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Monday 31 March 2014
Thursday 27 March 2014
some additions to 'why older men get attracted to younger women / girls' post...
hai all...
i typed something on relationships between older men and younger women / girls on 25th mar...though there are no posts (except 1) i have received many mails on that...little more here...
1. No young women or girl goes to a older man for any physical relationship.
2. They go only for perception of other relationships like friend, mentor, guide, guru, father, brother and such other relationships for intellectual, verbal emotional and such other supports.
3. economically weaker and emotionally unsupported, who are not crooks and straight forward go to them only for economical and verbal emotional supports and such other supports which can make them feel strong, confident, motivated, peaceful and successful.
4. When they say 'I love you!', it does not mean 'i want to live with you', 'i want to make a family with you' etc...it only means 'i like you', 'you are a good human being'...that is all!...it means nothing more than that!
there are exceptions too but very few...some of this few are like that due to aberrations in secretions, which can be cured...
the above is from the girl / womens side...
I have already typed from the man's side adequately in the previous post...
If parents and husbands are good, understandable human beings, friends, soul mates, then no girl or women will go to any other man, why only elder men, for any support!
So, let us be good parents and husbands!!
rams - a researcher on individual and group human behaviours.
i typed something on relationships between older men and younger women / girls on 25th mar...though there are no posts (except 1) i have received many mails on that...little more here...
1. No young women or girl goes to a older man for any physical relationship.
2. They go only for perception of other relationships like friend, mentor, guide, guru, father, brother and such other relationships for intellectual, verbal emotional and such other supports.
3. economically weaker and emotionally unsupported, who are not crooks and straight forward go to them only for economical and verbal emotional supports and such other supports which can make them feel strong, confident, motivated, peaceful and successful.
4. When they say 'I love you!', it does not mean 'i want to live with you', 'i want to make a family with you' etc...it only means 'i like you', 'you are a good human being'...that is all!...it means nothing more than that!
there are exceptions too but very few...some of this few are like that due to aberrations in secretions, which can be cured...
the above is from the girl / womens side...
I have already typed from the man's side adequately in the previous post...
If parents and husbands are good, understandable human beings, friends, soul mates, then no girl or women will go to any other man, why only elder men, for any support!
So, let us be good parents and husbands!!
rams - a researcher on individual and group human behaviours.
whom should we discuss about human behaviours?
hai all...
most of the time we discuss issues on relationships, family, life, living etc with only people within the society or culture (southern society, indian culture etc)...this is something like, being in the well and talking to yet another frog of the same well, we will not get more experienced knowledge...we need to interact with people from all over the world...only then we will hear from all sorts of experiences and expand our knowledge and wisdom...
rams
most of the time we discuss issues on relationships, family, life, living etc with only people within the society or culture (southern society, indian culture etc)...this is something like, being in the well and talking to yet another frog of the same well, we will not get more experienced knowledge...we need to interact with people from all over the world...only then we will hear from all sorts of experiences and expand our knowledge and wisdom...
rams
the relationship between love, longing and hate...
hai all...here is something from Pandit sri sri ravishankar...
"Pain is part of love. This is what Christ symbolizes on the cross. The cross is pain and Christ is love. With understanding, the pain of love gets transformed into another dimension. It becomes longing.
If you really love something, you will long for it. Can there ever be a love without longing? Longing is the other face of love.
- Sri Sri Ravi Shankar
pain is a negative thing...love is a positive thing (hihihi...as per me!)...i think only when there is a 'body' 'NEED' there is pain in love...if this is not there then there is no pain in love...because the mind has many other methods of realising the needs through virtual methods...body only needs the presence of the person and gratification of the needs from the other body of the person!
also people interpret negative behaviours, emotions and thinking from the word 'longing'...actually when we equate longing for the body need, then there is pain, sadness, hate, frustration, anger and all such negatives associated with longing are perceived....but when we interpret longing as a need of the mind, then there is no pain or negatives...no fights with the other person over phone or chat or net or mails etc who is living far off and you are longing for him or her...because the mind always finds ways to gratify its needs through virtual simulation methods...
