I keep failing in my relationships with girls?...People keep saying 'it is impossible to understand them!'...what is the way out?

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

Qn. I keep failing in my relationships with girls?...People keep saying 'it is impossible to understand them!'...what is the way out?

Either change your life style in a way that your brain does not perceive their requirement and body too!!...It is difficult for a NORMAL person. Other method is be a GOOD HUMAN BEING...DOWN TO EARTH...SIMPLE...TRUTHFUL...DON'T FAKE...You will get a girl of the same type!!...And KEEP HER HAPPY and do ANYTHING TO KEEP HER HAPPY!!...Then she will also keep you happy and you will get everything that you need!!

So, it is soo simple. But we think tooo many strategies, fake and make the issue complicated and get entangled in all sadness, frustration, loneliness and hopelessness!!

Only happy people can make ohers happy. So, if she is happy then only she can make you happy. Only if you are happy, you can keep her happy. so, be happy!!😃

Derive your happiness from all the sources of unconditional love (except human beings all are such souces), keep your needs and wants from girls less through healthy life style, then you will be happy and stable, and ready for a relationship with girls.

If you are sad, frustrated due to non satiation of your needs and wants, then how can you make her happy truly for a longer time?
All your nature driven or self created strategic gimmicks will not last for long and you are sure to fail!!

So, 'keep her happy' is the simple three word solution!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

What is best form of 'Service'??

Dear all..THIS IS FOR ALL...

It is said in tamiil that 'Thaanathhil siranthathu anna thaanam!!'...i.e 'The best form of service is providing food' (hope my translation is right!!).

It does not say 'to whom?'. People say 'to hungry people'. So, we consider that providing food to any one is anna thaanam.

In my personal opinion, when food is given to a person who can afford to get food at that moment of time, then that service does not qualify to get that status of 'anna thaanam'...whether that person is hungry or rich!!

Also, when that service will make a person lazy, then again it does not qualify for the 'anna thaanam' status!!

Only when food is given to a person who is damn hungry, that person is not in a condition that he or she can afford food at that moment, in a state of understanding the real 'value of food'...'value of that service'...'value of the hard work that has gone in producing fo those grains and making of that food'...'gratitude for the service'...'value of humanness'...probably in an enlightened state of humanness...and the person is not lazy and that service will not make him or her lazy, only then that offering of food qualifies for 'anna thaanam'.

Else we are only fooling ourselves, wasting our hard earned money, and creating more and more lazy coffins!!

So, i feel we need to understand the meaning of old sayings correctly and live as per that!!

This is my personal opinion only...may be wrong in your perception...you may continue to live with your opinion as long as it gives peace, happiness, contentment, fulfillment and good health...nothing wrong in it!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

feminity and masculinity...

Dear all...ONE QUESTION...ONE ANSWER...

Q: Why men face problems with women always and suffer?

A: Because they try to understand the females and not the feminity..one who understands the feminity will not face problems!!
Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

A comment received..."similarly the other side should also give due respect & reorganisation for the Masculinity of being men"

Ans: "agree...🙏🙏😀😀...So, the question for your answer is "Why do women suffer with men?"😜...But the point is mostly it is the male organism that goes frequently to the female organism for its needs and wants. Lion goes to Lioness, male dog goes to female dog, Cock goes to hen...showing all kinds of caring, supporting, love and affection...i.e thoughts, behaviours and emotions to gain proximity and achieve the needs and wants. It is a Nature driven and subconscious act. Therefore, men have to understand feminity to attain their needs and wants and women have to understand masculinity to protect their body and mind. When the man is happy with the need and wants satiation, he gets expectations that he will continue to get whenever he wants and he becomes possessive that the source should give to only to him. Here starts the problems. If his mind says 'enough' or 'variety' then he leaves. Else he exhibits all those above behaviours whenever he 'needs'!!"

That is why the relationship should pitch at 'energy levels', unconditionally, beyond body and mind...some common interest that will lost for entire life...e.g social service...this Nature driven need of 'supporting living organisms without any expectations'...this is the perception that gives contentment and fulfillment in life...Relationships with this as the back bone will not stress and cause strain...

