiiii....i don't have any problem in you disagreeing with my post...what i mean is that you need to read the post carefully relating to the other posts of mine related to the subject and then disagree issue wise...no issues...with respect to human beings each case is different...as every human body and mind are different...even in the case of twins...so we only look at behaviours generally common across the world...also i have at the starting of my posts on adolescence said 'early maturer's do exist who can make stable decisions correct for their life, at an early stage in their life...i have also said the conditions in which they mature early...the decisions of many change in all directions from 13 years age to 22 years of age...why?...read my series of posts on Understanding Adolescence...they are all taken from text books...not my own...1. our course mates found their match at what age?...not at 13 or 17 or 20!!!...almost at 23 or 25!!!...is it not?...in case they are early maturers (which we don't know!!) then their 23 or 25 is equal to 40 of a general case!!!....were they matured with respect to all the behaviours which i have been listing in the adolescent posts?....yes or no??...yessss!!...that is why it did not break up immediately....(of course the present state within four walls and two hearts, we don't know!!...of course, even if there are problems their decision taken 25 years before can not be said as the reason!!!...as any uncared, course corrections not applied, relationships will strain after the reproductive stage of life!!!)......2. in the prevailing open, wild and wide socializing oppurtunity social networks can only show one or few sides of a person...unless we closely associate and live with that person in an organizational context and close proximity, our decisions and opinions or images for compatibility, to accept as lovers or soulmates or life mates etc can go erroneous....this is what i observed in most of the cases...in many posts, earlier, i have also explained the dynamics of relationships throughout the life...the variables...how they change...why they change...how to adapt...etc...reading text and reference books for marks will only give marks, job and money...reading them for knowledge and applying the knowledge will give wisdom...reading other books will only give prejudiced knowledge...or what other person perceives to be right and wrong...then we will also become prejudiced and not neutral....
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•  i have typed the above mainly for the students who read this thread...for some usefulness to them...you have already crossed miles off in your life...whereas they have not even started their first day!!!
• Good morning buddy...hope u r relaxed n kool....do u still feel I am under mental depression n shld refer myself to a doc? love u...have a wonderful day machaan...
•  i am eating apples now...getting late for my walk & run...lovers r calling...bye...