Dear all....THIS IS FOR PARENTS...
All of us are born here on this earth to live in peace, good physical-mental-social well-being, medical health, physical fitness, happiness, contentment etc.
No one on this earth can live with good mental health by talking to or seeing just one person or with only one relationship throughout life.
If mental health is affected then all listed above and everything in life will go. The person will become a potato and even commit suicide.
So, we interact with many people and develop relationships of different types, levels and intensities with different people.
Nature has given default relationships like father, mother, siblings, relatives etc moment we are born in our social system called family.
But do every one get these basic relationships in life??????
Many are orphans. Many do not have mother or father or siblings. Many have one or both parents alive but do not live with them for entire life or for some periods due to various reasons of divorce, work, studies, separation etc. Many are single child. In many cases though all live in same house but do not get enough attention, love and affection, time or oppurtunity or emotional interactions due to several reasons. Families have parents who are addicts, mental health problems, economical issues, relationship issues, legal issues, social issues etc.
All these affect the mental health, personality traits and overall growth and development of a child.
As all the basic relationships listed above are important, the children or adults perceive their missing relationships in their lives with the people whom they meet and socialise.
Many perceive many types of relationships with a single person. Many perceive undefined relationships too.
Many have Borderline Personality Disorder problems. They land up with many emotional break-ups, end up with feeling of rejection, fail in exams, jobs and social life. They end up spoiling the peaceful life of many and their's too.
Almost every one undergoes lots of emotional relationship problems at office, family and society and therefore, emotional intelligence-maturity-growth-maturity-evolving are very very important in life to live peacefully and successfully in all spheres of life.
So, parents should ensure that....
1. They maintain harmony and good interpersonal relationships amongst them and with others in the family.
2. Give good love and affection and all support to children till they reach 20 years of age.
3. Even if they decide to separate or divorce, it is better to live in harmony till the children reach 20. If not possible then the children in most cases are sure to get affected mentally and have its impact throughout life in their personal life, organisations, married life and society.
4. Growth does not mean only physical growth. Every stage in life upto 2 years, from 2 to 6 years, 6 to 13 years, 13 to 20 years requires exposure of children to certain challenges (financial, emotional, social, legal, etc) in all dimensions and spheres of life with the help of parents so that they face the challenges and grow, develop, mature and evolve to be confident adults ready to face the world at job, married life and society anywhere in the world.
5. The responsibility remains totally with the parents. If this is not possible it is better to remain without marriage or producing children. But our society and parents believe that every one born here has to get married and produce children and whereas there are many who are unfit for marriage, family life and producing children and undertake the responsibility. All these people end up spoiling lives of other boys/girls and giving birth to children with mental health issues who end up with messing up their lives.
Keep rocking...Rams...Health Psychologist...
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