Dear all...I happened to read the lines within quotations here..."it is difficult to drop wanting attention! But wanting attention too much can create lot of problems and we can become a slave for attention thereby losing our freedom! To be really 'free' we cannot 'want' as much as possible! There is nothing wrong in enjoying attention but when the want becomes too much, people will start doing things just for that and then can become a problem!"....
my opinion is....
my opinion is....
yesssss....'more we 'want' from others, more we become slaves and our freedom reduces!! If our needs from others are less, then we have and enjoy more freedom in life!! Sense of Freedom to think, behave or do whatever we want, to speak, to write to express ourselves through any method including feelings, emotions...is important in life for good self concept, self esteem and a host of out comes of all that we get when we have these two high!!
Keep rocking...enjoy more freedom by having less needs from others, being self-reliant or self-dependent etc. .....Rams....Health Psychologist!!
the comments i received and my opinion are as follows...
" I agree to u sir completely...we do live in a society where sometimes expectations from our loved one including friends and family has become common ...but yes too much expectations causes dependency over others for our fulfillment of desires but still indeed no one can be self-reliant just by reducing the want of attention not by completely preventing it all of a sudden...nothing is attained suddenly it takes time for the reduction of the desires...at the end of day expectations should be there but too much of it hurts...i believe self esteem is an important criteria but i also believe some people think self reliance is like we can independent in even love and affection...we can certainly expect affection and care little bit from our beloved its not harmful. But people become egoistic and say i don't need anyone i can survive alone...i believe everyone needs someone at some stages of life so my only message supporting your concept is that expect and be self reliant but don't confuse both ....thanx sir just wanted to share thought..."
comment of another person is here....
"Yes we are all inter-dependent. No one can be completely independent. But having the thought 'i don't need anything from anyone. God will take care of my needs always' helps. What I am saying is that we will get what we want when we want. Our needs will be taken care of. We need to have this confidence and be good to all. Nature will surely take care of our needs if we have purity of heart and clarity of thought"
my opinion ....
"ya...you are perfectly right!!...No one can live alone on this earth, physically or mentally, with good physical and mental health. It is for sure. We are all dependent on each other beyond doubts which is the truth. Nature does not want any living organism to live alone. It wants every one to remain united and live together. That is why it has given the strong, basic, natural instinct called reproduction and it has given soo many issues related to that in the body and mind. Any one who lives against the Nature, can't live happily, contented, peacefully, with good physical-mental and social well-being. So, all those people who create division among people for self interests taking any weapon (e.g religion, caste, region, language...list is very long!!) can't live with all the above. They can only get pleasures or pervert pleasures. Karma takes care of such people irrespective of who they are. In the eyes of Nature 'all living organisms' are same. We might perceive that such divisive people are 'happy' or 'healthy' etc. But not!!.... Be a good human being. Don't hate any one. All people are good. Only we don't like some of their beliefs. That is all. No one can satisfy our needs and wants all the time. We have to only see if that person lives with us beyond needs, wants and expectations of both the people over many years. No one can meet our needs all the time. But if that person is overall a good human being, we should never leave that person. PEOPLE and RELATIONSHIPS are important. Once lost, that is the last, and loss. You can't regain them and the relationship back in the same form. Only thing is we should not expect too much from people and too many people. Then we build our own cage around us and we lose our freedom. One can not manage the same kind of emotional or intense emotional relationship with many people while retaining good mental health e.g you can not have more lovers or fathers or wives or mothers or brothers or sisters. So, retain your close friends and never lose them for small 'ifs' and 'buts'. But also don't cage yourself and limit your freedom. Thanks for reading my long post and adding value to it with your thoughts. Remember your thoughts are read by many all over the world and you are changing some one some where!!...So, keep adding value, keep reading at my blog and spread peace and good health to all...keep rocking!!"
the comments i received and my opinion are as follows...
" I agree to u sir completely...we do live in a society where sometimes expectations from our loved one including friends and family has become common ...but yes too much expectations causes dependency over others for our fulfillment of desires but still indeed no one can be self-reliant just by reducing the want of attention not by completely preventing it all of a sudden...nothing is attained suddenly it takes time for the reduction of the desires...at the end of day expectations should be there but too much of it hurts...i believe self esteem is an important criteria but i also believe some people think self reliance is like we can independent in even love and affection...we can certainly expect affection and care little bit from our beloved its not harmful. But people become egoistic and say i don't need anyone i can survive alone...i believe everyone needs someone at some stages of life so my only message supporting your concept is that expect and be self reliant but don't confuse both ....thanx sir just wanted to share thought..."
comment of another person is here....
"Yes we are all inter-dependent. No one can be completely independent. But having the thought 'i don't need anything from anyone. God will take care of my needs always' helps. What I am saying is that we will get what we want when we want. Our needs will be taken care of. We need to have this confidence and be good to all. Nature will surely take care of our needs if we have purity of heart and clarity of thought"
my opinion ....
"ya...you are perfectly right!!...No one can live alone on this earth, physically or mentally, with good physical and mental health. It is for sure. We are all dependent on each other beyond doubts which is the truth. Nature does not want any living organism to live alone. It wants every one to remain united and live together. That is why it has given the strong, basic, natural instinct called reproduction and it has given soo many issues related to that in the body and mind. Any one who lives against the Nature, can't live happily, contented, peacefully, with good physical-mental and social well-being. So, all those people who create division among people for self interests taking any weapon (e.g religion, caste, region, language...list is very long!!) can't live with all the above. They can only get pleasures or pervert pleasures. Karma takes care of such people irrespective of who they are. In the eyes of Nature 'all living organisms' are same. We might perceive that such divisive people are 'happy' or 'healthy' etc. But not!!.... Be a good human being. Don't hate any one. All people are good. Only we don't like some of their beliefs. That is all. No one can satisfy our needs and wants all the time. We have to only see if that person lives with us beyond needs, wants and expectations of both the people over many years. No one can meet our needs all the time. But if that person is overall a good human being, we should never leave that person. PEOPLE and RELATIONSHIPS are important. Once lost, that is the last, and loss. You can't regain them and the relationship back in the same form. Only thing is we should not expect too much from people and too many people. Then we build our own cage around us and we lose our freedom. One can not manage the same kind of emotional or intense emotional relationship with many people while retaining good mental health e.g you can not have more lovers or fathers or wives or mothers or brothers or sisters. So, retain your close friends and never lose them for small 'ifs' and 'buts'. But also don't cage yourself and limit your freedom. Thanks for reading my long post and adding value to it with your thoughts. Remember your thoughts are read by many all over the world and you are changing some one some where!!...So, keep adding value, keep reading at my blog and spread peace and good health to all...keep rocking!!"
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