Dear all...PEACE is the most important purpose and basic need of life and living. It is related to mind and not body, though body plays its key role. If peace is not there in the mind, mental health is gone, and all the money, fame, wealth, power, authority etc that we have become meaningless.
Peace can not exist in a mind which is having the feeling of guilt.
Guilty feeling is a secondary emotion which is a product of combining of two primary emotions....1. happiness or pleasure.....2. fear....so, when the feeling of goodness out of happiness or pleasure combine with fear, we get guilt feeling.
e.g when mother says 'Look my dear boy!...I am keeping the sweets here. You should not eat it. It should be first offered to God at the temple tomorrow. After that pooja only you can eat it!', we get tempted more and wait for an oppurtunity to take and eat it. After we steal and eat it we get the feeling of goodness out of pleasure of eating the sweet. But at the same time we get a fear 'If mom has counted and kept, if she comes to know that i have eaten, then she will kill me!!'....this fear combined with the pleasure steals away his peace....till the pooja is over and mom does not show any sign of knowing the mischief by the boy.
Many such examples can be given....few are here....
1. copying in exam or stealing the properties of others
2. pre-marital sex (pleasure combining with fear of pregnancy or disease) or foreplay/sex out of marriage
3. involving in acts that are prohibited in the community, society, organisations or legally punishable
4. not being responsible in one or more of the social systems where we exist
5. falling in love with a person while living in a community where love is perceived to be a sin
2. pre-marital sex (pleasure combining with fear of pregnancy or disease) or foreplay/sex out of marriage
3. involving in acts that are prohibited in the community, society, organisations or legally punishable
4. not being responsible in one or more of the social systems where we exist
5. falling in love with a person while living in a community where love is perceived to be a sin
Guilty feeling is more....
1. when it is to do with feeling of goodness as an out come of pleasure as we have a craving tendency leading to repeating of the act which results in more and more guilt. Pleasures are to do with all the body or survival or basic or natural instinct needs.
2. when our value systems are strong and our thinking and behaviours are rigid
3. when value systems do not align with the Nature....or with that of the people and community around
Guilty feeling is less....
1. when the Courage of Conviction is more (feeling of 'what ever i have done or doing is right!')
2. when our value systems match with the Nature, people around and the community
3. when we are flexible or adaptable in our thinking with respect to various issues of life, our thinking and behaviours.
So, guilty feeling is in the mind....and peace is also in the mind....But peace and guilty feeling can not coexist in the same mind. So, it is up to us.....1. how we think....2. how we define our life or living or value systems to be.....3. how we perceive things in our life our behaviours in our life....4. what we think is right and correct and what we think as wrong and incorrect.
Our thinking causes or removes the guilt. So, removing guilty feeling is important to have peace in mind. It can be removed by cognitive or thinking methods or such other coping skills and peace is the mother of all Purposes of Life and Living!!
Keep rocking....Rams...Health Psychologist!!
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