Our new year resolve should be to go to bed by 10 pm positively!!

Hai all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

Wish you all a great new year ahead and i wish all of you go to sleep by 10 pm and get up by 5 am and do yoga...and live a meditative life throughout, each day!!

statistics says that people are getting life style diseases because they are not sleeping early and not getting 6 TO 8 HOURS OF CONTINUOUS, UNINTERRUPTED, NIGHT SLEEP!!...Such people are more vulnerable to diabetes, hypertension and other cardiovascular diseases which will take them to grave slowly and faster without our knowledge!!

Parents shout at children to go to sleep early but keep looking at fb or whatsapp till late midnight!!

So, let us do all these socialisation before 10 pm and hug the pillow!!

Let this be the new year resolve for all!!

rams

'in future and now, it appears to be seemingly impossible for one person to live entire life with only one person.'

Dear all...THIS IS FOR PEOPLE BETWEEN 13 TO 30.

The society is becoming multicultural and world shrinking into a global village with oppurtunities for every one to make large number of friendships from a young childhood.

Therefore multiple emotional relationships, especially with opposite sex, becomes the CULTURE and unavoidable.

In the past, population was less, communication media means only meeting in person and talking for which the society was against in the case of relationships with opposite sex, so they could live their entire life with one person with all sorts of communication, sharing of emotions and social interaction with that person only...called husband or wife...i.e person of opposite sex.

so, today and in future every one will have multiple emotional relationships of various kinds with opposite sex. So, it appears to be seemingly impossible for one person to live entire life with only one person.

Therefore, there is a new learning required...accepting that...

1. your spouse/lover will have many close friends with emotional involvement.

2. Unless there is a strong common connection or field of interest or thing to talk, we can not avoid our person spending more time, energy, emotions with the other friends.

3. One can not be possessive.

4. Sexual relationships will decide how long one will live with the other.

5. It is important for every one to know what kind of person he or she is with respect to sexual relationships or socialisation so that they can find their suitable match or live alone without marriage with more friendships.

6. there can be many methods....a. living alone....b. married but living without kids....c. married, kids living away from parents....d. married, producing kids, living together (this requires lots of commitment, understanding in the social environment described above, to live together and rear children, else the multidimensional development of kids will get affected and they will grow out to be with lots of personality disorders. At least living together for about 20 years will be required so that the children become independent and understanding)

7. marrying only for sex is a waste, and one needs to find out and clearly know what he or she wants out of marriage or love or relationship with the opposite sex. The biggest problem is many do not know!...People get bored easily and fast with sex or when there is no common single subject that keeps them attracted for socialisation.

So, it is going to be challenge for all the young adults and adolescents TO LIVE WITH MORE EMOTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS and ACHIEVEMENT ORIENTED, SKILL AND KNOWLEDGE BASED life and day-to-day living. So, life philosophy and wisdom are important to keep physical, mental and social well being, peace, happiness, contentment and fulfillment in life and relationships.

Peacefully yours...rams...

who is the best teacher of life?

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

Most of the quotes or lessons-of-life or philosophies or wisdom are taken out of Nature, referred to Nature, examples are from Nature...plants, trees, insects, birds, animals, river, mountain, clouds, water falls and such other things!!...In-animates and animates which are of considered as much lower form in evolution than us!!

So, the Mother Nature, the God, teaches us everything. One who lives with Nature, observing it keenly, learns all the philosophies on his own. He enjoys the life and earth more.Derives 'happiness' out of these.

So, it is worth living with Nature, the last chance given to us!!

Peacefully yours...rams...

Why we are not able to come out of the issues we have in our life??

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

For most of us the biggest head ache or the things which we suffer from are...

1. Obesity
2. Depression
3. Anxiety
4. Stress
5. Diabetes
6. Hypertension
7. Cardio-vascular diseases

The list is long. Moment we hear that we suffer from this, we go tighttt to the max, unable to sustain over a long time or life span, then we relax and go back to the normal usual state, giving up everything, reaching a learned-helplessness state...i.e 'i know what i have to do, but unable to do!'. We need to be gradually changing, positive in mind and enjoy the new life style, enjoy the change.

So, we are always at the extremes of both sides and never at the middle. We are always sinusoidal and never flat and stable!...This is because we never design OUR OWN SUSTAINABLE PLAN THAT IS SUITABLE FOR US...WE ARE COPY MASTERS!!

