some questions...some answers....IMPORTANT FOR ALL...

Dear all....some questions...some answers....IMPORTANT FOR ALL...

Qns...

1. "love many and don't lust many" what u r coming to say.....?

2. "Nature drives people to lust more so that life continues on earth......."
U mean to say lust is required for procreation?

3. "if a person loves one .... Is it possible to lust another?

4. explain 'pleasure' and 'happiness'

Ans...

Human beings have got a BODY and a MIND. Every 'body' is different...every 'mind' is different.

It is comparatively easy to study the 'body' of human beings in behavioral perspective and generalize some theories.

But human 'mind' is complicated. Studies are difficult. But still we are able to generalise and give reasons for behaviours which are acceptable.

Ans for question NO.1...

by saying love many and don't lust many, i mean, give your love abundantly to the needy people like children, orphans, aged people, terminally ill people and such other people (i had listed one big list for college students...we can list like this for every one...e.g for a family person it could be neighbours with stress in life, friends and relatives with problems in life...etc...

because i don't mix sex with love...and actually it is so...love only means giving the perception that 'some one is there for me, to care for me, i am not alone on this earth!'...that is all...there is no sex in it...!!

so, filmy love is not love. College love is not love. Adolescent love is not love.
There may be exceptions. But we need to figure them out.

All behaviours that take one to bed (including foreplay!) are not love. All behaviours that make one person to act as if he or she is caring is not love. All behaviours that makes one person wanting the body of the other person is not love. There are body behaviours that can be sensed by the other person whether it is love or sex easily, even in hugs and kisses.

If some one is caring only when his or her body needs are met is not love.
If caring continues for years (not few days etc) even when the needs are not met is what is love!!...This is what is real friendship!!

There are many girls who give sex to retain the friendship and they don't mind about it. That friendship is not love. Will they be able to give their body and sex for entire life? Once their physical attraction goes off due to aging, diseases, child delivery etc then arousal might go off and what will happen to that relationship?...She will get devastated, unable to bear the loss of friendship...so, that friendship is not good!

the word sex itself is animalistic...that body attraction which leads to lust, enjoying the flesh etc...in this after the act, the attraction goes off for next few hours till again the flesh need strikes and one again gets attracted towards that person...so love and care vanishes during that time...that is what i said, care for more people, be a light in the lives of many...but don't have that animal lusty sex with many....as it would lead to psychological issues...i.e when the natural behaviour clashes with the social beliefs embedded in the brain...e.g guilty feeling etc...which leads to further behaviours of leaving that person, loss of friendship, and stress in the mind if unable to leave that person etc...so, love many, but don't lust many...!!...i.e no animal sex with many.

Hope this answers the question!!

Now, answer for question No.2...

'Nature drives to lust many so that life continues on earth' means nature wants life to continue on earth, and each person to be different from the other (darwin's theory...read all his theories)...so, variety seeking behaviour is natural behaviour which is there in all wants and needs of human beings which is there in this aspect of sex also...so, nature drives the 'body' to lust many bodies so that you have sex with many and produce many human beings...and if you notice nature pushes to only youthful and healthy bodies so that the offsprings are healthy...

but i have also said in many posts that nature has given us sixth sense with which we must base our life on this which is all having passion in vast reading, acquiring of skills, getting connected with people of same passion, working with them, and during this time when reverberation occurs or synergistic effect occurs and if the minds are mixed and if bodies also mix during this time without their consciousness, then it can not be termed as sex because moment we name it as sex then it loses its divinity...and the union which happens due to such high mind state or elevated feeling of wisdom is a different feeling much higher than animal feeling and it can not be brought down to that animal feeling in words and perception...that is what i keep saying that sex between couples should take place at this domain, which can happen if there is union of minds and passion and this only should have brought them together for marriage....but is it the case in all our marriages?...so, every one sees and experiences only animal sex and that is what they know off...what to do?...very few of such marriages evolve into love and remain for ever in the real sense...otherwise many just exist for society sake and security sake, as sex life ends after some age in life. Then what happens to that relationship?

the word sex itself has the dirty connotation of animal nature and that is how we have perceived it to be in our culture. This type of lusty animal sex lasts only for few minutes and therefore does not give satisfaction and keeps craving for it. The organism also behaves as if it is caring and loving the source and security of its love. As it is body based it keeps hoping from one body to the other endlessly. It makes one to commit crimes etc as it is the 'id' need of the body which does not see the consequences, as the thinking elements 'ego' and 'super ego' get masked, and after the act, 'id' dies and 'ego' and 'super ego' wake up, understand the gravity of the crime, feels guilty, commits suicide etc. As almost all our people live like this they never have a satisfying sex life, keep fighting, frustrated, and 99% of marital problems have their roots in sexual dissatisfaction, because of this animal sex!!

lust is not required for procreation in the actual sense when we use sixth sense for going to higher states of mind to dwell in a different plane of reference of life and when union takes place there, there also procreation results...so lust is not required for procreation of human-beings who have sixth sense...and pitch their life on that domain!!

Now the answer for the third question...No.3...

when a person just cares for some one (love) and he or she does not lust with that person i.e there is no arousal...and if that person gets aroused with some one else, feels lusty, then he or she can have sex (animal union) with that person...this may not affect the love with the first person...and lust need not lead to love...it might only lead to continued lust with that person till the arousal lasts...that is all..once the arousal goes the lust also will go and the relationship which is lusty only will cease to exist...unless there is some other need/want satiation from that person...but the love with the other person will continue for ever...because that relationship is not based on lust...it is purely based on love and care...

all these differ from person to person...no single individual is same with the other...so, some can love one person and lust many...we see such examples in society...and this falls well with the nature's drive of lusting many to produce more different offsprings...but one who uses the sixth-sense, knows the divine powers etc will come out of lust and enjoy the divine union of mind and bodies...they will have peace, contentment, understanding, happiness in their relationships, in their families and live a great satisfying life!!

Hope i answered all the questions satisfactorily with reality.

Any more questions???????

peacefully yours...rams!! (health psychologist)