hai all...
something on indian marriages...
the boy or girl will say 'i am in love with so and so and i can't marry the guy whom you say!'...but parents tell them 'forget him! marry this guy!'...as if mind is a slate and things can be easily erased. They know this. But what they say is 'we don't know what you do, whether you forget him or not, but live with this guy physically in the eyes of the people around!'...so, loosing mental virginity and living with some one else in mind is not an issue here...loosing physical virginity and living physically is an issue for the parents, society and culture...come what may, the culture has to be upheld, and hell with the life, happiness and peace. Our guys are more attached emotionally to caste, religion, language, social stigma, wealth, physical virginity and not the peace and happiness of their daughter or boy. They think that the pillow and bed will do the magic to change their life.
There are many who spend more time on 'we have attended hundreds of marriages and given many presents and money. We have to get them back. So, we have to invite all those, whose marriage functions we have attended!'...immediately after the marriage they count the notes and the value of the presents received and feel angry and frustrated saying 'i gave such a big present and he has given only this!'...
so, main purpose of marriage is...
1. to complete their responsibility
2. to get more wealth
3. to improve the status
4. to get back the money spent on presents
5. to avoid social stigma
6. to avoid questions from relatives and friends 'why your daughter is still not married?'
7. to give and take boy and girl within close relatives to keep the relationship going
8. to fulfill the unwritten and unrecorded words given earlier that i will give my daughter to your son (and the other person would have given money or saved his name and fame etc)
9. to match the status, adaptability of parents etc
the boy or girl will say 'i am in love with so and so and i can't marry the guy whom you say!'...but parents tell them 'forget him! marry this guy!'...as if mind is a slate and things can be easily erased. They know this. But what they say is 'we don't know what you do, whether you forget him or not, but live with this guy physically in the eyes of the people around!'...so, loosing mental virginity and living with some one else in mind is not an issue here...loosing physical virginity and living physically is an issue for the parents, society and culture...come what may, the culture has to be upheld, and hell with the life, happiness and peace. Our guys are more attached emotionally to caste, religion, language, social stigma, wealth, physical virginity and not the peace and happiness of their daughter or boy. They think that the pillow and bed will do the magic to change their life.
There are many who spend more time on 'we have attended hundreds of marriages and given many presents and money. We have to get them back. So, we have to invite all those, whose marriage functions we have attended!'...immediately after the marriage they count the notes and the value of the presents received and feel angry and frustrated saying 'i gave such a big present and he has given only this!'...
so, main purpose of marriage is...
1. to complete their responsibility
2. to get more wealth
3. to improve the status
4. to get back the money spent on presents
5. to avoid social stigma
6. to avoid questions from relatives and friends 'why your daughter is still not married?'
7. to give and take boy and girl within close relatives to keep the relationship going
8. to fulfill the unwritten and unrecorded words given earlier that i will give my daughter to your son (and the other person would have given money or saved his name and fame etc)
9. to match the status, adaptability of parents etc
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