How to select the right place for living?

Hai all...

Which is the right place for living? How to select the place where we have to live?

To answer this question we need to list the basic things required for survival, existence and living…

For survival we need the following…so we need to live where these things are available…

SURVIVAL ISSUES

1. Clean air…(else we need to look at the ways and means of providing oxygen to our lungs or filtering or cleaning (or both) the air which enters the nose)

2. Clean water…(else we need to have a (desalination or Reverse Osmosis (RO) plant at home)

3. Organic vegetables, fruits and other food items at an affordable cost

EXISTENCE ISSUES

4. Healthy cooked balanced diet food whenever we need

5. Good medical facilities, schools, colleges nearby

6. Good internet facility

LIVING ISSUES

7. Lots of trees, plants, flowers, insects, birds and if possible hills, mountains, valleys, rivers (or at least canals or streams etc), ponds, lakes, waterfalls etc

8. Spiritually stimulating places nearby

9. Lots of silence around, only the music of nature…

10. Good Home Theatre to ‘see the music through ears’

11. Good pleasant weather

12. Good human beings who are not controlling, demanding, expecting and give total freedom of physical, emotions, thoughts, expressions

13. Facilities for learning / appreciation of good art forms

if we don't have these certainly our physical or mental or social health will get affected which will further affect our peace, happiness and success...

peacefully yours...rams...health psychologist...

Why we fall for praises of the body?

Hai all... Almost all the loves from 'after puberty' to entire life time starts with the appreciation and adoration of external appearance of the boy or girl... Nature, the Grand Master, ensures 'Attraction' by physical body and appearance for healthy off-springs and continuation of life on earth... which is clearly the ''LUST" component of force between two opposite sexes... which clearly indicates the attraction will get lost once the great physical appearance goes off... which clearly indicates that the relationship is only short lived... which clearly indicates that one can not rely upon that individual for life time on heart-to-heart basis... as heart gets connected to the individual through the body and can break off once the body attraction goes off... and body is related to animal, which wants variety, again driven by the Nature, the Grand Master of all plays, for ensuring 'no two individuals are same' on earth...by body and mind... which probably is another reason why the body related relationships break off... the issue is how to know if the relationship or attraction formed is due to body or other personality traits? Inspite of all these why girls and boys of all ages from childhood to people near the end of life get attracted to praising or adoring or appreciation of their external appearance? 'Hey, you are soooo beautiful yaar!' 'Hai! you are very hand some!' 'Your hair style is great! 'You have got beautiful skin!' 'Your face is sooo beautiful, it has got divine looks!' "something is happening inside me when i see you!" 'I feel like looking at you entire life time!' other day one girl was saying 'sir, just one month before, when we were not married, when i told him 'look at my ankle, it is swollen and paining!' he immediately showed lots of emotions, concern, interest, touched my feet and ankle, inspected it, spoke many consoling words, gave lots of hugs and kisses, even massaged my leg. I felt sooooo nice!....Now after one month of marriage when i tell him 'look at my ankle, it is swollen and paining' he does not even hear, after i told him three times, he says looking some where 'apply ointment, it will go off!'...he has no concern for me now!...he does not give a patient hearing to my issues...there is no emotion or feelings towards me...how can any one change so much so suddenly?...i am upset and feeling worried if i made the right decision of marrying him?...what will happen to rest of my life?'.... this clearly shows how the body attraction or inquisitiveness to know the opposite body results in love like emotions, feelings and behaviours...and it also shows how all these vanish in no time when the body attraction or inquisitiveness to see, feel, enjoy the body of the opposite sex goes off when it is bored and looks for variety... All of us can go on typing such things endlessly...every one longs for such praises of their 'body'...Why?...it increases the self confidence and self-concept...understood...but why should it lead to a 'relationship'?...So, it is understandable if we 'like' the praises...but why we start 'liking' the person?? (like is related to the body and love is related to internal feeling)...why we start liking the priser's body too?...why we slowly start 'loving' that person too? these are the things which the college girls and boys need to ponder, question themselves, figure out what is the reason for their attraction, what is the feeling they have inside them about the other person, why they feel so, what happens to their body and feelings when they hear the same from other people too...etc etc... of course, there are enough examples where the 'like' formed out of physical appearance has transformed into love also and the relationship remained/remains for life time, not just for society sake, but at heart level too, even if the body attraction has gone off... so, it is another unresolved or unknown great mystery (and misery too!) like other mysteries that which relationship will continue to remain, the bond will continue to remain...no one knows...i don't know how exactly the horoscope can predict...as human beings continuously age, grow, change, evolve, mature which results in changed interests, likes, dislikes, wants, needs, expectations etc... from this we might get some clarity on the confusing issues about 'body', 'like', 'love', 'relationships', 'body behaviours', 'mind behaviours' etc... anyway....each word here is an ocean by itself on which we can go on typing endlessly....so, i stop here, till i get provoked again by some student... peacefully yours....rams...health psychologist...

why we don't consider ourselves a part of Nature?

