Wednesday, 11 December 2013

how relationships form and how they take shape?

Hai all...

all living organisms take birth on earth...they grow...their body parts also grow...both internal and external...once they mature and reach the reproductive stage they leave the nest or cage or den and start looking for their mates...

human beings are no different...they also take birth, grow and on attaining age or reaching the reproductive stage, search for their mates...actually mates...but they say 'life mates'...many do not this also...they say 'machhan, thangachhi daa!'...within a year he will say 'I don't know daa, but I like her very much!'...and in six months say 'I love her da!'...

birds or animals do not have so many different types of relationships...and even the parental relationships are forgotten the moment they flutter the wings and leave the nest in search of their mates...as we form many relationships, we don't know what type of relationship we are in, during the initial stages...

some are love at first sight (based on looks)...rarely from both the sides...many are after some interactions (looks and personality traits)...some boys put in all their efforts, do lots of thinking, discussions, try to manipulate...

but all relationships are formed based on 'needs and wants'...so, let the boy do any gymnastics (generally his need is one which every one knows!!), the girl will feel the relationships that will satisfy her needs and wants...the relationship that she has been missing in her life and wanting...some times father, mostly brother, uncle, friend etc...rarely 'lover' or 'husband' or 'soul mate'...so, boys, wake up! It is not in your hands!

Love can not be created or made. It blooms in the mind of the girl. When, how...no one knows. The social envelope between a male and a female evolves as they interact. It can not be manipulated. The ball always remains in the girl's court!...she will decide the relationship, not you, no matter how you behave, what all you do to attract her, her inner needs and wants will drive her to perceive the relationship and tell her 'he is so and so to you', till then, she also does not know...she will also be wondering 'I don't know whether he is my friend or father or lover or uncle, but one thing is sure, I like him!'!...how we start liking a person, how we start homing on, how we remain locked, how the social envelope forms, how it evolves and how the relationship crystallises, when we know clearly, what are further stages?....go to my blog or hang on!


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