hai all...our mothers are great!...the first time when the infant cries (at the age of five months or so when the infant starts understanding the surroundings and people) the mother says 'who beat my darling! oh baby, don't cry! Is it your father?...don't worry...we will beat him!' she will say this pointing to her husband and beat him too. The father cries and every one laughs including the child. This we do it as a fun. This is done by all in our culture. Later when the child grows, if we ask 'why are you crying my child?', it will look around and show some one...the truth is that person may not be the reason for the crying...basically the child has learnt that 'when i am disturbed it is not me at fault, it is others!'...'when i do something wrong, i should cry, and when people ask what happened or who did it, we have to point out others, i am never wrong or at fault'...
when we hit a stone while walking and it bleeds, we say 'the stone has hit!'...when we hit the 'nilavu' while entering a house, we say 'nilavu adichhiruchhu!'...so, we don't leave even the inanimates!!!
so, the child grows in to a grown up person with all these qualities...not accepting the mistake...'all others are wrong and i am always right'...arguing that he or she is right...pointing the wrongs to others...saying others also are doing the same wrong...erasing or destroying the evidences of our wrong doings...being dishonest...being not true...telling lies...doing a chain of wrongs...making others also a party to all the lies to make sure that he or she is not punished...so, our great culture had produced, is successfully producing and will continue to produce such dishonest people. Honesty in simple things is a big thing. If this is there in a person, that person will automatically have 'honesty in big things is a noble thing'...
there are some people who don't take any decisions in organisations due to fear of going wrong and he getting the blame...so, they always maneuver in such a way that the decision is taken by others and the attributability of blame does not come to them...
how many of our children or how many of us have the courage to get up or raise our hands and say that 'it is my mistake! I have done that wrong! It is my decision error!' before we are asked by people around?
Claps to our great parents who taught us this great culture!
peacefully yours
rams-psychologist and sociologist
when we hit a stone while walking and it bleeds, we say 'the stone has hit!'...when we hit the 'nilavu' while entering a house, we say 'nilavu adichhiruchhu!'...so, we don't leave even the inanimates!!!
so, the child grows in to a grown up person with all these qualities...not accepting the mistake...'all others are wrong and i am always right'...arguing that he or she is right...pointing the wrongs to others...saying others also are doing the same wrong...erasing or destroying the evidences of our wrong doings...being dishonest...being not true...telling lies...doing a chain of wrongs...making others also a party to all the lies to make sure that he or she is not punished...so, our great culture had produced, is successfully producing and will continue to produce such dishonest people. Honesty in simple things is a big thing. If this is there in a person, that person will automatically have 'honesty in big things is a noble thing'...
there are some people who don't take any decisions in organisations due to fear of going wrong and he getting the blame...so, they always maneuver in such a way that the decision is taken by others and the attributability of blame does not come to them...
how many of our children or how many of us have the courage to get up or raise our hands and say that 'it is my mistake! I have done that wrong! It is my decision error!' before we are asked by people around?
Claps to our great parents who taught us this great culture!
peacefully yours
rams-psychologist and sociologist
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