Also we are never able to keep parameters stable. This is because we mostly apply SINGLE INTERVENTION...mostly only medicine or as an exception walks, some times. But the truth is MULTIPLE INTERVENTIONS ARE REQUIRED TO CURE ALL THE ISSUES. ALL ARE 'LIFE STYLE' DISEASES OR AILMENTS OR DISORDERS, AND SO, ENTIRE LIFE STYLE HAS TO BE REDESIGNED, RETAINING THE GOOD ONES AND MODIFYING THE LIFE STYLES THAT ARE UNHEALTHY TO THAT INDIVIDUAL.

So, the crux is...

WHEN WE HAVE AN ISSUE RELATED TO THE BODY OR MIND OR SOCIAL LIFE, WE HAVE TO APPLY 'MULTIPLE INTERVENTIONS', CHANGE THE 'ENTIRE LIFE STYLE' AND WE SHOULD NOT LIVE AT THE EXTREMES, LIVE AT THE MIDDLE.

Peacefully yours...rams...

strangers we meet, we fall in love, strangers we separate!!....sssssstrange for the highly evolved species on earth!!

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

It is a strange thing that happens with human beings...the most advanced form of life on earth!!

Strangers meet...interact...socialise...and become lovers...feel they can't live with out each other even a minute...and after some time...separate as strangers!!....sadddddd!!

Why?....lack of adaptability, unable to accept people as they are, lack of knowledge that people change with the change of needs, wants, expectations, goals in life, life stage, age, maturing, evolving, growing etc...lack of knowledge that obsessive sexual love fades off after some time due to a host of reasons!!....If only the marriage social commitment was not there, most of them would have got separated from their spouse, except those who matured to committed love.

Anyway...peacefully yours....rams!!

somethings good for peace...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

'We need not speak volumes and volumes to change people. We need not try to teach, tearing our throat, to our children about many good things. One simple positive behaviour of ours can change them completely overnight!!'

Peacefully yours...rams...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

'we don't have to read volumes and volumes of psychology books or books on morals, values and ethics, not required to read any such books or listen to great speeches. If we are good human beings, the way Nature has produced us, for which we need not require any effort, then others will write volumes and volumes of theories on us which will become books and code of conduct for all!!'

Peacefully yours...rams....

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

'All human beings are equal. Every one is important in any social system (home, office etc). Every job is important. All are equal as human beings!'

If this 'learning' (not knowledge or awareness or sensitization or consciousness) is there in us then evvvvvvvvvvverything will fall in place. Our relationships, our people, our management, leadership, happiness, peace in us and others....evverthing!!

If it not there as a 'learning', then we will fake it which can be easily observed and understood by others as a 'leadership' or a 'management tactic'!!

we need not teach this to our children. They will learn this through observation. Not only children but others around us too!!...Because positive and Natural behaviours are easily contagious!!

If this is not there there can be no peace in our lives, relationships and in the life of others at home and in organisations.

Our traditional culture does not teach this!!

Peacefully yours...rams...

THIS IS FOR PARENTS...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL PARENTS...

Almost all parents lose their patience and in frustration start shouting at their children negatively by saying 'You are useless. You can't do even such simple things. You don't have common sense! You are an utter waste on this earth!!' and make them go out of track more and more.

If some one takes it negatively then that person can become a robber, terrorist and all such negative people. The person who takes it positively can become an achiever and that instant/person/place/moment can become an enlightening second.

If you say like this every day to even the best of the person who believes in what you say, then that person can turnout to be the worst!!

No one wants to hear that he or she is worst and no worth.

Even if you tell some unknown on the road 'You are not beautiful. You are ugly!' you can damage a person's day or self concept. We don't want to hear such statements or remarks even from unknown people!

Whereas one positive remark like 'Don't worry. You are the best!!...come, Let us work together!!' can change the life of a person totally. Positive things bring positives. Negative things mostly bring only negatives!!

It is such an easy thing to tell positives and feel peaceful and happy too. But then why our parents hype their emotions soooo much, spend more energy, put in sooo much of efforts to tell negative and spoil the life of the child and curse them too for not being successful???....Our culture is a fantastic culture!!

Peacefully yours...rams...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

"Only people who want to change will change looking at positive behaviors.

No one understood good people like budha or jesus when they lived!

Only people who want to better themselves will change by looking at positive behaviors"

hihihi...these are not mine!!...Comments of my friend!! (winking!!)

Peacefully yours...rams...

Which faith of god or karma etc we should follow?

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

It is immaterial which FAITH of god or karma or religion or language or caste or society we follow.

If we are not good human beings, if we not able to adapt and coexist with other human beings around, if we are not peaceful, if we are not happy, if we are not healthy, if we are not self actualised, if we are not contented, if we are not feeling fulfillment in life, then either our faith is not suitable for us or our perception about our faith is not ok.

