two most important things in life....

Dear all...This is for all....

what's the first, basic fundamental knowledge one should get and read it every day?....

Ans. The meaning and purpose of life!!....

What's the most important and vital skill one should have? ...

Ans: The skill to be peaceful, happy and healthy!!...

Without these two all other qualifications are useless!!...

A big waste!!...

One who does not know these two can be termed as 'not having practical intelligence required to live in this world!!....

Now we know what we have, what we lack and what should we do now!!!

Peacefully yours...Rams....Psychologist!!

THIS IS FOR ALL...ESPECIALLY THE MARRIED PEOPLE...

Dear all....THIS IS FOR ALL...ESPECIALLY THE MARRIED PEOPLE...

Our culture has sadly inculcated certain things like...

1. Man is the Head of the Family. He has the complete command and control of all decisions and entire functioning of the family.

2. Husband is superior to his wife irrespective of the difference in intelligence, decision making skills, administrative and managerial skills, social adaptability and intelligence etc.

So, even if the husband was an incapable guy, comparatively, then also he was holding the authority and power.

The present older and middle age generation belongs to this. I only hope that the younger generation men do not have this EGO OF 'i', 'ME' 'MY'.

Sadly this is prevalent even in husbands who are highly educated and are leaders and managers at the senior management level in organisations where they emphasize team work, team winning etc. But when it comes to their own home, family, they see that they are the bosses and expect others to obey their orders, remain practically in reality as the slaves, not to speak anything against their orders etc. They feel that they only can administer the family, they are only right, they only know everything. Therefore, always fights, hates, anger, frustration, isolation, cold wars, walls in socialisation exist in the family. The children try to avoid father by taking night shifts etc so that during day time when the dad is not at home, they are there. Every one after all wants peace, so that they can concentrate on their work and life pursuits. Wife also smartly cuts. If she is head-on with the husband then they make the home a hell or land up in the hospital or come infront of a counsellor.

Basically home is a social organisation where winning is a team work, and not individual performance. When the husband wants to win as an individual in front of his wife or others, then the family is likely to lose in the 'one brain and many bodies' decision making and working or living environment. When every one, irrespective of age and gender, sit together, discuss (not egoistically argue!), and come to a consense keeping 'family' or winning as the team in the forefront, then home becomes heaven, relationships strengthen, every one become peaceful, happy and healthy, synergy is achieved, everyone becomes a winner, every one experiences the best love from the other, and The Family - the fundamental structure of any social system or country becomes strong, ideal, a role-model family etc.

So, the crux is...

1. Let us unlearn the old conventional, traditional and egoistic cultural mind set that Man is the Head of the Family, learn to accept everyone as a potential Human Resource, respect their life experiences, education, etc, (as no one's experience is inferior to the other!).

2. Let us look at winning as a team at the home front too, like in any organisation or department.

3. Peace, happiness and health of everyone in the family is equally important to ensure all these as a family and to live as a family, otherwise the man will get isolated, depressed and feel cheated by his wife and children, at least when he retires or when he becomes aged, physically weak, helpless and needs the support of others in the family. At that time no point in sobbing 'I did soo much, i worked like a donkey my entire life for these people only, for my family only, but they look at me as a butcher, animal, threat and a terrorist!'

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

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THIS IS FOR ALL ADULTS...ESPECIALLY PARENTS...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL ADULTS...ESPECIALLY PARENTS...

As children below 5 years, we were peaceful and happy!

Moment we crossed 5, we were injected with all sorts of negative social concepts of life and relationships that we lost peace and happiness!

Children are creations of Gods with perfect alignment to Nature...& Human Nature too!...

We pollute them with wrong social learning and make their life miserable!!

Animals are innocent, cute and energetic. They are unconditional. So, they are beautiful. Of course, when they get aged they are unable to handle the energy levels required to be cute. So, some degradation occurs. But they retain their innocence.

children also have the same qualities. They are innocent...and they are cute...and cuteness is beautiful!!...