So, the couple can think i.e both the parties..."i am born to serve this person and keep this person happy, healthy and peaceful"...IF BOTH THINK THIS WAY, with the understanding masculinity and feminity, then life goes on smooth!!

Peacefully yours....Rams...Psychologist!!

What is Feminity?

Dear all....THIS IS FOR ALL...

Many asked yesterday, 'What is Feminity?'

If i have to give a simple answer it is 'Understanding the causes and effects on thoughts, emotions or feelings and behaviours ...in body and mind of females...due to the frequent and quick changes in the Hormone State and Neurotransmitter State. This could be due to evolutionary reasons of formation of social systems with its status and roles demanding the required thoughts, feelings and behaviours from females over the years by men and society...causing the genetic changes!!"

If we understand this then there will be no problem.

The same goes with masculinity also...if females understand the masculinity then there will be no issues with them with respect to men!!

Every word in the definition above is an ocean on its own, volumes can be written about them, several questions can be raised and many kinds of explanations and reasoning can be given!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

.ONE QUESTION...ONE ANSWER...

Dear all...ONE QUESTION...ONE ANSWER...

Q: Why men face problems with women always and suffer?

A: Because they try to understand the females and not the feminity..one who understands the feminity will not face problems!!
Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

WHY WE ARE SUFFERING?.... There are different perspectives to this question...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...WHY WE ARE SUFFERING?....

There are different perspectives to this question...

One such persepective from my friend and a doctor/philosopher is here...

"The conditioned identities which we created for ourselves using the bricks of caste, religion , language, country, profession, educational qualification, sex etc are all beautiful cages we have created for ourselves......true sir...

And the suffering is nothing but 🔨 hammering of that cage to break that and release us.... Life will keep on hammering the cage till we come out..... If we don't create any cage there will be no suffering... But ignorant people blame the life for suffering ....without realizing that life is infact helping us to release us from our cage....people cry out loud ..in the face of suffering " pls leave us inside our nice cage... We want to be here forever".... But life is not gonna listen to these poor people's cry....life is so caring and loving to everyone of us... Even if we curse the life ..spit on it's face for 🔨 hammering our cage....it will keep on doing it's job...till the time the cage is completely destroyed...

When someone 🔨 s our religion , we fight back...when someone 🔨 s our caste, we fight back...when someone 🔨 our country language, state or country we fight back.... Meaning we desperately try to rebuild the cage which got hit by life.... This is the constant fight between us and life...life wants to break the cage and we want to build the cage...

Those who are caged are easy to manipulate....their emotions can be triggered by pulling the strings.... They can used for various purposes like terrorism ( religion, idealistic groups), political will ( caste, language) etc etc....This is the STORY of free human being of unlimited capabilities being caged and used for various purposes...

The best thing is this is an invisible cage and he doesn't even know he is inside a cage....and the best of the best is he will fight with those who comes to break the cage and desperately will rebuild the cage if it gets destroyed...

What a wonderful cage...this is....once build...life long guarantee...."

Hope it makes sense to you...

Peacefully yours....Rams...Psychologist!!!

'Why men rape women?"...A different perspective...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

Human beings are complex. They are looked at by different people in different perspectives....and we follow all those which sound 'ok' for us!!

Here is a perspective from my friend and a doctor....

This answers few questions from different dimensions other than the ususal interpretations or answers...

"If a human being identifies himself with his/her body...then he or she will be controlled by their body...if human beings identify with their mind , they will be controlled by their mind...if human beings identify with the awareness beyond the mind...then they are free.... No other choice left to be free from body/ mind based sufferings...GD afternoon sir...

Rape happens because we are pushed and forced by media, news, movies etc to be identified more with our body.... If we identify with our body...then we feel incomplete....both male and female.... because as a body we can never be complete... Because we can only be male or female...so we will pushed towards opposite sex to complete us... That force is the sexual energy.... The more an individual identifies with his body...the more he will be pushed towards the opposite sex....

The body is an instrument which soul uses to experience the multiplicity in this planet...but we the soul should not identify ourself with the instrument we use temporarily...it's like identifying ourself with the car we use...with the mobile we use.... With the house we live in...with the clothes we wear...etc...if we identify with materials we use, then we will be affected deeply by the materials... If we someone has higher model than us, then we will feel inferior to them...then eventhough we don't need that model, we will buy that model in order to feel equal to neighbour or Superior to the neighbour...because we identified our self with the materials we use...