by longing sri sri does not mean sadness...crying...he talks about enjoying the relationship...virtual relationship...in the absence of the other partner...being happy...being living with that person...e.g in Indian epics meera (a common girl) loved Lord krishna...but krishna was not with her always...so, she was longing for him...singing songs...dancing...playing the veena or that damn instrument she had in her hands...so, guys, longing does not mean being sad or crying...or getting frustrated, or hating or shouting at the other person...it means loving in the absence!...enjoying the person and the relationship in the absence....love only has happiness and all positive emotions...it does not have any negative emotions like sad, hate, frustration, shouting, hitting, killing, causing damage etc...if you get it, that means your perception, thinking, understanding of love etc are wrong...what you have is not love, it is only a lust, need....a need of the body....that is why when the need is not met, the requirement is not fulfilled, they start fighting....even husband and wife start fighting...so, that love is conditional and exists only when needs are met...what a bloody love it is?????...love vaporises or vanishes when his or her need is not met!!!!!
longing increases love if it is real love beyond the needs of the body...mind travels beyond the physical presence...so mind needs does not look for the physical presence of the individual...IT IS IMPOSSIBLE FOR ANY INDIVIDUAL TO BE THERE ALWAYS AND TO SATISFY A PERSON TO ALL LEVELS BY ALL TYPES IN ALL DIMENSIONS...WHETHER THE INDIVIDUAL IS A BOY OR A GIRL!!!...SO, let us understand love, longing etc properly and be happy enjoying love and longing!
so, keep loving and keep longing folks! (of course, happily and healthily!!! (smile))
don't cry out of longing boys and girls!
keep rocking!
rams
"Pain is part of love. This is what Christ symbolizes on the cross. The cross is pain and Christ is love. With understanding, the pain of love gets transformed into another dimension. It becomes longing.
If you really love something, you will long for it. Can there ever be a love without longing? Longing is the other face of love.
- Sri Sri Ravi Shankar
pain is a negative thing...love is a positive thing (hihihi...as per me!)...i think only when there is a 'body' 'NEED' there is pain in love...if this is not there then there is no pain in love...because the mind has many other methods of realising the needs through virtual methods...body only needs the presence of the person and gratification of the needs from the other body of the person!
also people interpret negative behaviours, emotions and thinking from the word 'longing'...actually when we equate longing for the body need, then there is pain, sadness, hate, frustration, anger and all such negatives associated with longing are perceived....but when we interpret longing as a need of the mind, then there is no pain or negatives...no fights with the other person over phone or chat or net or mails etc who is living far off and you are longing for him or her...because the mind always finds ways to gratify its needs through virtual simulation methods...
by longing sri sri does not mean sadness...crying...he talks about enjoying the relationship...virtual relationship...in the absence of the other partner...being happy...being living with that person...e.g in Indian epics meera (a common girl) loved Lord krishna...but krishna was not with her always...so, she was longing for him...singing songs...dancing...playing the veena or that damn instrument she had in her hands...so, guys, longing does not mean being sad or crying...or getting frustrated, or hating or shouting at the other person...it means loving in the absence!...enjoying the person and the relationship in the absence....love only has happiness and all positive emotions...it does not have any negative emotions like sad, hate, frustration, shouting, hitting, killing, causing damage etc...if you get it, that means your perception, thinking, understanding of love etc are wrong...what you have is not love, it is only a lust, need....a need of the body....that is why when the need is not met, the requirement is not fulfilled, they start fighting....even husband and wife start fighting...so, that love is conditional and exists only when needs are met...what a bloody love it is?????...love vaporises or vanishes when his or her need is not met!!!!!
longing increases love if it is real love beyond the needs of the body...mind travels beyond the physical presence...so mind needs does not look for the physical presence of the individual...IT IS IMPOSSIBLE FOR ANY INDIVIDUAL TO BE THERE ALWAYS AND TO SATISFY A PERSON TO ALL LEVELS BY ALL TYPES IN ALL DIMENSIONS...WHETHER THE INDIVIDUAL IS A BOY OR A GIRL!!!...SO, let us understand love, longing etc properly and be happy enjoying love and longing!