Grown up people can be beautiful only in youthfulness!!...which is not good, as it is an attraction for reproductive needs and it disappears once the reproductive stage gets over!!...So, innocence is the only way to be cute and beautiful after middle and old age. But a person truly remains cute and beautiful throughout life if the person is INNOCENT all the time.

Identifying, evading and countering the threats to avoid cheating and exploitation can be done while being innocent too. So, being vigilant, anxiety struck, rigid, authoritative, egoistic always is not required as it will only bring coffin loads of diseases of body, mind and relationships!

So, when adults have high positive energy levels (which children have!!) and are innocent, then they become cute and beautiful like children!!

Innocence is easy and natural as we are products and elements of nature. It is not stressful. But being rigid and socially conscious is difficult, requires efforts, unnatural and stressful. So, brings diseases.

Innocence relives stress. It is good for mental health!!

Animals are unconditional, universal, innocent and therefore are not possessive and they don't have any relationship issues and mental health issues. As they remain to be 'food gatherers', unchanged by evolution, they are physically also healthy.

Even in office environments one can be happy, smiling, innocent, with high energy levels leading to more productivity compared to an anxiety struck and serious robot!...After all, synergy (i.e 1+1 >2) can be achieved only with human beings and not with other resources like materials or money in organisations. Also only innocent and high energy people can bring in life in organisations and not by those robotic people. Of course, when others try to take things for granted we can indicate that 'we mean business!' by several other positive means.

Responsibility means only ACTIVITY!...So, responsible parent and adult means only ACTIVITIES...Responsibility does not mean to be rigid, serious, egoistic, no smile, anxious, slow moving, energy-less!!

Innocence is positive and contagious. The opposite is negative and people will go away from us leading to social isolation and depression.

The purpose and aim of life to be physically, mentally and socially healthy. All other purposes are untrue, society created for self motives, illusion, mirage, and will make you die while being alive and take you to grave faster!!

So, BE INNOCENT, ENERGETIC, POSITIVE ALWAYS AND FOR ENTIRE LIFE...LIVE HEALTHY, HAPPY AND WIN IN LIFE TOO!!...WINNING ANYTHING WITHOUT THESE IS ACTUALLY LOSING AND A WASTE!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

THIS IS FOR ALL...SPECIFICALLY FOR CHILDREN AND ADOLESCENTS...FOR PARENTS TO TEACH THEIR CHILDREN....

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...SPECIFICALLY FOR CHILDREN AND ADOLESCENTS...FOR PARENTS TO TEACH THEIR CHILDREN....

We are all products of Nature...

So, more we remain with Nature, more we can feel love and feel peaceful...

All of us are part of Nature and the entire earth has billions and billions of living species...

Of these, only one living organism is Human Being!!

So, if we know how to love all the billions, then we will know how to love human beings too!!

So, one who knows how to love the nature, will know how to handle human beings and their relationships!!

Therefore, parents should first learn and spend more time with pets, plant life, other insects, animals and other non-living like sun, moon, hills, mountains, water bodies, etc. and make their children also to develop relationships with all these.

Once they become experts in this, then automatically they will learn to make, maintain and retain life long strong relationships with human beings too, which has been always a challenging issue to all human beings and the challenge only has been becoming worse day by day!!

Peacefully yours....Rams....Psychologist!!

THIS IS FOR ALL THOSE WHO ARE ABOVE 40 YEARS....

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL THOSE WHO ARE ABOVE 40 YEARS...

We get born here. We keep growing from infant...to a baby...to a child...to an early adolescent...to a middle adolescent...to a late adolescent...to a young adult (18 to 25)...to an early adult (20 to 40)...to a middle adult (40 to 60)...to a late adult (60 to 80)...old age (>80)...During this process our body undergoes lots of internal and external changes...This changes our definitions of life...the way we look at life...people...the relationships...the world ....