One who do not identify with the materials they use...will not feel Superior or inferior on seeing someone else's material.... Because he is not the material he uses... He is untouched by materials... He do not define himself on the basis of material possessions....like this we the formless, eternal soul should not identify ourself with limited , temporary body and mind.... So that we will not be pulled and pushed by the body and mind....

The only force which kicks everyone to run in many directions is the feeling of lack....if I identity with a male body...then there is a lack of female organs ...so I will be attracted and run towards it...if I feel I am less knowledgeable, then I will run towards more degrees ...if I feel I have less money, then I will run towards money ...if I feel I have less power in the society , then I will run towards popularity and power over others....

All these lack ....arises in a human being, because we identify ourself with limited instruments ( body and mind)... We can never be complete in these limited realm...no one ever had achieved perfection in these fields...they all kept running to fill their lack till death.... Only way to feel complete is to identitify ourself with our true self which is formless...ever present...complete ...all encompassing...if we identify with this ultimate dimension of ourself which is inherent in each individual, then we feel complete...we feel full... Then we will stop running ... There ends the birth and death...""

It makes sense to me...

Peacefully yours....Rams...Psychologist!!

THIS IS FOR ALL...A MUST READ POST...

Dear alll...THIS IS FOR ALL...A MUST READ POST...

There are sooo many issues floating around in the media and social networks...every one is discussing about them as the hottest topics...there are several views and opinions...there are agitations and dharnas...people are highly emotional about them....many are 'for'...many are 'against'...every one has his or her 'true', 'false', 'wrong' 'right', 'correct' and 'incorrect'.

People are hot...they are arguing vehemently and angrily...every one is spending his or her most valuable life time on these issues....!!

What is the correct thing?

NATURE is right, correct and true forever!!

NATURE will always win!!

It will never fail!!

Everyone and everything who is against Nature will fail and lose!!

Everything that is man made will fail, vanish...they are not true, correct or right!!

Everything that is against NATURE will be stressful to follow!!

So, if you are feeling stressful in a situation or place or a person or in relationship, then something is happening against Nature!!...We have to identify and correct!!

So, if one wants to be peaceful, happy and healthy, then that person has to align with Nature. It holds good for a family or community or a society!!

Anything that is formed or made or created against nature will remain stressful, people will suffer, they will fight between them and the communities and societies...

The power mongers, parasites, weak people (to show strong and create security for them) and those who do not want people to live in peace for their self motives, will create many things against Nature, on the name of culture, heritage, orderliness etc etc and create unrest. We need to be wise. We need to use our common sense and understand Nature, and align with it!!

Don't hate them. Love them at home, organisations, society and everywhere. But remain disconnected on such issues while remaining connected with every one on human nature.

Don't waste time on discussing such issues. Nature will automatically find its methods and route to remove the hurdles against the Nature. Concentrate on your life issues that will bring improvement in your life!!

People will say 'there is no orderliness!!...For orderliness to be in place, we have to follow what our predecessors have left for us!!'...the truth is NATURE HAS THE PERFECT ORDERLINESS...THIS IS CLEARLY VISIBLE IN THE WAY THE UNIVERSE FUNCTIONS....IN THE WAY EVERYTHING THAT IS IN NATURE FUNCTIONS ON EARTH...ONLY WE HUMANS ARE NOT IN ORDER AND WE DON'T HAVE ORDERLINESS...ALL THAT WE HAVE CREATED DO NOT HAVE TRUE ORDERLINESS...THEREFORE WE SUFFER...LOSE PEACE...OUR LIVES ARE STRESSFUL...GET ALL SORTS OF MENTAL DISEASES...ALL OUR RELATIONSHIPS ARE SPOILED!!

So, let us wake up!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

THIS IS FOR ALL ...especially the PARENTS....

Dear all....THIS IS FOR ALL PARENTS....

The body drives the conscious mind through the subconsicous mind for various needs, wants, comforts, definitions, beliefs...body has its larger share in all these, compared to the social components!!

So, body decides everything in life!!...our thoughts, our emotions, our behaviours!!...Our defintions of life at different ages and stages…our definitions of relationships… aims… goals…. passion… evvvvvvverything!!