Peacefully yours...rams....

FOR ALL PARENTS AND READY-TO-MARRY CHILDREN...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR PARENTS ARE 'READY-TO-MARRY' CHILDREN...

It is sad to see that some of the traditional-minded parents screwing up their precious life and the life of their children saying 'relatives are asking or pestering or pressurizing'.

1. They want some how to get their children married off (wasting their life time earning!) so that they can walk upright (!!).

2. They want their children to some how have sex with their spouse and produce a child so that they are free from their relatives.

I don't know how much of peace or health or happiness value the so called relatives have in their life!!

These parents also can not think of a family or married living other than the conventional/traditional one. They want every change that is happening in all the domains (e.g education, jobs etc) without any change in the family living which is not possible without sacrificing the vitals viz peace, happiness and health.

This is across the board irrespective of educational or exposure or economic status of the parents.

They think in a state of learned-helplessness that life is full of problems and social issues which is unavoidable as they don't know or can't think creatively about peaceful, happy and healthy living.

In fact, if some one wants to live a traditional married life, then it is better the boy marries some remote village girl or an uneducated servant maid (in future one can not get such people also) or both the boy, girl and their parents sit and discuss and accept and implement the mutually accepted things in words and spirit without any strategic game play like in tv serials.

1. It is better not to marry rather than screwing up the life of another person.

2. 'who will look after when we get old?'....if some one thinks he has produced children to look after them at their old age then he/she is not aligned with Nature and is a fool and their life will be doomed (including that of their children). Social systems also will change and new concepts like life-style-matching old age homes and societies-of-like-minded will emerge. Nothing wrong in them. They are welcome changes!!

3. Changes in language, organisations, social systems (marriage, family etc) and everything is Natural and nothing is in our hands. Everything evolves and changes, matching to the changes in other domains.

4. People will marry but live away from each other due to their job requirements or passion. ('then why to marry if they can't live together?'....marriage for them may not be for sex but for companionship!

5. Many may not be interested in producing children and rearing due to the nature of their job, passion, responsibilities and demands of time, energy, money and various other reasons.

6. For many, sex or reproduction may not be a priority.

7. Many families are likely to be single parent families, all responsibilities shouldered singularly by the girls, even if they live together.

8. Marrying only for sex is like buying a coffee shop saying i like coffee. The marriage will fail miserably.

9. Most of the boys and girls do not know why they are marrying and what they are interested in with the other person...sex? family life with children?...emotional support?... just their physical presence?... or a mixture of more than one of these?.....only after some time after marriage they realise, by then it is too late, and they accept to live like that or break-up legally or physically or mentally or socially. So, one needs to be clear as to what they want out of the marriage or family.

10. Every person and personality is different. Some personalities are fighters that they become politicians or activists or lawyers. Some are highly intelligent and introverts that they become scientists. So, job selection, course selection and marriage partner selection is based on personalities and their professions. If there is a mismatch then marriage will fail.

11. Applying force or tactics or strategies will only fail miserably. Some might appear to be a success but in overall reality they will turn up to be failures.

so, the crux is....BE WITH THE CHANGE AND SUPPORT THE CHANGE TO BE STABLE, HAPPY, HEALTHY AND PEACEFUL.

Peacefully yours...rams....

what drives us to live on this earth...pleasures or happiness??

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

All of us do some activity or the other from the time of getting up in the morning to going to bed in the night for sleep!...At home, at office, outside on the road, society etc.

We do all these activities for what?...We do chores at home and office because we feel they are basic necessities for survival and living, or responsibilities. We do many things for money, securities (wealth, money, skills, emotions, physical, social etc), pleasures and happiness.

ONLY WHEN WE THINK THAT I AM DOING ALL THESE FOR HELPING OTHERS TO BE SUCCESSFUL IN THEIR LIFE, TO MAKE THEM FEEL 'HAPPY', WE GET 'CONTENTMENT' AND 'FULFILLMENT' IN LIFE, WHICH ARE VERY IMPORTANT IN LIFE TO GET 'PEACE' AND 'HAPPINESS', and also to get the motivation or drive to live on this earth.

IF WE DON'T PERCEIVE THIS THEN WE WILL ONLY GET MONEY, PLEASURES, WEALTH ETC WHICH MAY NOT GIVE CONTENTMENT AND FULFILLMENT TO GET PEACE IN MIND. AND A LIFE AND WHATEVER WE EARN OR GET WITHOUT PEACE IS A WASTE!!...They can only give 'urges' 'greed' 'want more and more' feeling, frustrations due to unfulfilled needs, sadness, fights, strained or broken relationships, loss of people etc...ALL NEGATIVES IN LIFE!!!

