Dear all...some interesting things people say...worth reading and pondering over!!...it is not gender specific...so 'he' can be replaced with 'she' and related gender related words like him, her etc...
"I don't love him. But he loves me a lot. 'Lot' is a small word to describe his love or feelings or thoughts or relationship with me. I am his queen. I am the only one in his life. He loves his job next. So, these are the two loves for him. I love his love for me and his job. I want to be sincere to his love. There are many guys who may be handsome, intelligent, talented, better lovers and better human beings too. But I can't see tears in his eyes. I can't see him unhappy or sad. He is highly possessive of me. I can't pin his soul. I might not have got everything in life. But i have a guy who loves only me and who loves me a lot. He may not be available with me and next to me all the time to give his shoulder or attention or ears or time due to his love for his job. It is ok. Because he is working for his family and the grooming of people with him in his team which is good only. He loves this process of work and enjoying it. What is wrong in it!...Let me and my life be his inspiration, motivation and support!!...I have my world of things to do, enjoy and be happy!!"
more will come....
Peacefully yours....Rams....Health Psychologist!!
Dear all...THIS IS IMPORTANT FOR ALL STUDENTS AND PARENTS...
a college student who is highly intelligent, with good skill sets, capable of getting good placements easily, says like this...
"During the last 10 years i have had many relationships with my classmates, relatives and those on social networks. Earlier i used to suffer in each relationship after some time due to possessiveness of self and the other person. After reading the posts and my past experiences, now i am clear regarding the various stages of a relationship and now I know when i have to call it off. I know that I am not aroused physically with the people in my relationships. I am only a friend…friendship…!! But other person perceives it wrongly inspite of my warning that I am only a friend. I find myself bored in every relationship after some time, not satisfied with anyone (no physical relationship) in a long term and each relationship becomes a pain after some time. I enjoy the initial days of curiosity filled moments to know about the other person…the chats…the talks etc. It is full of fun and excitement. Even now I am in a relationship through chats. I don’t know how long it will last. But I am enjoying it. From all these what I know is I can’t settle down with one person in a traditional marriage system and live with that person life long. Today I am like this. I don’t know if I will change in future and settle down with one person. I doubt….”
Now….imagine the condition of the parents of this student who will look for an alliance and spend their life time earning in a grand marriage!!!...Also imagine the condition of the people who fall in love with this person, those who become obsessive, who become possessive??
Truly speaking, there is nothing wrong with this personality. The person is an extrovert who is generally happy and wants to have more friendships and enjoys the dynamics of any friendship.
The issue is the person becomes possessive about the friends but wants to have many friends in the social envelope but others should not feel possessive about this person and should not have many friends!!!...Here is the problem.
Anyway, I typed it here to indicate that we have all types of people around!!!
So, parents should not be traditional thinking with respect to marriages, waste money-time-and energy. They should discuss with their children openly, allow them to decide their destiny, may be the parents can explain the consequences etc and look for a change. Or else refer them to a psychologist or psychiatrist and go by the recommendations of the doctor.
Students should be aware of such people and limit their relationships only till good friendships and decide who will be their life mate only after 25, after many years of friendship.
Almost all the students who fall in love during college times and get married before finishing the course suffer a lot in life and probably end up knowing that it was not love but only lust after the fire gets quenched and when they stand on cross-roads in life.
Peacefully yours....Rams....Health Psychologist.
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