Every one's body is different. Every one's life style is different. The life style takes it's major share in deciding the body functioning. e.g one who misses foods and delays food timings, stresses the body, affecting the mind and therefore, the behaviours. (more anger, frustration etc). Food plays a big role in deciding the body functioning.

Some people mature late and some early. Some have less gynaec system actvitiy or functionality and behave like sadhus and some have vigorous and more and behave like animals.

The body does not remain like this for entire life time. With ageing the functionality changes. So, sadhus can become animals and animals can become sadhus.

But some have permanently  no or less functionality to become budhas….to live a brahmacharya life on only knowledge, wisdom and skills. But they do have an ‘affect’ domain i.e emotions, other than cognition and behavioural domains!!...So, they attach themselves to human beings at that domain and with animals and nature!!...For some of the behaviours, affect is the cause (e.g beating a person…without ‘anger’ you can not beat a person), and for some, affect is the effect or by product. If parents do not identify such people, compel them for marriage and family life, it results in a drastic failure, full of hassles, the development and life of children gets affected.

We adore rishis…run behind and follow them…we get connected to them as Guru etc…but we don’t want our children to become a rishi or sadhu!! (laughing!)

Some have mediocre functionality to become sadhus like vashishtha and live a family life and sathu life, focussing both on family life and the life of wisdom, knowledge and skills. Here also two people of same drives should marry, else dissatisfaction and all the resultant negatives happen in married life.

Some have excessive activity to live like Vishvamitra to live with many, produce many varieties of children, and be a rishi too, dwelling into wisdom, knowledge and skills!!...This also has its hassles and matrimony disputes.

Some live a life centered on only the body…make money and wealth, may be get some fame too, eat, drink, smoke, enjoy and die. They are not interested in the responsibility of ‘reproduction and rearing’…or interested in reproduction but not in rearing. They also have life full of problems.

Therefore, the crux is…

1.       Body decides the peace, happiness and health. Life style decides the kind of body.

2.       Emotional life satisfaction is a key element for a satisfied life. So, long term, life long relationships are important. Realisation of all kinds of relationships with living or non living is important. When body is not involved in relationships it has all positives with peace, happiness and good health. When body is involved then it has all kinds of negatives spoiling the life…it has only spills of feelings of goodness in pleasures, and the mind feels feeling of goodness in happiness during the acts of caring and support….i.e service.

3.       The marriage should not be forced when the body is not ready. They body of the past and present are different, as the life styles are different.

4.       Every one should be allowed to live a life based on their body functionality. Imagine budha’s life had he been forced by his King father to live with his wife and child!!

5.       By life style changes…mainly in food…changes can be brought in the body functioning.

6.       Almost 99% percent of the problems in married life are centered around body. Outward manifestations are different.

7.       Controlling body is stressful which results in stress reactions in body and mind. Regulating the body through life style changes is healthy and not stressful.

8.       Mind becomes animal, because of the body. Mind can regulative the body through cognitive methods.

So, REGULATE THE BODY, RULE THE LIFE WITHOUT STRESS AND EFFORTS!!

Peacefully yours…Rams…Psychologist!!

THIS IS FOR ALL THOSE WHO HAVE A BIG WISH LIST FROM GOD!!

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL THOSE WHO HAVE A BIG WISH LIST FROM GOD!!

My grandmother, used to stand in front of god at home and pray loud for nearly an hour. Her wish list was big. It had many 'needs and wants' for self and others around!!

When i go to temples i find many with such big list praying overtly or covertly requesting the god to give all that they need!!

But truly God gives only the strong mind and will power to work towards the wish list or goals. He does not give all that on our lazy laps!

God is not a Product seller...God is only a secondary Service provider (to make us serve ourselves for the products that we want!!).

So, one who works towards their goals and passion, he cares and supports from the back end server!!

The actual truth is, the belief that god is good, god helps us, god will give what we want, helps the brain to secrete substances adequately, makes the necessary changes in the neuron networks, which regulates the hormones, which further changes the functioning of the various systems to provide energy, support and increase the self concept in the mind...makes us to remain focused...think and work towards our goals or wish list...and we achieve too!!

But the lazy and parasite people are not able to get this and finally blame the god.