Peacefully yours...rams....

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enjoy what ever you like now...that interest might go off later and may not get it ever again...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

What ever we are interested in, we may not be interested in after some time. What is priority may not be priority later. There are many who watch 3 or 4 films in a day during youth, does not like movies at all after some time. What we like to eat now, we may not like to eat after few years. The list goes on.

So, our interests keep changing. Wants and needs keep changing. What we like the most in life at every stage in life keeps changing.
i.e WE KEEP CHANGING!!

So, enjoy what ever you like in that age and stage in life, provided it does not spoil the body and mind!!...You may not get that interest and liking later in life and you might miss out!!

Childhood, adolescence, youth and adult hood does not come again...once lost, always lost and life is only once...you will not get it again!!

Peacefully yours...rams....

Which are the two most important things in life?

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

Everything we earn...money, wealth, fame, power etc goes off after some time...they are with us only for a short while...All of them leave certainly after the death...they are probably not useful even to increase the life time.

But BODY and MIND are with us till the end, each and every second of our life. They decide how healthy, rich, comfortable and peaceful we feel. They can probably increase our life time, but certainly the quality of our life and living!!...So, truly these are the two which make our life and all that we feel, PERCEIVE about EVERYTHING and every one in life!...So, these two matter the most in our lives than money, wealth, fame, power etc.

Then why we are insensitive about this fact and kill our BODY and MIND every second for the remaining list of things???????????????

Peacefully yours....rams....

what is the need of the hour to live this precious single life on this beautiful earth?

Dear all...THIS IS FOR YOUNG PEOPLE AND PARENTS...India is a fantastic country...

from riches to poor...
from powerful to powerless...
even people supposed to live a simple sadhu life...

all and every one runs behind money and wealth!!...the single goal in life!!

Parents educate children to make them earn money and wealth!

All organisations from govt to private, product manufacturers to service providers, from profit oriented to religious and spiritual organisations......every one is behind money and wealth!!

ok, how much money and wealth?...No one knows!!!!!!!!...No one is able to answer!!!

News papers are fullll of corruption (greed), pleasures, and about people who live unethical, immoral, valueless life...Going behind bars after corruption with a smiling face is status symbol!!

Because money and wealth can fetch anything to any one in this country!!....power, status, promotion, authority, approvals, sanctions, deity darshan in temples, love, wife, daughter, son, husband, mother, father, sister, brother...evvverything!!

Eating medicine like food, eating food like medicine, diabetes, hypertension, heart ailments, obesity have become acceptable normal way of living.

Being immoral, unethical and valueless is a measure of smartness and such 'smart' people groom more 'smart' people!!

We are the best in breaking any strictest law in the world without the law knowing it, breaching best of the securities in the world without any best intelligence knowing it....the best crooked and wicked brains and minds that can create virus, antivirus in all domains of life!!

Can such people live in...1. Peace?....2. good physical, mental and social well-being?....3. can they be contented?....4. Can they see a sense of fulfillment in their life?.....4. Can they call their life a success?.....5. Can they call themselves to be good human beings and expect their offspring to be good human beings?.....

I think it is high time to switch over to life of vedic times!!...It does not mean go to jungles and sit in meditation. NOooooooooooooo!!

It only means pitch your life on unlimited knowledge, wisdom, multiple skills, ethics, human values, morals, good physical-mental and social health, happiness, pleasures that come out of happiness (giving, service) and not happiness that is perceived out of pleasures, self dependency, freedom, self reliance, goal setting for self and not in comparison etc.

It is highly needed now and in future to tackle and live peacefully in the uncertain unpredictable dynamics in society, culture, economy, business, relationships, organisational/individual survival...evverything!!

This way, we may not reach the top in one profession (i.e levels to reach which corruption or immoral and unethical acts need to be done)...but will reach near-top in many professions, become very strong in body and mind (like Bodhisattva) and outstanding in mental skills, make great life long relationships, will be liked and loved by all, will live long, will be contented, will be peaceful, will feel fulfilled, will feel self actualised at the end of the life cycle!!

If some one does not agree with the above can keep the grave ready, sleeping pills ready to sleep, continue living the false life cheating own-self and wasting the precious single life time chance to live and long on this beautiful garden called earth!!

Peacefully yours....rams....

Be selfish...it is the best way of life and living!!