Hai all...

I shared one video today in which the Nature (Julia Roberts) talks to human beings.
How can Nature talk like this when we are ourselves a part of the Nature??...

Oh, i forgot, this video has been created by a human being who thinks everything non-living and plant life (may be animals other than human beings) is called Nature!!

May be the aim of this video is to tell the human beings, Preserve the Nature!!!

Funny....we always consider ourselves not a part of Nature!!!...Funny!!

Peacefully yours...Funny rams...

something funny with Nature....

Hai all...

Another funny thing...

Nature has created so many negative things around (e.g poisonous plants)...it has given the possibility of negative thinking, negative emotions, feelings and behaviours...(e.g drive for adventure)

All these indicate that Nature does not want any of its elements to live or remain the same forever...it wants them to age and vanish one day...

Then why it gave the basic instinct of fight or flight...i.e making every organism to fight or flight for its living in front of a threat...no healthy organism falls prey to its threat so easily...why?...why?...why???

peacefully yours....rams...

Every one in Love suffers...why?

Hai all...

Every one in love (actually a lust or combination of both) suffers in it because of following reasons...

1. comparing their love and lover with those of others'

2. frustration that the body creates as a coping mechanism to manage the unfulfilled biological, physical or mental needs...

college students and many in other age groups also fall in love...they say it has no element of body lust...but they know that it has that element too...

1. no one falls in love with an old man or old lady whose muscles and skin are shrunk

2. lots of biological and physiological changes take place in side the body when they think about their lover or meet them in person or come in close proximity

3. so there is an element of lust, which the nature wants for reproduction and the life to continue on earth...
when one has the need the other does not have...the intensities also differ...types of that need also differ...
so, coping mechanisms is the only way...concluding that the other person does not have love or less love etc is not correct...

1. reduce the urges through healthy body and mind life styles

2. apply coping mechanisms to manage the urges

3. avoidance and repression are not healthy methods

peacefully yours....rams....health psychologist...

Privacy...is it required?

Hai all...Privacy!!!...Is it a right??

Today most of the people want privacy. Time that is privately for them to pursue relationships, passion, hobby etc apart from their routine chores, organizational jobs, social or relationship dynamics at home-organisations-society.

During this time they don’t want any interruptions. So, they don’t want anyone, any job, any chores, any routine life event, etc to disturb them during this time…or disturb them in getting this private time…they don’t want any to sneak in to their privacy…this includes even their lovers, husbands or wives or children etc…

This was not the case in the past…during earlier days when internet had not intruded the lives, when awareness was less, media had not penetrated our lives the definition of life was

1.there is no privacy between husband and wife

2. Lover is a banned relationship

3. Married people cannot have any emotional relationship with the opposite sex outside their family

4. Privacy is only between couple and others (not between the couples)…during such times the emotional and social dynamics of a person was confined within four walls and with their spouse and children only…or at the maximum between the siblings and close relatives…

Even if someone had the need for privacy there was no liberty to demand for privacy…it was an unheard off or considered a funny or illegitimate need…

So, today people need people and relationships only when they need…also the expression of thoughts, emotions, feelings or behaviours are by several methods of communication…i.e voice, video, skype, face-to-face, mobile sms, chats, emails etc…every one prefers only a particular mode of communication at a particular time in life or day…

also every one experiences and expresses a particular level of emotions or feelings at any time which they can express only in their own methods convenient to them…also everyone has many people for them to share their thoughts, feelings, opinions, emotions etc…

so, the definition of family will change…

the definition of privacy or channels of social communication, relationships etc will change….the concept of living inside four walls and one roof will change…husband and wife can live separately…kids can live anywhere…this is also called a home and family living…

We have to understand this…accept this…and live with this…find our own methods of happiness, peace, good health etc…

Culture is not defined within four walls and under one roof or by one or two people…it is defined outside the homes, by the society and world community…

change is a continuous process…

those who change live…those who do not change get isolated and find their death.

peacefully yours...rams...health psychologist...

What is Consciousness???