Also god gives what we deserve to remain peaceful, happy and healthy, not all our comfort needs or wants....or the elements of pleasure domain!!

In the same lines of God, help people to gain strength and stand on their own legs...let our help not make lazy bloody bumps, walking coffins, moving corpse and dead-weights!!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

Who can feel and enjoy the real freedom?

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

People can feel the joy of real, responsible freedom and liberation only when they free themselves mainly from two evils...

1. Emotional and possessive attachment to their religion and caste.

2. Ego

Till such time they are only inside a self made suffocating cage with tight shackles all around!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

When will this country become a Super Power??

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

When will this country become a Super Power??

In this country people generally respect others based on the job/work/profession they do!!

In general they respect only those with money, wealth, power, authority and social status, mainly due to fear value...and of course, usefullness value too!...

Here, there is also a segregation of 'while collar jobs' and 'mean jobs'...people of the second category are not respected and treated worst than their pet animals at home!!

I think this country can become a super power in any category, but a real and true super power it can become only when the culture here changes to "respect all human beings irrespective of their profession, language they speak, their economical condition, religion, caste, education and social status"!!!...

What is the point in India becoming a super power, if one human being does not know the value of other human beings and relationships, and does not respect the other human being??...

Peacefully yours....Rams....Psychologist!!☘☘

THIS IS FOR ALL PARENTS WHO ARE LOOKING FOR MATCHES FOR THEIR CHILDREN....

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL PARENTS WHO ARE LOOKING FOR MATCHES FOR THEIR CHILDREN....

During olden days the house was both working and living place for both the spouse and children. The relatives of parents and children were same. The life styles, beliefs, culture, needs and wants, expectations between people of same caste or religion or sub caste were same.

Today the working and living place of each member in family is different. The life style of every member in a family is different. The relatives or significant of people of parents are not same as that of children. The life styles, culture, defintion of family, marriage, profession, life, living, relationships, rearing children...life styles, beliefs, faiths etc of every person in each family, caste, religion, sub caste are different...so, caste and religion are only on paper...if you think that 'a person of this religion or caste will have this belief, faith, life style' etc then you are likely to get disappointed!!...

Therefore, traditional life does not exist anymore...and it is not possible in an achievement, career and profession centric world of today and in future...therefore, everything needs to be redefined accordingly...one has to change in all domains...changing in only one and not in others, will only lead to failures in all domains of life!!..

Peacefully yours...Rams....Psychologist!!💐

THIS IS FOR ALL GOD FEARING PEOPLE!!

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL GOD FEARING PEOPLE!!

It is a good social image and a social identity in our country!!...God fearing person is expected to be a good human being!!...So, we advocate being a 'god fearing' person!!...Many act as if they are God Fearing!!

Truly fear is negative. We should not be 'God Fearing'. We should be 'God Loving'. God does not want us to fear. God wants us to be brave, strong and mentally healthy!!

Those who felt 'fearing' will make a person not to do wrong things and remain to be a good human being'...those 'negative motivation' believers...and those who were cunning to make people weak and exploit them by using 'god's name' were the two kinds who spread this!!

God is there everywhere and we are continously being watched. So, god need not appear infront of us, for us to get alert, 'appear' to be god fearing, to show our 'respect', and behave inhumanly and wrongly later!!...Hiding our other side, hiding the cigaratte behing the back types, bending forward and showing fear in eyes and body gestures does not make god happy and satisfied!!

God wants us to be 'his image' on earth, because god can't be present in human form everywhere, to every one...so he likes and supports only those who are his images on earth!!

'Love' means 'unconditional care and support'...'respect' means 'responsibility'!

So, if you really love and respect god, then show unconditional care and support to all...if you want to resepect god then be a good human being as per God's definition and be responsible to yourself, all living and non living on earth in the Nature.

It is soooo simple....so, let us not complicate life and living with God Fearing Philosophy!!

Simple Common Sense is enough to understand this!!...Don't get cheated by the 'God Fearing' philosophers!!

this philosophy holds good for all those whom you love...your parents, your lover, your spouse, your children, your friends, your siblings....if you really love them, and respect them and your relationship with them and their relationship with you, then show 'unconditional care and support and be responsible to yourself, the relationship and others'

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

never be serious emotionally, be serious and get lost in it only functionally....

