What is cheating??

Dear all...IMPORTANT FOR ALL THOSE WHO LOVE SOME ONE IN LIFE....there is a poetic thing from OSHO...it is below...my comments are also below inside the inverted commas...rams!!

You love a person
and the person loves you
and then one day
you see him being
attracted towards
some other woman -
and comparison comes in.
So he is deserting you;

"what we presume love, the filmy love, the love in our 'human culture', which is based on 'needs' 'wants' and 'expectations' is not love. It is Lust!!...It is short lived and body based which gives craving, dire need, gives all negative thinking-emotions-behaviours when the needs are not met from the lover. That is the time you keep shouting, cursing, abusing and break-up etc. When the need is met then we feel the love. Otherwise we only hate during those moments. We also think about harming that person in all methods if he or she leaves us. A person in lust can leave a person, totally forget that person, and go to another person.

When a person loves another person in the true sense, beyond the needs, wants and expectations, the devotee kind of love, the one which is based on mind, the one which makes them to get divine experience, the one which makes a person not possessive, not judging, not hating anytime, not abusing and cause hurting or harming, ALWAYS LOVING, etc, then it is impossible for that person to UNLOVE or FORGET. The love remains life long, each moment and always. That is why A PERSON LOVED IS ALWAYS LOVED! THERE IS NO QUESTION OF UNLOVING OR FORGETTING!!

this is the philosophy...but the truth is some can lust many...some can love many...some can lust many and love many....some can only love and can not lust...some can only lust and can not love...some can only love one person but can lust many....Is there anyone who can lust only one but love many??

To get the 05 basic things i keep saying, love many...do not lust many...it leads to psychiatric/psychological issues....love those who need love...e.g children, orphans, aged people, terminally ill people..."

so he has found somebody
who is better than you?

"this comparison is wrong...who knows?...he is loving you but lusting the other person!!...If he loves you in real sense then he can not forget you, there is no question of unloving, but he may still lust the other person...but he will come out of that lust with that person some time...he will start hating her after some time...he will feel her to be monotonous, boring after some time...same flesh...no variety...so he will go back to his love...or might go for another lust...but again he will land up with monotony, boring and go back to his love...If he does not come back to you, then he was only lusting you!!..."

Then has he found somebody
who is more beautiful than you?
You may not
figure it out so clearly
but that's exactly
what creates jealousy:
the very idea that
somebody can be better,
that somebody
can be more beautiful,
somebody can attract
your man more
than you yourself.
That creates
a kind of inferiority inside
and you start being jealous.
You will create all sorts
of hindrances possible
to destroy this possibility.
No jealousy is possible
only when you have
come to accept yourself
so utterly that now
there is no comparison;
you don't compare
yourself with anybody.
Even if your man
moves to somebody else
it does not create
any comparison;
it is just a simple fact
that he became
attracted to that woman.
It does not bring you
into any conflict with
the other woman;
it does not say
anything about you.
If it says anything,
it says something
about the man,
nothing about you,
it has no reference to you at all.
But that is possible only
when you have become
so integrated that you can
live without a lover,
you can live without being loved
and you will be as happy
as when you are being loved,
when love is no more
a necessity but just fun.
If you are loved, good.
if you are not loved,
perfectly good -
you don't hanker for it.
OSHO - Far Beyond The Stars

"there is nothing known as cheating when a person shows behaviours as dictated by nature. Nature drives people to lust more so that life continues on earth, more people, more variety of human beings etc. We call it cheating because of our possessiveness...because of our mistake of not loving many people...when we love only one person then we are sureeeeeee to land up with no peace health issues and live alone one day....but when we love many who are needy then we will always be surrounded by love....there is no question of not being alone or feeling lonely....

cheating is when we use strategies to take away the property of others....i.e the property that legally remains to be theirs during their life time...of course, 'people' are properties as long as they agree so...if one person feels he or she is not the property of one person or one person alone, the he or she becomes universal property like any other thing that is available....it is all in the minds of individuals....

hope there is some clarity about LOVE, LUST and CHEATING....

peacefully yours....rams...