Hmmm…when we read this question what comes to our mind is ‘a person in coma or who has fainted or who is under general anaesthesia is the one who is not having consciousness….all others have consciousness!’

A person who commits any crime also says that he has done it with consciousness…

terrorist also says he did the mass murders with consciousness…all these people feel they are right…what they did is the right decision taken by that time in that situation…

A person in obsessive love or addictive love also says he is conscious and his decisions are right…

A person who is depressed or having any mind related illness is also said to be conscious…

So, our perception is that anyone whose eyes are opened and is able to think is said to be in conscious state…

So, I think the state of consciousness has the elements of sensing, or replaying stored memories, a process of thinking and forming perceptions, emotions and resultant behavior…

If a person is able to derive happiness, good physical-mental-social health, peace and success leading to self-transcend without affecting the right for the other people for these can be said to be in conscious state…all others are unconscious or subconscious or not in the right state of consciousness!!!

And…and…and….being conscious is the nature of a balanced and normal human being….if someone is not fitting inside this definition can be called as ‘not a normal human being’ or not in the right state of consciousness.

consciously yours....rams...health psychologist...

Which Religion is good?

Hai all...

Many ask me 'sir, which religion is good?...which one to be followed?'

i just tell them 'every individual and mind are different...we are here to expand and enjoy...not to go inside rat holes...so read anything and everything in this universe...follow Nature...and define your own life and living...the RELIGION YOU DEFINE is the best for you and not the single ones that is existing!!'

rams

feedback from the readers....

Hai all...

today one of my seniors said 'lots of wisdom flowing on fb, good, i want to meet you!'...

other day one student said 'sir, you saved me and my life from a guy!'

some students have been liberated from the shackles of their parents...now doing higher studies abroad...
one lady said 'hmmm...had i read your posts in blog earlier, i would not have left my husband three years back!'

another person said 'had i got this wisdom earlier i would not have divorced my wife...now all gone...nothing can be done...but i am confident now in life!!'

some more men,ladies, students, their life and relationships have been saved through these posts and they convey their happiness...they also mention the key words that enlightened them...

some meet me in person, some call me, some text, some send mails..

i am happy that my time spent is useful to many...what i type here is not something great...they are all available everywhere...if we keep our mind empty (without the rigid learnt stuff), listen to good music, attach ourself more with nature and good people all these things will appear automatically to you also...nothing great.....

i get lots of thoughts flowing like a clear stream during my morning walks and runs in drizzles, rains, green environs with trees and birds....unfortunately i don't get time immediately after that to type it out...later when i sit i don't get that flow...

anyway....1. keep spreading the posts....2. tell all your friends about the blog...www.funnyrams.blogspot.com ....let us together save many lives and relationships...marriages and homes...children and girls...

rams

Parents, boys and husbands should stop giving importance to BODY and start giving importance to need for FREEDOM, INTELLECTUAL COMPATIBILITY, SIXTH SENSE ETC..

Hai all...this is for students and parents...

During olden days opportunity for formal education was less...girls were deprived...lots of controls on them in usage of body, mind and expression of feelings, thoughts and decisions...life was very small for all...eating, farming, entertainment, reproduction, fighting...so, BODY and WEALTH were the main centres of life and living...marriages depended upon these two and relationship between husband and wife depended on body...
so, body was the centre of everything...also with a bunch of flowers and sweets the man could take his wife to bed...

today the knowledge explosion is sooo much that every child is able to study...higher studies also...competitive environment even in schools...through internet on mobiles and free communication with all across the globe the children are highly knowledgeable...they are exposed to all sort of emotional experiences...they are achievement centric...body is immaterial to them...it is not the prime centre of their life...even the body needs are too less compared to their achievement motive...so trying to attract through body is of no use...

sadly many parents and boys are under the impression that two unknown people can get married and live together through their body attraction and needs...boys still follow old redundant techniques only after marriage and during love...

today....

1. solving her intellectual problems (at office and in general) and issues related to sixth sense is the first and foremost
2. lovers and spouses can keep their girls and relationships only through good human personality traits
3. good understanding and matching of mind needs and definition of life and living, goals in life, passion, faiths and beliefs etc are a must for any love relationship to catch on and live forever...otherwise body needs will not arise at all
4. parents can forget about the body and start giving importance and respect to the passion and mind needs of their girls, else the life of their daughters is certain to get screwed and the parents will cry for their entire life!

rams

Possessivness of mothers is screwing up the life of children!!

