If you are interested in thinking...then you may read this post...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

The biggest problem in our lives is that we have a body of limited abilities with a brain of unlimited abilities or potential or energy on its top.

Can this be proved?

All other organisms have a body and brain both of limited energy and abilities. So, they are stable, peaceful, happy with whatever they have. The body and mind are in resonance with each other. At least within themselves they are peaceful and probably contented and fulfilled too.

So, human beings have landed up in this chaos during the process of evolution.

Can anything with limited mass and volume have unlimited potential and energy?...If energy is conserved then what happens to the energy after the brain is dead?

Now...is it possible to make the body also with same unlimited capabilities and energy?...Or is it possible to make the brain with only limited capabilities and energy?...Should we do it?...What should we do to make the balance and equivalence to occur so that the system as a whole is stable?

Technology certainly can do it. It might result in some diseases or disorders etc initially but over several years the situation can be improved.

The free and true mind wants to drive the body to healthy pursuits, knowledge, wisdom, learning and skill development.

But the body drives the brain mad and creates a mind of evils and devils and gets damaged and killed ultimately which is an excellent example that negative intentions lead to self destruction. So, the limited body can screw up the unlimited brain easily!!

Is it the brain that drives the body or body that drives the brain?...Right, both drive each other...accepted...But the Cognition of the brain can change the behaviour of the body. Yes, the behaviour of the body also can change the Cognition of the brain. Can there be any behaviour without cognition?...So, who influence whom more?...who is more powerful out of the two?

Mind gets bored easily in monotony with people, places, jobs, relationships, items and wants variety for it to be healthy. Body also gets bored faster and needs variety to be healthy. Why so?...Darwin?...What makes the mind to look for varieties and what makes the body to look for varities?...Same causes?

Interesting things to think about...using the same brain and body...

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

How a relationship should be between two people??

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL BOYS AND GIRLS...

In a relationship, there are two people involved. They may be of same sex or opposite sex. Both have their parents. They may be perceiving some amount of unconditional care and support from their parents. If one can perceive more unconditional care and support in the relationship than from his or her parents then that is the ultimate thing to happen for the relationship to become the best forever!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

Girls need to be shy, innocent and timid only under safe social environments...i.e only at home...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL GIRLS AND PARENTS...

In olden days the girls were shy and innocent. Of course, they did not know anything due to lack of scope for moving out of the home for education and jobs. They were mostly domestic servants and nursing people to keep the house and surroundings clean and meet all the physical, mental and social needs of those at home. Before marriage they did this at parental house and after marriage they did this at in-law's house.

Today, all those old men who see women as above, keep blaming the change in culture and the girls that they are not shy, timid and innocent like their wife or sisters or mother.

But in today's world such girls will get easily cheated and exploited. Thankfully the social dynamics between boys and girls in schools and colleges also revolve around equality which is healthy. In this atmosphere a girl has to be bold, assertive to say "NO" when required without hesitation, be intelligent, and be like a boy in thinking, feelings and behaviours, but be innocent and girly at the required safe moments of life or life situations e.g at home with the husband, siblings or with parents. She should not be shy, timid and innocent all the time, everywhere, with everyone, and all life situations. Then she is sure to get exploited and abused.

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

A simple philosophy in life to be peaceful, happy, healthy, achiever etc.

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

The most important requirement of us, the human beings, is to live on earth peacefully, happily and healthily.

For this we need plants, animals, clean air, clean water and clean earth.

Nature wants us to move...keep moving...face challenges...learn...develop...grow...mature...evolve...and not to get locked inside a room or on a bed or a chair...to get peace, happiness and good health.

For this whatever philosophy of life required, we need to follow. It need not be same as that of others.

There are many philosophies based on different perspectives.

Our deeds are our God. They decide our future. Therefore, we decide our destiny. Everything is in our hands. Our life is decided by us. Good or bad. Evils or blessing. Hell or heaven. Our deeds decide. We may not get what we want, because they may not result in long lasting peace, happiness and good health as we think. Instead we will get what we deserve to be healthy, happy and peaceful!!...We need not please people out of comfort zone to keep them with us, but we will get help from a right person when we face challenges without even asking for it!!

This philosophy helps us to be active. Go out and face challenges. Learn and mature. Does not make us to be weak and parasitic or dependent. It makes us strong, increases the self concept. Helps to accept the outcomes of life with positives. Helps us to live in harmony with plant life, animals and human beings. We will be successful too in both our perception and the perception of right people.

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

One can't be an achiever and develop as a human being by sitting inside the home...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR STUDENTS AND PARENTS...

If a kite has to fly to skies, it has to go out of its shelter...go out and face the head winds...

the kite flyer has to leave the thread and allow the kite to go up, the flyer has to encourage the kite, support it's going out, flying up facing the turbulent winds, protect it in a manner that it flies high!!

If we have to be achievers in global professions, and grow as a better human being by self experience, then we should leave the home, village, city, state and the country. We have to leave behind the emotional shackles and obsession baggages of language, caste, religion, race etc to keep us light and enable us to fly up!!

Else what is the use of a kite??

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

Many IITians and IIMians drink. Many in top positions drink. Many doctors smoke and drink. Many famous achievers also drink and smoke. Why?

Dear all….THIS IS FOR ALL…

Qn. Many IITians and IIMians drink. Many in top positions drink. Many doctors smoke and drink. Many famous achievers also drink and smoke. Why?

If highly educated, highly intelligent and high end achievers drink or smoke or involve in any kind of health compromising habits/behaviours, it does not mean it is right. We should not take them as role models in these behaviours. Sadly our adolescents and early adults copy them in these too!!

