What is important in life....FRIENDSHIP or SPOUSE relationship?

Hai all...

every day while going to office I cross a slum area...some time back I saw a hut nicely decorated, shamiana, etc...it gave an impression that there is some marriage going on...with all relatives gathered there...I saw a, may be, 20 feet X 5 feet flex banner...it had only the picture of the bride and bridegroom standing next to each other...full size...no venue of marriage...just no other information other than 'WE ARE FRIENDS FROM TODAY'! (indru muthal naangal nanbargal!)

1. Is this correct?
2. Does it convey something?

there is a great message here saying 'first be good FRIENDS' and you will be automatically good couple too... 

 

other day when i met some middle aged lady professors they confessed that they talk more with their friends than their husbands...they enjoyed that conversation with friends more because there was freedom in speech, not much of expectations, no give and take...

 

when the two people are lovers they are good friends...moment they get married they become HUSBAND and WIFE... a social role and status...with responsibilities...an organisational context and organisational behaviour...so, obviously the environment becomes official...they talk only on unavoidable issues...there is no love...no intimacy...no affection...they have only 'i am delivering my responsibility as a wife' is only up there!...'you want? take it!' is the behaviour that is left...

 

so, first and foremost is being a good soul mate friend with the spouse, then everything falls in place automatically....i.e there will be an excellent spouse relationship too!

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peacefully yours
rams