Hai all...

the life of many children have been screwed up by parents, mostly the mother, due to her possessiveness, dependent on children for love and affection and weaving their life around children...1. they make their chidren to suspect their spouse 2. force them to pursue education of their choice, make them to work only at their place of living, get them married to their close relatives, do not give any choice for the children to select anything in life, lock them up nicely with emotions from all directions...lose the peace of theirs and that of their children...

peace can come in the life of people only when parents detach their umbilical chord with their children and give them freedom to decide and come to them whenever they need their guidance...

rams

How to get spiritual qualities?

Hai all...

my eyes every day see these and much more when i go for walks and runs in the morning amidst drizzles and rain...the rain forest you see rains me with lots of thoughts and feelings...when these are coupled with silence, great breeze, smells of flowers, smells of nature, sounds of nature, beetles, birds, great melodies of Shreya Ghoshal, Jesudas and others, healthy food, yoga, meditation, then good mind is produced...good health is produced...only positives appear in the mind...life is cool and not a battle...life style diseases run away...good people come closer and around...we radiate only peace and happiness...attitude becomes positive at home, at office and in society...this is what i feel and realised...others also may be experiment and see for themselves...

rams

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How to be likable and loveable by all?

Hai all...look at the pics below...

i had a good time with these children two days back...now is the analysis time...

Do these children appear beautiful?

I am sure you will say "yes"!

(What makes them beautiful?...Is it their appearance...skin colour?...dress?...religious or caste symbols?...youthfulness?....)

if yes, then if they are not smiling then will they be beautiful?

ok, that means their smile makes them beautiful...there are few kids who are also smiling but not that heart catchy beautiful...Is it not?

So, that means heart out smile is beautiful and not lip-smile!

They are also cute...but what makes them cute?

You might tend to answer 'anything that is small and any one who is infant or young is cute'...but even old people also appear cute when they smile...generally the cuteness is perceived through the behaviours and not in stillness...so, it is the beahaviour that makes them cute and not the appearance...which behaviour?...heart-out smiles!!

So, beauty and cuteness comes through heart out smiles!

When does one get heart-out smiles?...when he is in the present and enjoys it thoroughly...when he enjoys something truly...when they laugh or smile truly...when their minds are blank....when one is not stressed and anxiety struck...when they are not suspecting or judging the other person in front...otherwise no smile can be beautiful and cute...it can only be a 'smiling gas' induced smile!!

this is called innocence!!...a form of godliness, true human nature, radiating peace, happiness and good health...true love...healing behaviour...

this heart out smile comes when we are INNOCENT!!...which we have when we are young, but, as we grow, as we are taught and groomed by our parents and society, we slowly lose it...

but some have it later too in their life...they are not polluted by their learning...

these people remain innocent throughout their life...they are cute always...they are beautiful always...they are always liked by all...they are lovable...they radiate peace and happiness...they are divine and godly...physical appearance is of no relevance...youthfulness is of no relevance...religion or caste has no relevance...physical disability has no relevance...they will radiate all these positives to people around...their behaviours will teach us many things about life, spirituality etc...it is contagious...

one becomes innocent when he or she formats the mind...throws away the ego...

this ability can be achieved by being spiritual...by attaching ourselves to nature, those give unconditional love (including animals like dogs), through yoga, meditation and other physical exercises...

so....

1. Let us be innocent always through out our life...
2. parents to ensure that their bringing up does not spoil the innocence...
3. we need not be always alert and judging. Intelligence at the required times keeps us safe and innocent too
i can go onnnnnnnnn typing like this about innocence...but it is time for my dinner...so byeeeeeee....will type more on innocence some time later....

peacefully yours...rams...health psychologist!!

Gods have realised that if they don't do yoga, physical exercise, meditation etc they will also get diabetes, hypertension and heart attack!!

Hai all...

whavvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvv....this is what i expected....i have been waiting for this moment for sooooo long for the past 45 yearsssssssssssss!!

during child hood when i asked my mom 'why this god has got such a big stomach (belly!)!' she shouted at me saying 'we should not talk like this and mock at...he is god!'...i only gave a big laugh and said 'Unhealthy god...no wonder our men all have big bellies and dye of heart attack!!'...

thank god that gods also have started doing yoga....thank god that they have realized otherwise they will also get diabetes, hypertension and heart attack!!

i wish all the godly and spiritual (!!) people also follow their god and start doing yoga and exercises!!

rams

Why lovers fight, shout and break-up?

