hai
all...you know why spouses spy on each other, all men and women undergo
miseries in family life, there are frictions and strains in all
relationships in india?
because indians do not know what is INTIMACY and LOVE!!! (I am typing all these as a psychologist and sociologist and not as what you know of me!)
As i mentioned earlier, indians only know 'a boy and girl or a man or woman getting attracted at any age towards each other, talking, meeting and finally landing up on bed' as love...they also understand doing the above with legal approval, under the marriage system is what is love...they also understand the few minutes or few seconds of interaction on bed or else where as intimacy...so mean!!!!!!
Indian marriages can only bring two people inside four walls to form an ORGANISATION called home, where they play the role of HUSBAND and WIFE and deliver the responsibilities or duties. Towards delivering these duties what ever nice talks, gestures and behaviours required, they do!...and this they call as love and intimacy!
They like talking to their friends more than to their spouses!
They are more open to their friends than to their spouses!
Because they have intimacy with their friends and not with their spouses!
that too only limited intimacy with friends also!
you know why sex sucks in india? due to lack of intimacy!
There is no friendship between the two, and obviously one will get fed up with the ROLEs he or she performs in an ORGANISATIONAL environment!... RESPONSIBILITIY is not peace giving, happiness giving, love giving...and responsibility only gives anxiety, fear, stress and diseases...no peace!...it does not result in evolving of a true love or intimacy or passion for being with or talking to!...it will only result in STRATEGIES (like that happens in any organisation) and related behaviours between the two to satisfy the needs from the other person.
you know why our guys or girls are always 'menju'fying (i.e searching for partners or soul mates or good friends outside the marriage relationship)? it is because they have not experienced intimacy with their partners! once you enjoy intimacy with your partner to the greatest level, no outside love or friendship or soul mate ship or sex can satisfy or appeal to both boy and girl!
We need to break this wifes giving respect to their husbands, being scared at their husbands!...why should they be scared or give respect?...they should only have love, intimacy and affection!...in the past 'naathaa' culture made the wife a servant and dasi to the man...and now the same is continuing in the name of 'yennanga' business!...still calling the husband using the name is not there...this shows there is a wall or curtain between the two!...the culture is to keep the man superior to the lady at home. As long as gender discrimination is there between the two, the relationship can never mature to a friendly, approachable loving intimate relationship.
you know why people in india kill intimacy? because they are scared that they will be left behind!
you know why relatives fight in india? because there is no one with whom you are allowed to be intimate, with open heart, trustworthiness and interact freely, including your husband or wife!!!...forget about with father, mother and siblings!.... so they all fight to establish their space in one's life!
You ask yourself....1. whom do you want to spend more time with?....2. with whom do you enjoy your times, the most?...you will get the answer...
Indians do not like talking to their spouses for more than few minutes, and that too for taking decisions in delivering some of their responsibilities...they also feel when you get old you should behave like an old person, and not behave like teen agers...they don't have even one person on this earth with whom they can share all the feelings, opinions, ideas, emotions, etc with total trust and without any shyness, hesitation, anxiety etc.
Preity zinta asks aamir khan in some movie....'if you have just one day to live, whom will you want to spend the whole day with?'
Now, ask the question to yourself....you will have the answer to tell the great culture our ancestors have created here!
My grandmother said 'My life is peaceful and happy only after death of your grandfather!!' every time i brought my grandfather's name in to discussions. (sooo much of relief and happiness flows in her face while telling this!)
There are many women in india who must be praying inside 'when will this guy die!' if she is financially independent. Of course, those women who are parasites on him will curse their fate and live with.
We may not have more legal divorces, but almost all marriages have resulted in mental or emotional or intellectual divorce!!!
It is time to think guys!
rams
because indians do not know what is INTIMACY and LOVE!!! (I am typing all these as a psychologist and sociologist and not as what you know of me!)
As i mentioned earlier, indians only know 'a boy and girl or a man or woman getting attracted at any age towards each other, talking, meeting and finally landing up on bed' as love...they also understand doing the above with legal approval, under the marriage system is what is love...they also understand the few minutes or few seconds of interaction on bed or else where as intimacy...so mean!!!!!!
Indian marriages can only bring two people inside four walls to form an ORGANISATION called home, where they play the role of HUSBAND and WIFE and deliver the responsibilities or duties. Towards delivering these duties what ever nice talks, gestures and behaviours required, they do!...and this they call as love and intimacy!
They like talking to their friends more than to their spouses!
They are more open to their friends than to their spouses!
Because they have intimacy with their friends and not with their spouses!
that too only limited intimacy with friends also!
you know why sex sucks in india? due to lack of intimacy!
There is no friendship between the two, and obviously one will get fed up with the ROLEs he or she performs in an ORGANISATIONAL environment!... RESPONSIBILITIY is not peace giving, happiness giving, love giving...and responsibility only gives anxiety, fear, stress and diseases...no peace!...it does not result in evolving of a true love or intimacy or passion for being with or talking to!...it will only result in STRATEGIES (like that happens in any organisation) and related behaviours between the two to satisfy the needs from the other person.
you know why our guys or girls are always 'menju'fying (i.e searching for partners or soul mates or good friends outside the marriage relationship)? it is because they have not experienced intimacy with their partners! once you enjoy intimacy with your partner to the greatest level, no outside love or friendship or soul mate ship or sex can satisfy or appeal to both boy and girl!
We need to break this wifes giving respect to their husbands, being scared at their husbands!...why should they be scared or give respect?...they should only have love, intimacy and affection!...in the past 'naathaa' culture made the wife a servant and dasi to the man...and now the same is continuing in the name of 'yennanga' business!...still calling the husband using the name is not there...this shows there is a wall or curtain between the two!...the culture is to keep the man superior to the lady at home. As long as gender discrimination is there between the two, the relationship can never mature to a friendly, approachable loving intimate relationship.
you know why people in india kill intimacy? because they are scared that they will be left behind!
you know why relatives fight in india? because there is no one with whom you are allowed to be intimate, with open heart, trustworthiness and interact freely, including your husband or wife!!!...forget about with father, mother and siblings!.... so they all fight to establish their space in one's life!
You ask yourself....1. whom do you want to spend more time with?....2. with whom do you enjoy your times, the most?...you will get the answer...
Indians do not like talking to their spouses for more than few minutes, and that too for taking decisions in delivering some of their responsibilities...they also feel when you get old you should behave like an old person, and not behave like teen agers...they don't have even one person on this earth with whom they can share all the feelings, opinions, ideas, emotions, etc with total trust and without any shyness, hesitation, anxiety etc.
Preity zinta asks aamir khan in some movie....'if you have just one day to live, whom will you want to spend the whole day with?'
Now, ask the question to yourself....you will have the answer to tell the great culture our ancestors have created here!
My grandmother said 'My life is peaceful and happy only after death of your grandfather!!' every time i brought my grandfather's name in to discussions. (sooo much of relief and happiness flows in her face while telling this!)
There are many women in india who must be praying inside 'when will this guy die!' if she is financially independent. Of course, those women who are parasites on him will curse their fate and live with.
We may not have more legal divorces, but almost all marriages have resulted in mental or emotional or intellectual divorce!!!
It is time to think guys!
rams
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