so, keep loving and keep longing folks! (of course, happily and healthily!!! (smile))
don't cry out of longing boys and girls!
keep rocking!
rams
Tuesday 25 March 2014
Which is right? Which is wrong? Which is good? Which is bad? Which is true? Which is false?
hai all...
anything and every thing is right as long as it does not affect our / others' happiness, physical, mental and social health, peace and success.
anything that affects is wrong.
so, right or wrong or good or bad depends on its effect and not people or society or place or religion etc.
rams
anything and every thing is right as long as it does not affect our / others' happiness, physical, mental and social health, peace and success.
anything that affects is wrong.
so, right or wrong or good or bad depends on its effect and not people or society or place or religion etc.
rams
How should we perceive the 'mistakes'?
hai all...there is a post on 'mistakes' by sri sri below...
mistakes...hmmm...we all do...every day all the time...
mistakes are again only perceptions...varies from individual to individual as to which one can be classified into a mistake...something universally acceptable by all people of all societies is what is accepted as mistake...remaining all mistakes are all either perceived by individuals or groups or societies...but not universally true.
Mistakes...can occur due to 1. us 2. others 3. environment
Normally we don't accept the mistakes as ours. We either blame it on others or the environment or both. But we accept all achievements and successes as purely ours!...
Mistakes...when we perceive it to be due to us, then we experience guilty, which is not good. We have to just feel 'ok, gone is gone, i will not repeat this mistake again!' and come out of it.
When we see mistake as due to others, we get angry, which is again an unhealthy emotion.
When we perceive it due to the environment, then we feel sad and upset, which is again an unhealthy emotion.
So, instead of feeling all these unhealthy emotions, let us just forget it, accept that there are things beyond us and nothing we can do about it, and move ahead taking the necessary actions to avoid the re-occurrence. Let us come out of our culture of 'attributing blame' (in govt terms, in board of inquiries, 'attributability of blame' to be specified, so they try to find out a goat who can be axed!) and screwing up happiness, health and peace.
rams
mistakes...hmmm...we all do...every day all the time...
mistakes are again only perceptions...varies from individual to individual as to which one can be classified into a mistake...something universally acceptable by all people of all societies is what is accepted as mistake...remaining all mistakes are all either perceived by individuals or groups or societies...but not universally true.
Mistakes...can occur due to 1. us 2. others 3. environment
Normally we don't accept the mistakes as ours. We either blame it on others or the environment or both. But we accept all achievements and successes as purely ours!...
Mistakes...when we perceive it to be due to us, then we experience guilty, which is not good. We have to just feel 'ok, gone is gone, i will not repeat this mistake again!' and come out of it.
When we see mistake as due to others, we get angry, which is again an unhealthy emotion.
When we perceive it due to the environment, then we feel sad and upset, which is again an unhealthy emotion.
So, instead of feeling all these unhealthy emotions, let us just forget it, accept that there are things beyond us and nothing we can do about it, and move ahead taking the necessary actions to avoid the re-occurrence. Let us come out of our culture of 'attributing blame' (in govt terms, in board of inquiries, 'attributability of blame' to be specified, so they try to find out a goat who can be axed!) and screwing up happiness, health and peace.
rams
"Why older men get attracted to younger women / girls (or) Why younger women / girls get attracted to older men?
hai all...
it is an age old question which every one asks....other day i received this question...'why old men are attracted towards younger girls or women?'
the answer is...
nature has produced all living beings (why only human beings) for eating, reproduction, protecting against dangers...all basic instincts and behaviours are out of these...any behaviour emanating towards achieving these are 'natural behaviours' (not learnt behaviours)
also nature wants 1. no two living organisms to be the same (theory of variation - Charles Darwin) 2. healthy off springs.
Nature knows that only younger women / girls can produce healthy off springs...so, every one gets attracted to younger girls / women...whether boys or middle aged men or old men...unfortunately nature believes or created older men also capable of creating healthy off springs!
no one gets attracted towards old women for reproduction...or get infatuated with older women...
no movie heroine is a older women...all heroines are between 15 to 25 years of age...rarely into thirties, but looking young and youthful (so, all our movies are about infatuation and not about love the way they depict!).
so, older men also get attracted towards younger girls / women...