Hai all...

why lovers always fight, shout, break-up?

because they have not matured and spiritual enough to love peacefully, happily and healthily!!!

so, if they improve these two components then their love will be divine...(not wine!!)

they fall in love before they attain the stage in life of maturity...

so, if you fight with your lover that means you have not attained the age and stage in your life to love!!!...haa..haa..haaaa!!!

so, you need to undergo the training of improving the maturity and spirituality before you start loving some one....

rams

a comment....

 Maturity comes from taking up new challenges and expanding our comfort zones. Whereas in our society, the minute some 'challenge' comes up, we start complaining and cribbing 'aiyoo! why this should happen to me?'. my answer is always: 'arey, it is happening to you, so that you know how strong you are!!!!'

don't think there is only one way to live in family life!!

Hai all...

Every human body is different. Every mind is different. The way we grow, we perceive, the way and to the extent of developmental tasks we get exposed, the love and affection we get, the grooming we get etc decides what we become.

Even the twins are different in Behaviours.

So, the life (beliefs, faiths, rituals etc) and the way they live (behaviours), their definition of happiness, social health and success are different.

There fore we can not force or expect every one to live the same way we live or their community people live, or others live.

Some enjoy the family living as a child, some enjoy hostel, some enjoy with few friends, extroverts enjoy more friends, some enjoy married life, some enjoy being alone, some enjoy live-in, some live as per the 4 stages i defined in one of the posts earlier on LOVE...i.e loving some one without ANY expectations like a pure devotee (like Gopis, Andaal, Meera etc who loved Lord Krishna and devoted their life), serving their lover etc...they live a pure karma life...for others they might appear to be fools, don't know how to live etc...they believe in 'self less service is the true form of love and life' which is true also...they are out of the materialistic world...for others it might appear to be a fantasy life...not reality...but when reality is not giving peace, happiness and good health and fantasy gives, what is the wrong in following that...especially when they are only helpful to every one and do not harm anyone...

so the crux is...

1. marriage or family or married life what we perceive is not just the only way of correct or right living

2. we can not expect or force any one to live like this only

3. any life or practice of living where they get peace, happiness, good physical-mental-social health and self actualisation/self transcend without affecting others life negatively and living positively for others is a good and correct life only

4. so let us format our social brains and start writing the new peaceful philosophies

peacefully yours...rams...social psychologist

which religion to be followed in life?

Hai all...

Many ask me 'sir, which religion is good?...which one to be followed?'

i just tell them 'every individual and mind are different...we are here to expand and enjoy...not to go inside rat holes...so read anything and everything in this universe...follow Nature...and define your own life and living...the RELIGION YOU DEFINE is the best for you and not the single ones that is existing!!'

rams

please spread the posts and blog to all your friends and relatives to save many marriages, homes, relationships and children...

Hai all...

today one of my seniors said 'lots of wisdom flowing on fb, good, i want to meet you!'...

other day one student said 'sir, you saved me and my life from a guy!'

some students have been liberated from the shackles of their parents...now doing higher studies abroad...

one lady said 'hmmm...had i read your posts in blog earlier, i would not have left my husband three years back!'

another person said 'had i got this wisdom earlier i would not have divorced my wife...now all gone...nothing can be done...but i am confident now in life!!'

some more men,ladies, students, their life and relationships have been saved through these posts and they convey their happiness...they also mention the key words that enlightened them...

some meet me in person, some call me, some text, some send mails..

i am happy that my time spent is useful to many...what i type here is not something great...they are all available everywhere...if we keep our mind empty (without the rigid learnt stuff), listen to good music, attach ourself more with nature and good people all these things will appear automatically to you also...nothing great.....

i get lots of thoughts flowing like a clear stream during my morning walks and runs in drizzles, rains, green environs with trees and birds....unfortunately i don't get time immediately after that to type it out...later when i sit i don't get that flow...

anyway....1. keep spreading the posts....2. tell all your friends about the blog...www.funnyrams.blogspot.com ....let us together save many lives and relationships...marriages and homes...children and girls...

rams

'body will no more ignite romance unless the intellectual needs and problems of girls are solved!!'....parents, wake up!!

Hai all...this is for students and parents...

During olden days opportunity for formal education was less...girls were deprived...lots of controls on them in usage of body, mind and expression of feelings, thoughts and decisions...life was very small for all...eating, farming, entertainment, reproduction, fighting...so, BODY and WEALTH were the main centres of life and living...marriages depended upon these two and relationship between husband and wife depended on body...

so, body was the centre of everything...also with a bunch of flowers and sweets the man could take his wife to bed...

today the knowledge explosion is sooo much that every child is able to study...higher studies also...competitive environment even in schools...through internet on mobiles and free communication with all across the globe the children are highly knowledgeable...they are exposed to all sort of emotional experiences...they are achievement centric...body is immaterial to them...it is not the prime centre of their life...even the body needs are too less compared to their achievement motive...so trying to attract through body is of no use...

sadly many parents and boys are under the impression that two unknown people can get married and live together through their body attraction and needs...boys still follow old redundant techniques only after marriage and during love...

today....

