Hai all...here is a typical indian life situation...
A boy and a girl are born in neighbouring houses...they grow up together playing from infant hood...they go to school together...study, play and sometimes sleep also together...they share knowledge, emotions, food, physical support, help each other, protect each other...they wake up on each others face, live together, and go to bed sometimes separately and sometimes together...
They reach the age of puberty...the girl attains age...and both are from different castes...
Now consider the following situations...
she is told don’t meet him, don’t talk to him, you are a grown up girl now, not to mingle with boys etc...the boy is also told the same way...what a misery!...then why did the parents allow them to be like good friends earlier, and why they feel they cannot remain or continue to be good friends now, and bring in caste also in between...where did the caste go earlier?
Let us assume they are allowed to continue the way before and they join the same college also and continue to remain as the thickest friends...what happens if one says let us get married and live as husband and wife also and whereas the other says ‘no, i never thought you like that! We are best friends, can’t live without each other, but can’t bed with!’
What happens both of them decide to get married, they love each other, but the parents oppose and get them married off to different people?...can they remain separated?...can their new spouses accept the other person continuing the same old friendship?...here comes the suspicion that they wanted to marry but were not allowed, and therefore, how can they just remain as good friends only without physical relationship...so, comes the suspicion!
There are many such chaos in the lives of many due to good friendships during childhood or adolescence...they get torn in to pieces emotionally and it also affects their development in different aspects of life.
i.e 'caste or religious or other differences' and 'marriage' come in between good friendships or love and spoils entire life of few people!
they land up in living an 'organisational life' I mentioned earlier...
A boy and a girl are born in neighbouring houses...they grow up together playing from infant hood...they go to school together...study, play and sometimes sleep also together...they share knowledge, emotions, food, physical support, help each other, protect each other...they wake up on each others face, live together, and go to bed sometimes separately and sometimes together...
They reach the age of puberty...the girl attains age...and both are from different castes...
Now consider the following situations...
she is told don’t meet him, don’t talk to him, you are a grown up girl now, not to mingle with boys etc...the boy is also told the same way...what a misery!...then why did the parents allow them to be like good friends earlier, and why they feel they cannot remain or continue to be good friends now, and bring in caste also in between...where did the caste go earlier?
Let us assume they are allowed to continue the way before and they join the same college also and continue to remain as the thickest friends...what happens if one says let us get married and live as husband and wife also and whereas the other says ‘no, i never thought you like that! We are best friends, can’t live without each other, but can’t bed with!’
What happens both of them decide to get married, they love each other, but the parents oppose and get them married off to different people?...can they remain separated?...can their new spouses accept the other person continuing the same old friendship?...here comes the suspicion that they wanted to marry but were not allowed, and therefore, how can they just remain as good friends only without physical relationship...so, comes the suspicion!
There are many such chaos in the lives of many due to good friendships during childhood or adolescence...they get torn in to pieces emotionally and it also affects their development in different aspects of life.
i.e 'caste or religious or other differences' and 'marriage' come in between good friendships or love and spoils entire life of few people!
they land up in living an 'organisational life' I mentioned earlier...
so, the best intimacy and love can be possible when a boy and a girl are good friends from the age 2 onwards till may be about 20...i.e the entire period of their development cycle...as they develop and grow together...it is better to leave them as it is throughout their life as friends or married couple so that they live a meaningful and peaceful life!
rams
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