Dear all...i have asked the following questions to the married girls who have crossed about 10 years of married life.....you can also ask these questions yourself and answer your own self if you are in that category...
1. For how much time you speak to your husband? (generally answers have been 5 mts or 10 mts or a max of 20 mts)
2. What do you speak? (answers have been about the loans, social events that we have to attend, building of house, buying provisions, pick ups of children, their education, etc)
3. Can you talk anything and everything under the sky with your husband without any inhibitions? (an unanimous 'NO' has been the answer!)
4. With whom do you speak maximum in a day or often? (mostly the answer is 'friends', mostly school or college friends, and no one said 'husband')
5. Given an option whom do you like speaking to and with whom you get maximum happiness in conversations? (an unanimous answer has been 'friends')
What the answers show?...They call their husband as their better half or a person who knows them well, their life mate, their everything etc...but why then such answers?
It is probably only a social relationship of 'husband-wife' to perform social role of a wife and mother for mutual satiation of needs, acquire feeling of security of all dimensions required for a human being to survive or exist. May be there is love or call that sense of parasitic or helpless attachment as love. But certainly there is no friendship!...It is not a complete relationship of total mutual trust and faith where peace, contentment, total health prevails!!...and unfortunately
'ANY RELATIONSHIP THAT DOES NOT HAVE THE UNCONDITIONAL FRIENDSHIP AS THE BACK BONE WILL BREAK MENTALLY OR PHYSICALLY OR SOCIALLY SOME TIME OR THE OTHER OR SURVIVE ON WEAK STRINGS'
peacefully yours...rams
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