1. solving her intellectual problems (at office and in general) and issues related to sixth sense is the first and foremost

2. lovers and spouses can keep their girls and relationships only through good human personality traits

3. good understanding and matching of mind needs and definition of life and living, goals in life, passion, faiths and beliefs etc are a must for any love relationship to catch on and live forever...otherwise body needs will not arise at all

4. parents can forget about the body and start giving importance and respect to the passion and mind needs of their girls, else the life of their daughters is certain to get screwed and the parents will cry for their entire life!

rams

Why we get bored after some time of talking with most of the people?

Hai all...

when we talk to most of the people we get bored after some time...if you observe they may not be talking honestly from their heart...they must be showing off or manipulating or trying to create an image for them or talking all balls!!!

When we talk to people who are honest, down to earth, innocent, noble, who are not bothered about image, then, we don't get bored, we don't know how the time passes, we feel like talking to them entire life, we want to be with them always, we want to hear them, we feel peaceful, we feel light, we empty our mind to them, we feel freedom, we feel enlightened, we feel elated and experience the different world, we feel a special occasion, we feel godly, we feel heavenly, we feel ultimate happiness, we look forward to talk to them every day and always!!!

so, it is up to us whether we want to be Para 1 people or Para 2 people!!

peacefully yours...rams...social psychologist!!

a comment....

 yes! When we talk to someone, we need to have honest conversations. Honest does NOT mean being blunt and talking about unpleasant things. At the same time, we don't have to worry about what the other person thinks all the time and indulge in dull, superficial conversations either. When we are pleasant and authentic, we can learn a lot from each other thru honest conversations!
 

billions and billions of useful money is blasting off without any use!!

Hai all...

All the countries in the world put-together spend several thousands of lakhs of crores for their army, navy and airforce. For what?...for protecting themselves and the resources of the country...on dangerous destructive stuff like guns, rockets, missiles, aircraft, torpedoes, submarines, ships etc.

thousands of soldiers die every day...so many families go without the head, wives become widows, children lose their father...crores of them work in life-challenging environment, away from their families, on ice top mountains, deserts, high seas, jungles, forests and what not!!!

Why protection required?....because some other greedy, power hungry, lusty, lazy animal wants to take away your wealth.

If only the politicians, religious leaders and those who implement the greed of these people change their minds then all these protections are not required and if we spend that money for happiness, peace and health of all the people i am sure every individual in this world can be given a 4 bedroom flat and several lakhs as bank deposit and free medical facilities etc to live happily, peacefully and with great health!!
will it every happen??????????????????

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.....

rams

What we hear and see are much much less than the actuals present!!

Hai all...

What we see in our earth is what our eyes can see...there is a big world of micro-organisms we can not see...imagine if we can see that world with our naked eyes....wofffffffffff!!!

What we hear is what our ears can hear...our ears can hear only music or sound from20Hz to 20KHz frequency....imagine if we can hear all the possible frequencies also...how our voice or noise world will be....wofffffffffffffff!!

What we perceive is what our brain can perceive....there is again a big world of things which our brain can not perceive unless it is trained...so, imagine if we can perceive all those things which we are not able to perceive...wofffffffffff!!

rams

Some research ideas for winning Nobel Prize...

Hai all...this is for those students (of Metallurgy or Material Sciences) who are interested in winning Nobel Prize...

1. Discover a material that can exhibit super conductivity at room temperature.

2. Discover a material that can exactly or in a better way replace Silicon in the field of Electronics...

for researchers getting a problem definition is the biggest problem....here i have given world class problem...

rams

attitude of agrarian society people living in industrial society!!

Hai all...

other day one of my subordinate officers brought an employee to me. He said 'sir, this guy has not come for work for the past one month. Today he has come. He has opened my table drawer, taken the key of the almirah, taken the attendance register and put present for all days!!'

I looked at him. He has no guilt on his face. Asked him 'Is that right?'

He agreed at once without any hesitation!!

I asked him 'Is that correct?'

He said 'otherwise i will not get this month's salary!'

I said 'no way...you will be marked absent and no salary for you this month!!'

