Wednesday, 11 December 2013

Is our marriage system right?...are we making the right matches after all the hard work?



Hai all...two days back I had an opportunity to interact with few middle aged lady professors...I asked two questions...

1. For how many minutes or hours you can continuously talk (discuss) to your husband / life mate on any issue or subject?

the answers were like 10 mts, 15 mts...not more than 20 mts

Is he the person with whom you talk for more time in a day, the answer was NO!...this means they like talking to some one else for more time than their life mate!!!...this means their frequency matches with some one or some more people than their life mate!...i.e they like talking to these people more (than their life mate) as the derive happiness...or more happiness, comparatively.

Why it happens like this?

2. Is there any one on this earth with whom you can talk or discuss about any issue under the sky with out any inhibition, hesitation, shyness...i.e heart to heart talk...with free mind...with out hiding or suppressing the details...?

all of them said NO. Not even one said 'I have one person'. I asked them why not your mother, father, husband, sister, brother, son, daughter, grandmother...they just smiled and looked left and right.

Why we don't have even one person on this earth with whom we can socialise or talk or interact with free mind with total trust, confidence and faith?

First of all...

1. Is this a healthy situation?
2. Are we alright?
3. Is this correct or wrong?
4. If wrong, how we landed up in this situation?...who is at fault?
5. Is it due to our marriage system?
6. Is it related to our grooming method of our children?
7. Is it due to our culture?
8. Is our match making procedure before marriage correct?
9. Is it due to the way we live our life inside the family system, our social dynamics at home, the social envelope that gets formed between husband and wife during the process of living as husband and wife?

Let us scratch our @"£$ usefully...so that our children and grandchildren do not land up in this situation in future!

rams

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