Why so many break-ups now in love relationships?

Dear all...some questions and some answers....

1. Qn...in the past we did not have many break-ups in relationships...today we have...why?

In the past there was no relationship outside the defined ones in social systems like father, mother, husband, wife, brother, sister etc.

Love, outside marriage, before marriage or after marriage, was not there earlier. It was not accepted as a social norm. Therefore there is no such thing as a relationship separately and no status and roles defined in any sociology book.

But Love being a natural feeling, was always there in many cases before and after marriage. It lived only inside the hearts known only to the concerned people and not known to others. Some had body needs and some were only devotee kind of relationship.

When open emotional love relationship involving body needs or need to live together or need for presence of the person always or when needed was not there there were no break-ups.

Today right from school days to at least till marriage there are thousands of friends...though it slowly reduces to hundreds and few tens later...so, for about good 15 years the students are in a storm of relationships where tsunami of emotions from all directions from people attack their brain and heart simultaneously through messages, calls, chats, pics, clips and what not!!...All virtual!!...THOUGH VIRTUAL HAPPINESS GIVES SOME SOLACE BUT CAN NOT QUENCH THE FIRE...IT ONLY FURTHER INCREASES THE CRAVING...IT DOES NOT REPLACE PERSONAL TOUCH.

They are unable to handle this sudden surge, especially after puberty, they don't get happiness but lots of pleasure, which they feel as happiness and carry on with life.

As one can not handle hundreds or thousands of emotional relationships many undergo silent, known or unknown break-ups for variety of reasons. Most of the break-ups help them to mature emotionally, learn what is good and right for them and what is not, they come to learn about themselves, mature and become a strong person mentally at the end of all these storms.

So, exposure to all these challenges in life at this age is essential developmental or growing task. If a child is protected from this, not exposed, then that child will not mature, may not be able to handle people, relationships etc in organisations, family and social life later in this industrial society in a positive matured way.

peacefully yours....rams....