He got angry and started shouting 'How will then i feed my family? who will pay education fees for my children?..how will i pay back my loans?...how will i buy medicines for my parents???'.

I also nailed him saying 'then you should have come to work!!'

He got violent 'Then who will supervise my house construction?...I have taken big loan. If i am not there the masons will cheat me...will you supervise my house construction???'

i could see his hands trembling, lips vibrating and face red!!

I also gave back 'That is none of our business!...you have to look after your problems!!!...you have joined this job on your own, for your own needs, for earning which you have to come and work here!!'

He surprised me by shouting 'I was told i am given a job and every first of the month i will get my salary. It is my right!!...I will see to it that i get my salary!!...i know how to get it!!!'

I could make out that he is trying to scare me that he will go to his union or court!!

I also know that if i handle his disciplinary case it will only go worse as i may be considered by him and others as an alien from other state (other country!!)...so, i called the senior most superintendent of these employees and explained everything and asked him whether it is right. He accepted that he was wrong. So, the case was handed over to him and i know that he will make him understand, correct and the convict also will listen to him and change.

the moral of this incident is.....

1. In God's own country this is what the employees think...God's own people!!...anyway the thinking is not different in other parts of this country too...

2. they want jobs and not work.

3. they are interested in the salary and over time allowance and not meeting the ends of the organisation...

but there are few karma yogis too...because of whom this nation and government organisations are surviving!!

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm....thanks to the agrarian society predecessors who have left this thinking...

peacefully yours...rams...

What is Life?

Hai all...What is Life?

Life is a continuous process of learning (not reading). So, you are always with interest, involved, enjoy, feel the pleasure and happiness in doing what you like or liking what you do, being in the present. This i call as meditative living!!...This is my policy...and...and....and...every five years we have to change the subject or field or interest of study or anything under the sky in which we are involved and learning!!!...because generally in five years we can master a subject to a level of satisfaction...this is another policy which keeps us going, thrilled and enjoy the life to the core!!

peacefully yours...rams...health psychologist

Are you against any religion or people who follow a particular religion?

Hai all...

another FAQ...

‘Are you against any religion or people who follow a particular religion?’

ANS...

‘No!!...why me, no one should dislike belief on any Religion or God or Holy book or Caste or Community or Language or Race or Region/place (RGHCCLRR) or people following anything under the sky. No human being should be disliked based on this. As long as what they follow, even if it is superstition, gives them lifelong Peace, Happiness, Good physical-mental and social health, Self-actualization (PHGS package!!) there is nothing wrong.

Only thing is if they are scared about life, god etc then there will be a sense of insecurity which will make them to get obsessed with what they follow which might affect their PHGS package.

Also as we grow, develop, mature, age, evolve, change place of living, climate, community or society or culture around we have to make certain changes in the life style related to the faiths / beliefs etc else our PHGS package again will get affected.

So, obsession and rigidity is not good.

People are the most important commodity on earth and not the RGHCCLRR. This RGHCCLRR is for people and not vice versa. Only if people are alive, then RGHCCLRR can survive. If people are not there on this earth then there is no RGHCCLRR. So, people understanding this, being united, living beyond all these differences is important.

Rams

“sir, I live in Chennai. I am in love with a girl in Canada. I want to meet her. Life is miserable without talking to her, seeing her and meeting her!!

Hai all...

another INTERESTING FAQ...

“sir, I live in Chennai. I am in love with a girl in Canada. I want to meet her. Life is miserable without talking to her, seeing her and meeting her!!...feel like committing suicide!!...unable to concentrate on anything!!...not liking any one!!...Life is a hellllll!!...please help me!!”

There are many people in this condition today…it is not only teen agers…but across all ages…whether married or unmarried!!...including aged and old!!

attraction to other person without knowing the implications of future puts a person in this state...they don't know how to swim thereafter in love!!

this boy did not think about how he or she is going to meet each other while falling in love on internet during the interesting initial honeymoon days of love!!

Thanks to the internet…social websites…emails…etc

We have all sorts of variations in these loves…from first love to 5th love etc…from love at first sight to love after many years of association…lost childhood friendship becoming ‘found adult love’…between unmarried and married…between two married people…between young girl and old man…between young boy and old lady…between two old people…one failed love of one turning into an obsession on another…one sided love…addictive love…hated childhood friend becoming liked lover later…old lost lover becoming lover again after many years…woffffff…we have as many number of loves as the number of people in love…

Every person is different…therefore every love is different…so the solution or interventions are also different…every case is unique!!

there is no strong or weak person...every one falls in love and 'falls' in love!!