Dear all...i just found it on fb and shared...i think every one should follow this every year and all throughout life...for peace, health, growth, fulfillment and contentment...We need to be selfish that first we have to be healthy and happy to ensure happiness and good health of others around! It does not mean hit others' belly to get these two. It only means invest your precious life time in health, self improvement in all dimensions, don't waste time in gossips and negative perception of others, invest your life time in knowledge, becoming a better person, serving this knowledge and wisdom to others etc in the positive sense. Not that 'selfish' that our culture teaches about and you think about!!.....Peacefully yours....rams!!

THIS IS FOR ALL UNMARRIED BOYS...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL UNMARRIED BOYS...

If you marry a girl for good food, clean house, 'wear-ready' clothes, clean kitchen and toilet and other body needs, you will be disappointed!!...Instead you can marry a 'house maid'...she will give all these!!

Don't expect the girl of today to be like your mother...'an earning house maid'!!

We need to accept the fact that two tired minds and bodies can not do any house chore happily and always, and satisfy each other in body and mind!!...They will only fight out of frustration!!

Instead, if you look for a great friend, life long companionship, good motivator, encouragement, support, a (virtual) shoulder to lean-on, then you can go ahead marrying the girl of today!!

Offloading is the only way of life and living, both at home and office, and traditional Division of Labour is obsolete and no more applicable!!...If you believe in 'All are equal' at home, then your marriage and life can be successful, peaceful, happy and healthy!!

Peacefully yours...rams...

THIS IS FOR LOVERS...HOW TO WIN IN LOVE?

Dear all...THIS IS FOR LOVERS...

Today every one has many friendships which can turn into love any time. So, only way to retain your lover...your love...your peace...your health....is through DEVOTIONAL LOVE!!...i.e caring for some one beyond the wants, needs, expectations, appearance, personality traits, age etc.

Peacefully yours...rams...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR LOVERS...

How to make parents to agree for love marriage?

very very simple!!

"Become positively powerful, rich and wealthy!!"

200% they will fall flat!!...parents of both sides will fall flat!!

One method is clearing CIVIL SERVICES!!

Indian parents are always INSECURE and SCARED!!

When they find their child or child's lover is powerful, rich and wealthy they will forget all sorts of caste, religion and other differences and fall flat!!

All the best!!

Peacefully yours...rams...

take happiness in giving....and take pleasure in taking...

true...takers are PLEASURE SEEKERS...and their needs, wants and expectations will be never ending and therefore, they will never be happy, always fight with their people without whom they can not survive, will be frustrated always...unhappy and without peace in life always!!

Whereas GIVERS are happy people....who are devotees....they enjoy pleasure too in the domain of happiness when available....

rams

BODY centric living gives only animal pleasure and living beyond that gives hours of happiness and peace in that pleasure!!

Dear all...all of us live animal life driven by urges and pleasures, hasty animal life on the name of responsibility, sedentary life with sedentary food, sedentary thinking, taught by our predecessors, assuming that 'this is life', people who live this life also make philosophies from the same shit, driven by animal needs and expectations from near and dear ones, get frustrated, fight on bed too, enjoy pleasures also like animals for 5 mts only with anxiety and rage....ONLY WHEN WE COME OUT OF THIS BODY BASED LIFE AND LIVING, WE CAN ENJOY AND APPRECIATE THE TRUE WAY OF HUMAN LIVING, with calm and cool, balanced and healthy, enjoy the health and wealth, wisdom and knowledge, acquire unlimited expanding skills and experience, enjoy the bed too for hours in happiness and ecstasy!!...So, let us learn yoga, mediation, healthy exercises for body, mind and socialisation...and teach this technique of true living for the children too!!

rams

how to make people follow us...or how to attract people?...or what is correct Leadership??

Dear all...there are two types of Leadership (woff...if i type this word people will scroll down...so, let me use a catchy word...THERE ARE TWO METHODS OF ATTRACTING OTHER PEOPLE!!)

1. Make people follow you i.e Leadership by exercising power and authority!!

2. Make people follow you i.e Leadership through love and affection!!

Of course, in our culture, in our country, people image and evaluate you and climb on the shoulders (saying 'ilichhavaayan!') if you use NO.2. If we use No.1 then the indiscipline Indians will fall in place and come in straight line. But is the first one completely correct?....so, we have to apply the DRDO rule...(Different Rule for Different Officers!!).

So, it is better to apply the mix of both so that the subordinates are groomed, mentored with love and affection and also taught how to use the power and authority in a positive way and lead the people!!

Peacefully yours...rams...