Dear all…IMPORTANT POST FOR ALL WORKING/FUTURE WORKING PROFESSIONALS...All of us get promoted in social positions, organisational positions, family etc.
e.g we get promoted to brother, sister, friend,uncle, lover, husband, wife, father, mother, father-in-law, mother-in-law, grand father, grand mother etc in family social system.
We also get promoted to as treasurer, secretary, general secretary, party chief, chairman, vice chairman, etc in other social systems.
We get promoted in organisational positions like Manager, General Manager, Director, Principal, Commissioner, Controller, CEO, Managing Director, Collector, Chief Minister, Prime Minister, President etc.
In family social social system, some of the promotions in social status and roles are by default, without any efforts from our side, without any prerequisites of qualifications we get promoted to brother, sister, uncle, brother in law, sister in law etc and we are expected to perform to the expectations of these roles without any prior exposure and training.
In other social systems and organisations people get promoted based on their performance in the present job, promotion potential for the next higher ‘responsibility’, where they are judged/assessed/evaluated for various requisites of the next position…knowledge, skills, experience, personality attributes etc are the criteria that are analysed.
What happens when they get promoted?
More people take that feeling to the HEAD…
What happens to such people and how they behave?
• They become highly egoistic and are rigid, show hard faces, shout, show all negative emotions, ‘task masters’, less employee centric, more organisational centric, issue orders/directives/commands and expect others to obey, they use their brain and expect others to use only their body, self centered, very adamant, difficult to handle, failed or troublesome/strained love, emotional and family life, frustrated, zero tolerance for errors, ‘I am the best, I know everything’ feeling, think others don’t want to work, shammers and only flogging will help, feel insecure and therefore use spies, generally follow ‘divide and rule’ strategy, use ‘master-slave’ management concept, can insult any one easily, not bothered about the feelings of others, feel they are always correct and best, others are wrong, humiliate others in public, always angry, always in agression, do not hesitate to do anything against people to achieve their goals, take revenges, give hard punishments to suffer (not to change!), their own comfort is first priority, frequently use words like ‘I am, I did, I achieved, what did you do?’ etc and refuse to acknowledge the accomplishments of others, over confident, rude, snobbish, they think-do-believe and say what they consider to be correct, feel always heroic, euphoric or invulnerable, scared, denial, worry about safety, Irritability, restlessness, moody and grief struck always, can not get sound sleep, less sleep, distressing dreams, feel guilty, feel isolated-lost-lonely-abandoned, always feel misunderstood. They always work FOR promotions and NOT TOWARDS getting promotions. They will be partial and will have the influence of religious, caste, racial, regional, language feelings.
No one will go to them, they are disliked, abused, cursed, hated by all at home, society and organisations, others openly talk ‘when will he go on transfer yaar?’ ‘when will he die yaar?’ etc but even if they hear all these they are shameless, so they will always be alone, feel lonely, always say ‘at the top it is lonely yaar!!’, depressed, drink alcohol or smoke too much, might use other addictive chemicals too, will have all behaviours seeking pleasure, drink too much of coffee/tea, feel insecure, always anxiety struck, age faster, so will suffer from diseases like ulcer, cardio vascular diseases, diabetes, hypertension, will have all the symptoms of high stress and ailments/disorders related to stress reactions. Die of heart attack etc.
Some of them resist these issues with exercising, walking, good food habits etc but still due to their ego in the head, their mental and social health are impaired which further affects their physical health.
NOW YOU DECIDE WHETHER YOU WANT TO TAKE YOUR PROMOTION TO YOUR HEAD OR NOT!!
Most of them take their promotions to their SHOULDERS…
i.e they are not egoistic but take the next higher responsibility as a BURDEN…so they are always anxiety struck, fear/scared, worried, stressed and almost all the above behaviours, emotions, thinking, diseases will be there with these people also.
Few of them take their promotions to their HEART…
They would have always inherited and imbibed good, health enhancing behaviours for body, mind and social relationships, do yoga, meditation, highly spiritual (not religious), enlightened souls, take both success and failures in the same way, always are cheerful, loving, affectionate, matured, evolved, noble, groomed well and positively by the parents-relatives and society, would have faced many tough and life threatening challenges, emotional challenges in life and would have handled all of them courageously, morally and with positive thinking-emotions and behaviours, they are logical, reasonable, considerate, confident, build up good teams, good leaders, motivate, groom others, both people and organisation centric, early maturers, caring, calm, peaceful, happy, physically-mentally and socially healthy, they will fulfill all their responsibilities with cheer and joy, think all people are good-hardworking-interested in growing, keep their organisation as a happy temple/park where people long to come to and don’t feel like going home, give importance to their relationships with others, lead by example, mentor their subordinates etc. They will ensure that their bosses, peers and subordinates are all happy. So, they go up further while being healthy, happy and peaceful. They will always feel that they got promoted because of a good team and blessings of almighty. They are never egoistic. They will be present in all sorts of occasions without any partiality and always be cheerful. They will be just the opposite of the other two category people. They will be patient, tolerant, never get angry, endure the harms they receive from others, they will be gentle, not rude, rash and hasty. They will have a sense of modesty and integrity, they will be courageous, with high self esteem, emphasize on high and noble manners, strong will and self determination, impartial. They will always think that this new position is given by almighty to ‘serve’ for the ‘organisation’ and ‘people’. This ‘service’ perception will keep them with all positives in life and make them grow further.
So, the crux is…
1. NEVER TAKE PROMOTIONS TO ‘HEAD’ OR ‘SHOULDERS’. TAKE PROMOTIONS TO ‘HEART’. IT WILL HELP YOU TO GROW BOTH IN ORGANISATIONS AND LIFE WITH ALL POSITIVES.
2. NEVER WORK ‘FOR’ PROMOTIONS, ALWAYS WORK ‘TOWARDS’ PROMOTIONS WHICH IS GOOD.
3. GOOD PHYSICAL-MENTAL-SOCIAL HEALTH, PEACE, SUSTAINED HAPPINESS, LOVE AND AFFECTION, BEING LIKED-LOVED-RESPECTED-ADORED BY ALL, BEING NOBLE, MATURED, EVOLVED, HAPPY FAMILY AND LOVE LIFE, BEING A BANYAN TREE IN KNOWLEDGE AND WISDOM, WANTED BY ALL GOOD EMPLOYERS, IS THE REAL SUCCESS IN LIFE .
peacefully yours....rams....health psychologist...
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