Dear all....
People who live as per our culture…i.e based on wealth, money, needs and expectations, body needs, ego (maanam…rosham…izzat etc), hunger for power-authority….which are never ending, and giving craving for entire life…can never feel contentment, peace, happiness and therefore no happiness!!
Such people will perceive their wife as ‘She is my wife. She is supposed to satisfy my needs and expectations. She is supposed to bear my child, give birth, rear and look after my parents and me for life long. She is supposed to cook, clean the utensils, keep the house and surroundings neat and tidy, wash the clothes-dry-iron and arrange in the cupboard, buy all the provisions and other things required for all of us at home, look after the relatives coming home, maintaining good relationships with neighbours and others, keeping up the tradition and good name of my family.These are her duties. Rest all become secondary’.
People who live as per our culture…i.e based on wealth, money, needs and expectations, body needs, ego (maanam…rosham…izzat etc), hunger for power-authority….which are never ending, and giving craving for entire life…can never feel contentment, peace, happiness and therefore no happiness!!
Such people will perceive their wife as ‘She is my wife. She is supposed to satisfy my needs and expectations. She is supposed to bear my child, give birth, rear and look after my parents and me for life long. She is supposed to cook, clean the utensils, keep the house and surroundings neat and tidy, wash the clothes-dry-iron and arrange in the cupboard, buy all the provisions and other things required for all of us at home, look after the relatives coming home, maintaining good relationships with neighbours and others, keeping up the tradition and good name of my family.These are her duties. Rest all become secondary’.
They will accept a good fortune as dowry or gift or on some other name for looking after her for life time.
Under these perceptions the girl will not perceive any love and will not be in a position to satisfy all the needs and expectations above, because all the above needs are blended with love emotion and without perceiving love from the people and social processes at home she can not do all these…even if she does all as duty, it will not have the charm, beauty and taste, and will be stressful for her as she is doing without interest and involvement…
There are some people who see their life as ‘1. a service and living for others the way all the living organisms live their life…i.e the way Nature has created…2. Life is a process of giving unconditional love’…
They see their wife as God sent Angel in their life. They will think ‘Look at me! Who I am?...Just nothing…Look at this beautiful innocent cute girl…she has left her home, parents, siblings, house, friends around, with which and whom she has lived all these years, and come here to live with me…accepting that I am her world hence forth…hmmmmmm….she is my life now…she is my everything…everything and everyone come only next to her…keeping her happy and healthy is my prime duty…I will do anything for achieving this…she is my Goddess…she is my happiness...she is my peace...nothing is required from anyone…I can earn and keep her like a Princess!!’…
When this is done, obviously the girl will also see him as her God, best friend, lover, soul-mate and the ultimate person on earth.
Who will do which job, whose duties are what etc will not be an issue at all in their home…they will look after each other well and the family will be full of only love, peace and happiness…an ideal family. Here all the needs and expectations of the guy will get met with love!!
peacefully yours...rams...health psychologist....
Under these perceptions the girl will not perceive any love and will not be in a position to satisfy all the needs and expectations above, because all the above needs are blended with love emotion and without perceiving love from the people and social processes at home she can not do all these…even if she does all as duty, it will not have the charm, beauty and taste, and will be stressful for her as she is doing without interest and involvement…
There are some people who see their life as ‘1. a service and living for others the way all the living organisms live their life…i.e the way Nature has created…2. Life is a process of giving unconditional love’…
They see their wife as God sent Angel in their life. They will think ‘Look at me! Who I am?...Just nothing…Look at this beautiful innocent cute girl…she has left her home, parents, siblings, house, friends around, with which and whom she has lived all these years, and come here to live with me…accepting that I am her world hence forth…hmmmmmm….she is my life now…she is my everything…everything and everyone come only next to her…keeping her happy and healthy is my prime duty…I will do anything for achieving this…she is my Goddess…she is my happiness...she is my peace...nothing is required from anyone…I can earn and keep her like a Princess!!’…
When this is done, obviously the girl will also see him as her God, best friend, lover, soul-mate and the ultimate person on earth.
Who will do which job, whose duties are what etc will not be an issue at all in their home…they will look after each other well and the family will be full of only love, peace and happiness…an ideal family. Here all the needs and expectations of the guy will get met with love!!
peacefully yours...rams...health psychologist....
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