And no one is an escape from Love!!...every one has at least one butterfly inside the heart…some have many…they flutter inside…come out some times…life goes on cool till the butterfly is found!!!!!!!!

In some cases it is the case of physical need…in some emotional need…in some intellectual need…the need list is big!!...in these also the levels of need are different…

The issue is no one knows initially whether it will involve physical or only mental…in physical too there are several levels…

The concept of love has influence in the definition of social systems…Marriage…Family…etc….

But there are certain things common…

1. Every one falls in love for a feeling of acceptance
2. Need for variation in love…need for varieties of personalities in life
3. Need for socialization as human beings being social animals
4. Physical attraction or Personality trait attraction or both
5. Common interests

Like this there are many…

The truth is nature has produced human beings with the capability to love many people during their life cycle…

Every person needs different types of love at the same time throughout the life…at different levels and intensities at different stages in life…

Between two individuals the needs out of love are not same all the time throughout the life…so there are ifs and buts…there are places of vacuum…but the need is always there and it does not vanish…different people use different coping mechanisms to manage the need…

Lack of love affects mental health and in turn the physical health and social health…

Love and affection is the back bone of living!!

Love due to physical appearance only fades off after some time!!

When human beings move up in the need hierarchy ladder in life, after the physical needs are met the first mental need level is love and affection…if it is not fulfilled then the organism goes haywire…also if the organism is unable to achieve the next level of self esteem, then it falls down to the love and affection need …this time vigorously and becomes a dire need…which generally happens after 40…so it results in mad love or obsessive love…it undergoes rough weathers...

Every person finds the unsatisfied need or love relationship in others…for e.g an orphan may find a father or mother in the love…generally the relationship needs differ…i.e girl will see her brother and the boy will see his lover or wife!!...these types of mismatches of ‘relationship needs’ strains the love!!

Every love has following stages…

1. Getting attracted to a person 
2. Trying to know and knowing about that person
3. Revealing everything about us to that person and slow surrendering
4. Total surrendering
5. Living for that person…nothing on this earth matters other than the love and lover
6. Becoming and being a devotee of love to the lover and living life long like that

the type of love that will be formed between two people depends upon their needs, communication and entire dynamics of relationships between the two...it can not be maneuvered...it is not in the hands of both people involved. Only after its maturing they will be able to figure out...

A love can break at any of the above stages and grow from the beginning again else where.

In some cases after reaching 6th level also a new love can start from level 1.
So, failure of one love does not mean end of love and life!!

Obsessive love and addictive love are diseased forms of love. Need treatment by a psychiatrist (for changing brain secretions) and a psychologist (for behavior correction).

Love can happen on living or non living…alive or dead…existing or non-existing!!

Who will fall in love with whom and when….no one knows!!!...

every one has many loves during the life cycle…told and untold…

love is a mystery…and misery too in some loves!!

Love can not be forced, demanded, controlled, expected etc.

One sided loves are plenty.

A person who has not fallen in love with a person can fall in love with the same person later in life.

Every one thinks he or she knows everything about love and has got lots of experiences till that person falls in the next love!!

Love between two unmarried is very easy to solve…but love between two married people with family is difficult to solve but not impossible!!

We can go on writing like this endlessly…..but what we should know is…

1. Love is must, pleasant, dangerous and inescapable

2. The art of living with love needs to be mastered
3. When it affects performing the routine life (basic chores), suicidal thoughts, feeling of causing damage to the other person or self, violent behaviours…under these circumstance a psychiatrist needs to be consulted (i.e brain secretions are affected and needs to be restored)
4. When it affects the happiness or peace and unmanageable by self then a psychologist needs to be consulted

What are the methods to cope with sadness and loss of love…

1. Change of place
2. Change of climate
3. Changing interests
4. Involving with new group of people, new society / community etc
5. Pursuing an art form
6. Taking medicines
7. Rearing dogs or other pets
8. Increasing the nature around
9. Doing yoga, walks, runs, gym etc
10. Keeping the life busy
11. A BIG NOOOO to sedentary life
12. Eating healthy food and avoiding junk foods
13. Taking spirituality path
14. Setting high goals and working towards that
15. Knowing that ‘no lost love is an end’ …always there are many loves waiting!!
16. Being surrounded with pep-up music all the time

Stopping here for limiting the length of the post…see you with more or specific cases later…

Keep rocking…keep loving…as there is no escape to be healthy and living...

Lovingly …rams…health psychologist