hai all...
in this country you go any where...a house or organisation or a temple or a open place....if there are two or more people talking....it could be on two things....1. something which is proved scientifically 2. something which has not been proved scientifically....these are called 'beliefs'...e.g no one will discuss, as there is no scope for multiple opinions or scope for any discussion on 'whether the sun rises in the east or west?'.....but there are lots of scope for 'discussing' or 'arguing' on 'whether god exists or not?'...'whether astrology is a science or not?...believable?...like this there are many....
fights, conflicts, strained relationships, loss of happiness, physical / mental/ social health and peace are only due to these 'beliefs'...as they are not proved scientifically yet, none of the members involved can prove whether he is right or the other person is wrong...the discussion or argument will be endless!
so, whenever the we discuss any issue with anyone, first think for a second, whether it is proven or not...if not proved, then there is no point in arguments or discussions...it is waste of time, energy and relationships...
as we are highly emotional and possessive people, when it comes to issues on belief, as we are attached to our own beliefs, we always end up in 'arguing' and not 'discussing'. In discussions, the point or subject remains the focus and people are not important. I.e who says is not important, but what is said is important. But in arguments it is other way, the person takes the front seat ('i am right' 'you are wrong!') and the subject of discussion takes back seat or forgotten.
Discussions result in constructive results, no anger, no fights, relationships, faith, trust, happiness, coordination etc will improve...everything is positive here!
Whereas in an argument only negatives take place and results in disasters, only losses.
So, remain away from 'beliefs' and 'arguments on beliefs'. Don't waste your precious time and energy at home or elsewhere.
peacefully yours
rams-psychologist and sociologist
in this country you go any where...a house or organisation or a temple or a open place....if there are two or more people talking....it could be on two things....1. something which is proved scientifically 2. something which has not been proved scientifically....these are called 'beliefs'...e.g no one will discuss, as there is no scope for multiple opinions or scope for any discussion on 'whether the sun rises in the east or west?'.....but there are lots of scope for 'discussing' or 'arguing' on 'whether god exists or not?'...'whether astrology is a science or not?...believable?...like this there are many....
fights, conflicts, strained relationships, loss of happiness, physical / mental/ social health and peace are only due to these 'beliefs'...as they are not proved scientifically yet, none of the members involved can prove whether he is right or the other person is wrong...the discussion or argument will be endless!
so, whenever the we discuss any issue with anyone, first think for a second, whether it is proven or not...if not proved, then there is no point in arguments or discussions...it is waste of time, energy and relationships...
as we are highly emotional and possessive people, when it comes to issues on belief, as we are attached to our own beliefs, we always end up in 'arguing' and not 'discussing'. In discussions, the point or subject remains the focus and people are not important. I.e who says is not important, but what is said is important. But in arguments it is other way, the person takes the front seat ('i am right' 'you are wrong!') and the subject of discussion takes back seat or forgotten.
Discussions result in constructive results, no anger, no fights, relationships, faith, trust, happiness, coordination etc will improve...everything is positive here!
Whereas in an argument only negatives take place and results in disasters, only losses.
So, remain away from 'beliefs' and 'arguments on beliefs'. Don't waste your precious time and energy at home or elsewhere.
peacefully yours
rams-psychologist and sociologist
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