Every age brings in a marked change in our thoughts, feelings and behaviours or activities.

In general, if we observe the difference...if i have to explain in one line...I feel there are only five stages...

1. Infant
2. Childhood (upto 13)
3. Reproductive age (13 to 40...or 45)
4. Childhood (>40 or 45)
5. Infant (>80)

THE REVERSAL OF AGE TAKES PLACE!!

Children are generally happy, enjoy freedom, create their own world, live their life more with Nature, and see all relationships same. They are unconditional. They are almost Gods.

During the reproductive age we produce children, feel responsible and sink in the gamut of grooming, mentoring and guiding acts of responsibility, making the children responsible and growing. We feel more worried and anxiety struck!!

Once they grow up, once we are in the decline of reproductive ability or free of responsibilities then the reversal of age and stage takes place.

We again become...we should become...CHILDREN!

And enjoy the life like the way children enjoy their life...free from worries...may be we can go to schools...play with children...enjoy being with them...as we are also of the same mentality or attitude...

we should be also feeling like children...but the society expects us to feel aged...to feel old...which is not good for physical and mental health...we will age faster, we will become old faster...we will get ailments, pains, diseases faster!!

NO WONDER, ALL THOSE WHO HAVE CROSSED 40 GET OBESE AND GET ALL SORTS OF AILMENTS AND DISEASES OF BODY AND MIND!!

After 80 we become like infants...can't remember anything...become weak...we need help of others for even the basic chores...we can't see...we can't taste...we can't speak...we can't walk...we wet the bed...we defecate on bed...we are exactly infants!!

The periods of ages and stages given above change little here and there for different people depending upon their food and life style. By and large, the changes occur at that age.

So, the crux is...

1. We are infants at the beginning
2. Till we reach 13 we are children.
3. After we attain age and become reproductive we become responsible adults.
4. After we lose the ability of reproductive power we again become children.
5. Then we become infants again.

THEREFORE, EVERYONE WHO HAS CROSSED 40 OR 45, FEEL YOU ARE A CHILD AND ENJOY THE LIFE!!...DON'T GET BURIED IN WORRIES AND OLD AGE THOUGHTS, FEELINGS AND BEHAVIOURS, AS EXPECTED BY THE SOCIETY!!....FEEL YOUNG, ENERGETIC, HAVE LEARNING ATTITUDE LIKE CHILDREN, CREATING YOUR OWN REAL AND FANTASY WORLD OF HAPPINESS, HOME, FAMILY, ENJOY REALIZING THE CHILDHOOD DREAMS, PASSIONS AND GOALS (AS YOU HAVE MONEY AND BECOME INDEPENDENT NOW)!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

THIS IS FOR ALL MEN AND WOMEN

🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL MEN AND WOMEN...

In our country...

1. A man cannot have a successful, peaceful, happy, healthy, contented, fulfilled FAMILY LIFE without the support of his wife!!

2. A woman cannot have a successful PROFESSIONAL LIFE in a family without the support of the Men in her life...Father and Husband!!

So, let the men support the women in their professional life and the women support men in their family life!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷

.THIS IS FOR THOSE WHO WANT TO CHANGE OTHERS...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR THOSE WHO WANT TO CHANGE OTHERS...

There are three positive and powerful methods of changing others...

1. By meeting one's needs, wants and expectations and making them to learn new things when they are in the blissful state of satiation of their needs.

2. By asking lots of questions and making the person to think the way you think!...But if your thinking is aligned with nature, the other person will be happy, peaceful and healthy after change of behaviour. Else will suffer.

3. By appreciating the positive things about people without any flattery. When they are appreciated, their brain will feel happy and produce neurotransmitters that will generate a positive and healthy mind, which will make them think correctly, humanely and positively. They will also gain confidence on you to listen to you. So, slowly by their own-selves or with the support of you or trained therapists they will change through a healthy manner.

In general, these changes are likely to be permanent.

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!