hai friends...all of us are in some emotional relationship or the other with some one in this world...any contact or acquaintance or relation becoming a relationship is a difficult thing...sustaining the emotional relationship for a long time throughout life is another difficult thing...this includes 'spouse' also!
is it that the relationship has become boring?...monotonous?...or we want a change?...or love has vapourised?...the chemical reaction is all over?...many oldies think about some one else while being with their spouse!...in olden days MGR movies filled the fantasies of many!
Is this the inevitable end point of a long-term relationship?
a large percentage of couples stay intensely in love even after a decade of marriage. How do they manage?
physically affectionate behaviors such as hugging and kissing keep it going. Oxytocin, the “cuddle hormone,” goes coursing through our bodies when we receive hugs or make love. We then feel closer to the other and long-term bonding ensues.
social connection is a fundamental human need and essential for our physical and mental well-being. Affection is such an important element of love. some say that where there is no physical affection, there is a loveless relationship.
frequency of reproductive act has also been found to be strongly associated with intensity in love. For some converse is also true.
Physical affection is so powerful that, even if a relationship doesn't always seem perfect , it may help make up for the negatives. Certain couples report low marital satisfaction due, presumably, to some of the common challenges couples face (e.g. differences in parenting styles, financial stress, divisions of responsibility). However, if their levels of physical affection remained high, the couple still reported intense love.
Thinking positively about one’s partner is another common element of couples intensely in love. When people see each other every day, they can sometimes take each other for granted and stop noticing the characteristics they used to appreciate about their mate. However, a little awareness and gratitude may go a long way in countering this tendency.
When we get to know someone well, we naturally learn about both their strengths and their weaknesses but it is really up to us whether we choose to focus one side or the other. By focusing on what we appreciate and admire in our partner and being grateful for the value and gifts that our partner brings into our lives, we cannot but think positively and may feel more intense love as a consequence.
Love may also be cultivated in shared experiences. Couples intensely in love report participating in novel, engaging, and challenging activities together. Some of the greatest moments of intimacy in a relationship come from the simple joys of cooking or exercising together, exchanging intellectual ideas over common readings, learning a new and challenging skill like skiing, sharing spirituality by attending church or meditating, and going on travel adventures. That togetherness may create a shared thread of life experience and memories.
What of happiness? Can a relationship lead to happiness? Certainly, it can. Taking care of your own happiness may also be important. Personal happiness was associated with intensity of love, especially for women. In other words, one may think that tending to one’s own well-being through a night out with friends or time at the gym is selfish, but taking responsibility for one’s own happiness has the potential to drastically improve the quality of our relationship. Of course, being intensely in love may also be contributing to the happiness observed.
long-term love is here to stay and has absolutely nothing to do with material goods. Sharing affection, thinking positively and with gratitude about our partner’s qualities, engaging in shared activities and being happy independently of the relationship may all be important features of an intensely loving relationship.
keep rocking guys and gals...
rams
is it that the relationship has become boring?...monotonous?...or we want a change?...or love has vapourised?...the chemical reaction is all over?...many oldies think about some one else while being with their spouse!...in olden days MGR movies filled the fantasies of many!
Is this the inevitable end point of a long-term relationship?
a large percentage of couples stay intensely in love even after a decade of marriage. How do they manage?
physically affectionate behaviors such as hugging and kissing keep it going. Oxytocin, the “cuddle hormone,” goes coursing through our bodies when we receive hugs or make love. We then feel closer to the other and long-term bonding ensues.
social connection is a fundamental human need and essential for our physical and mental well-being. Affection is such an important element of love. some say that where there is no physical affection, there is a loveless relationship.
frequency of reproductive act has also been found to be strongly associated with intensity in love. For some converse is also true.
Physical affection is so powerful that, even if a relationship doesn't always seem perfect , it may help make up for the negatives. Certain couples report low marital satisfaction due, presumably, to some of the common challenges couples face (e.g. differences in parenting styles, financial stress, divisions of responsibility). However, if their levels of physical affection remained high, the couple still reported intense love.
Thinking positively about one’s partner is another common element of couples intensely in love. When people see each other every day, they can sometimes take each other for granted and stop noticing the characteristics they used to appreciate about their mate. However, a little awareness and gratitude may go a long way in countering this tendency.
When we get to know someone well, we naturally learn about both their strengths and their weaknesses but it is really up to us whether we choose to focus one side or the other. By focusing on what we appreciate and admire in our partner and being grateful for the value and gifts that our partner brings into our lives, we cannot but think positively and may feel more intense love as a consequence.
Love may also be cultivated in shared experiences. Couples intensely in love report participating in novel, engaging, and challenging activities together. Some of the greatest moments of intimacy in a relationship come from the simple joys of cooking or exercising together, exchanging intellectual ideas over common readings, learning a new and challenging skill like skiing, sharing spirituality by attending church or meditating, and going on travel adventures. That togetherness may create a shared thread of life experience and memories.
What of happiness? Can a relationship lead to happiness? Certainly, it can. Taking care of your own happiness may also be important. Personal happiness was associated with intensity of love, especially for women. In other words, one may think that tending to one’s own well-being through a night out with friends or time at the gym is selfish, but taking responsibility for one’s own happiness has the potential to drastically improve the quality of our relationship. Of course, being intensely in love may also be contributing to the happiness observed.
long-term love is here to stay and has absolutely nothing to do with material goods. Sharing affection, thinking positively and with gratitude about our partner’s qualities, engaging in shared activities and being happy independently of the relationship may all be important features of an intensely loving relationship.
keep rocking guys and gals...
rams