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

In life, never be serious emotionally, it is stressful and damaging...be serious and get lost in it only functionally, with an aim to learn, then you are sure to win, while keeping good health in tact!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

pets can never make us sad...they will never allow us to remain sad...!!

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

For peace and happiness every moment in life...have your life filled and surrounded by unconditional sources of love...

1. have more pets at home...even a simple coconut shell filled with some road side sand with some coriander seeds put inside and little drops of water every day will germinate and produce your lovely, little, beautiful friends...you can keep growing new friends every day...without any effort at all...

2. develop relationships with them...

3. trees are sure good friends for life time...neem tree...banyan tree...peepal tree...

4. pets can never make us sad...they will never allow us to remain sad...!!

5. a spoiled day by any means can be made happy and encouraing by pets...

6. Anything other than human beings are sure to make great pets...Human beings also can make, but real good human beings only!!

7. Moon, sun, stars, clouds, breeze....all add up to the list of pets...and lovers!!

8. All these are realities and not fantasies and imaginaries...they are truly interacting but we realise it only when we strike a relationship with them and realise their interaction with us!!

9. All unconditional loves are free and available in abundance and easily...all conditional loves are costly and not available so easily and damaging!!

Wish you a 'pet'ty life full of pets surrounding you always and anywhere!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

We are not designed for short term relationships...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...ESPECIALLY STUDENTS....

Our movies...TV serials...the lives of our immediate predecessors...is fullllllllllllllllll of 'STRATEGIES'!!!

Their minds were/are always thinking strategies thinking, planning, every move, depending upon the move of the other people...especially with those significant people in their lives...inside homes...with friends and relatives...motives...motives...motives...all towards meeting their needs, wants and expectations...mind remains always occupied with anxiety...stressed...curiosity also adds to stress...

fears...feeling of insecurities...all these cause this bad habit...

sadly it is a culture here...from epics...wrong understanding of epics...

The college students also copy the same from all the above sources and do STRATEGIES in RELATIONSHIPS and fail MISERABLY...in overall reality of life...

Strategies in relationships is a big spoiler!!...It can only fetch short term relationships...bad karma...you only add endless 'bads' in your life...

We are not designed for short term relationships...we are not designed for conditional relationships...we are designed by nature for unconditional and long term relationships and sixth sense is given for the same...sadly we don't know this and spoil our peace, happiness, health and success...

So, the crux is...

1. Strategies in relationships will lead to break-up at some domain or the other. Be simple, straight forward...don't act...don't manipulate...don't project...don't put up false hopes and fantasies...be on reality foot...be what you are...who you are...don't put up a show of 'socially acceptable behaviours'...

2. Strategies might make you win for small and short term happiness, pleasure, a mirage of being successful, achieved etc, but truly you will become a psycho patient one day!!

3. Emotions are strong players of mental health. So, playing with emotions of others and self, will only lead to damage of the self and others.

4. Make a happy, healthy, long term relationships...A Human being's longevity of life, happiness, peace, health and success is in not the number of relationships...not the short term relationships...the secret remains in good, long term relationships!!

5. Don't follow movies, tv serials and your immediate predecessors...and don't learn negatives from epics!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

Help good people and buy them!!

Dear all....THIS IS FOR ALL...

Don't hesitate in helping good people.

Don't do calculations in helping good people.

Because, when you help a good human being, you are actually buying that person!!...Buying for life time!!...Buying some one's life time is actually a true buying, which the other person can not get it back!!

They may not be able to help you back always...in everything...but surely they will be a good support and certainly no nuisance value will come from their side...

In today's world getting true, long lasting relationships is very difficult, as relationships have become easy and fast!!...far too many choices than a human mind or brain or heart can handle, keeping good mental health and social well-being in place!!

So, therefore...

1. Identify good human beings and buy them by helping them.

2. Make long lasting life time relationships with them.

3. Teach the bad people about this philosophy. Certainly strategists in relationships are not good human beings!!..They are people with wrong learning and disorders due to this, needing therapies to make them unlearn and cure them, and this curing is not your job, as you might endanger and waste your precious life!!

Peacefully yours....Rams...Psychologist!!