If someone practices any health compromising habit it shows that the individual’s mind or body or social relationships is stressed. These three elements of life cannot remain stressed for long, like the way electrons cannot remain at higher energy levels for a long time. It is an unstable stressed situation. So, mind or body applies coping skills or defence mechanisms on its own or learnt from others. Sadly all these methods cause diseases or disorders of the mind and body. They kill the relationships too. Heath enhancing life style is the right way!!

Our ancient culture teaches how to live without stress and how to manage the default stresses in a health enhancing way through cognitive methods (philosophies of life), behavioural methods (positive life style with yoga, meditation etc) and positive affect or emotions.

Sadly we follow the health compromising ways, increase the stresses and spoil the peace, health, lose jobs, lose relationships and lose life too!!

It is the worst disrespect, punishment and irresponsibility we can give/show to our parents, teachers, all those whom we love and those who love us and to the country. No mother wants to see their son with disease, taking medicines and injections or see him dead in front of her.

It is not worth achieving anything under the sky by spoiling the physical, mental and social well-being!!

The first and fundamental education or knowledge or skill or wisdom any parent should get and teach their children is ‘How to live peacefully, happily, healthily at any place on earth under any life situation!!’. Without this all the education, fame, authority, power, money, wealth we have acquired becomes a waste and meaningless.

Families, educational institutions, organisations and other social systems should teach and profess this as their value system and back bone of functioning.

Sadly the leaders of various kinds have made us ‘not to think and not to use our COMMON SENSE’ and blindly follow them. No wonder we run for peace!!

So, let us use our common sense, follow ancient culture of stress free life with health enhancing life style, have peace, have health, be achievers, live in happiness with strong and lifelong relationships.

Let us be the best role models and heroes for our own children in all domains of life, else, they will follow other role models in the society and probably can get rotten!!

Peacefully yours…Rams…Psychologist!!

THE NEED OF THE HOUR!!

Dear all…THIS IS FOR ALL...

I find many parents madly running for money and wealth, have relationship with people from whom they can get these two or ‘favours’ or people from whom they can gain professional help, career growth…’kaam ka aadmi!!’ for short lived materialistic relationships!! They teach the children also to have such relationships only. End result is students want job but not interested in knowledge or skill development. Somehow they want a job. They are not knowing how to develop, groom and sustain life long relationships. They don’t know how to groom theselves to get a job and sustain in their job. They don’t know how to be a good human being. Finally they land up in depression and suicidal tendencies in their twenties with break-ups, no jobs, sexual abuses and what not, and if luck exists they land up with some psychologists or psychiatrists to get help.

So, parents should follow good morals, values and ethics in their day to day life and living, teach their children also the same, so that the children first become good human beings, develop skills, knowledge and qualifications and become employable, become good human beings who can make good relationships for life long. 

THIS IS THE NEED OF THE HOUR!!

Peacefully yours…Rams…Psychologist!!

Beware of people....

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

There are many people of all ages, well dressed, appear like executives in organisations or appear poor or appear diseased or show some unreal wounds etc in common public places like roads, junctions, etc, approach people saying they came for some purpose and landed up in trouble and need some money. They have all kinds of such stories which they tell to people depending upon the target person they come across. They keep changing their stories. Depending upon the economic status of people whom they come across on the way they pitch their need from Rs.50/- (may be even lower than this). Basically small amounts that you can easily afford so that you feel pity and give them the money they ask for thinking 'neither i will become poor nor she or he will become rich!!'. So, they ensure that they get some money from each target person. In a day they must be earning hundreds or thousands depending upon their luck that day and in a month a huge sum.

Some of them observe us soo much in the few seconds when they talk to us and steal anything from us in a second. Some go away with the money we give. They have trained themselves well with all kinds of FAQs they come across from their target people. They are highly experienced professionals. They appear soo genuine that you cannot escape from their net and land up giving some money. They bombard with soo much of information about them in a few seconds that you lose your thinking ability to suspect, and finally fall prey.

The sad thing is because of such people the genuine people do not get help and also the good human beings lose their interest to help anyone. It is too risky these days to stop at someone who intercepts us to talk or ask for any help. The cheating cases or more than the genuine cases. You can imagine where we are heading to because of such people!!

Sadly everyone reads Psychology to cheat and lure people, make them addicts, obsessed etc and not to be a good human being.

Sadly all of them are given birth and grown by some mothers of no morals, values and ethics and groomed by the present ‘money and wealth’ driven society!!

Take care!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

THIS IS FOR ALL...ESPECIALY THE TEENAGERS AND EARLY TWENTIES... What is Love?

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...ESPECIALY THE TEENAGERS AND EARLY TWENTIES...

What is Love?

UNCONDITIONAL CARING AND SUPPORTING.

Caring means health enhancing thoughts, feelings and behaviours in us that will ensure good mental, physical and social well-being of the other person.

Supporting means positive health enhancing thoughts, feelings and behaviours in us that will help development of positive health enhancing skills, knowledge, wisdom, personality traits and life style in the other person to realise his or her dreams, passion, goal or aim or purpose or interest etc that are health enhancing.

Love is mutual and not one way traffic. The above definition may be ideal. Yes...it is difficult, but not impossible!!

This is what is true, pure and divine love that can sustain for entire life, beyond the changes in appearance, wants, needs, expectations and personality traits.

Filmy love or physical attraction that comes at any age with fantasies and thoughts, feelings and behaviours not matching with reality is not love...It is a nature driven maya for procreation.

The above is unavoidable as long as we have the BODY.

If only the body is made self-regulating with food habits and other life style elements that can free or ease the mind, then one can easily experience LOVE!!...That is UNCONDITIONAL CARING AND SUPPORTING.

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!