Dear all...today's lines on RELATIONSHIPS...
For every person to connect to the other, even after getting attracted or otherwise, there are few necessary conditions for any relationships to blossom, otherwise there is no chance of any open relationship known to each other is possible:-
1. oppurtunity to meet in person or virtual space ....visual or oral or other methods....
2. oppurtunity to communicate
3. matching of communication mode
without any communication of any sort there is no way that two people can form any relationship with the knowledge of each other. Of course, any one can form a relationship with any one in their fantasies without the knowledge of the concerned person!...In this case no one gets affected, unlike in the other case.
Some relationships form after at least one person gets attracted to the other. Some attractions develop after the relationships are formed. In these cases the people concerned get repeated oppurtunity to meet, communicate, share thoughts and emotions.
Two unknown people when they repeatedly cross every day on their way can end up in a relationship. Two cats and dog type of people, who do not like each other, also can end up in attractions and relationships (how?...read my previous post on this subject!..needs baby needs!!...e.g two people of opposite or same sex stranded in an isolated place without any one to communicate/help and put in a situation of survival threat e.g an island, in a room, in an organisation, in a society etc
so, without an oppurtunity to meet in anyway, no relationships known to each other can form!!
Even if they get an oppurtunity to meet, there should be an oppurtunity to communicate!!...otherwise, no relationship can form!!
Today there are several ways to communicate with people all over the world. Opportunities are plenty and available on finger tips without any difficulty and at our ease!...so, matching of communication mode is very important. If the person who has less needs...i.e the person who has the control of the relationship, likes a particular mode of communication, then the other person, HAS TO like that mode, acquire skills in that and become expert, in order to form and retain that person and relationship. This is the basic minimum required!!...
Even after that there is no guarantee of that relationship surviving for a long time because there are lakhs and crores of skilled, knowledgeable, attractive, like minded matching people available on the finger tips that one can get attracted to any one soooooo easily!!
As age changes, body organs change, moods change, interests change, needs change, people change, relationships also change!!!....It is a painful thing but we have to accept!!
One becomes possessive about many people and many relationships!!...Unable to leave any one and anything and life becomes complicated!!
Therefore, getting attracted is easy, forming relationships is easy, BUT...BUT...BUT...RETAINING PEOPLE AND RELATIONSHIPS FOR LIFE LONG WITH SAME INTEREST, LOVE, VIGOUR, MATCHING TASTE-EMOTIONS-LIKES-DISLIKES-BELIEFS-NEEDS-WANTS ETC IS ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE!!!!!!
So, though we try to retain the social systems we created (with lots of difficulty!!), Nature easily makes our own selves come out with technologies which can make Nature to win by making us break our own creations of social systems, rules, regulations, beliefs, customs-traditions-culture-heritage etc!!!
NOoooooooooooooooooooo one, Noooooooooooooo culture, Nooooooooooooo system can work against Nature and Win!!!!!!!!!!
peacefully yours....rams!!
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