Is it right?
Nature has not produced anything as right or wrong...so, as per nature it is right.
But we have created social systems. Nature has not created these. Each and every social system has its rules and regulations. Roles and statuses for the members in the social system. So, the indian society does not accept it. At the same time indian girls from weaker economic sections get married to rich older men with the approval of society.
Why it does not accept it?...because the social system called family is created to support each other for life long. The old man will die soon and the girl will be left alone for life (not considering remarriages or divorces...looking at the issue straight!).
All social systems like marriage, family etc are accepted ones. Statuses like father, mother etc are accepted and well defined ones. But love, lovers, extramarital affairs, older men loving younger women or younger men loving older women are not defined in our social systems and therefore there are no roles and statuses defined. So, they are not accepted by the society openly.
Also every human being is attracted towards the other human being, irrespective of age, for their wants and needs. They always establish the 'missing relationships' and needs of their life. So, a girl can see a man as father, brother, friend, mentor, guide, adviser, guru, soul mate, lover and what not!...similarly the man also can look at the younger girl / women as sister, daughter, friend, lover, soul mate etc. Either of them can give physical relationship to the other just to retain the relationship or 'after all he / she wants it. Let him / her take. I don't mind. My needs are different!'...So, most of the time the girls miss their parents and establish a parental relationship with older men. Some of the older men too, who miss their daughters, establish such a relationship.
It is also true that the older men, as they are experienced on earth with respect to all sorts of relationships, matured in life events, adapted to their wife and children, are capable of understanding and adapting to younger women / girls easily...so, the girls see a good mentor / friend in him. Especially the girls of today having more of 'achievement motive' look for good guides, mentors, friends, soul mate than a lover in older men.
Also, if you have noticed between spouses, the adaptability is better during their early stages and younger ages of life. The reason is they don't want to lose the other person who is meeting their needs well (this takes place naturally and sub consciously). Nature ensures this for 1. reproduction to go on well 2. the off springs are groomed well with love and affection. The older they become, the lesser the adaptability (they fight, get frustrated with each other...many who have felt 'ultimate love or 'he is my ultimate lover!' feeling, have landed up in this situation, may be with in about 5 years of togetherness!!).
Also acceptability or right or wrong etc depends on the two people involved and th society. There are societies which accept or just don't care or mind such relationships.
There are many who also feel that 'how long we live together in relationship' does not matter...i.e the duration of the relationship... the valuable times spent together, success in life etc matter more...but certainly indian society is not meant for such relationships. So, may be they have to escape to some other part of the world to retain the relationships.
so, the crux is...
1. right or wrong depends on the two and society around them.
2. missing relationships in life are the ones that is felt between the two.
3. physical relationships are given 'just to retain' the relationship
4. relationships are established between two human beings for gratification of their needs and wants of body and mind, known or not known to them consciously or subconsciously
5. need of the body is basic for survival and the need can make the organism to adapt to any extent with the other person
6. girls who have not got good fathers land up with older men seeing their dream 'fathers' in them.
7. such relationships are nature driven, not learnt, not acceptable to the society and social systems
8. less adaptability between older spouses can make the other person to go for the missing relationship outside the marriage or family social system, which again is nature driven and not acceptable to the society here.
9. older men adapt better and yield more to retain the younger and youthful opposite sex.
10. the love depicted in indian movies are infatuation and not the love that can lead to life long relationships (provided the 'body' motivated relationship does not mature to 'behaviour' based relationship)
though i can keep typing on this issue, i think it is enough here. More later.
peacefully yours
rams-psychologist and sociologist
it is an age old question which every one asks....other day i received this question...'why old men are attracted towards younger girls or women?'
the answer is...
nature has produced all living beings (why only human beings) for eating, reproduction, protecting against dangers...all basic instincts and behaviours are out of these...any behaviour emanating towards achieving these are 'natural behaviours' (not learnt behaviours)
also nature wants 1. no two living organisms to be the same (theory of variation - Charles Darwin) 2. healthy off springs.
Nature knows that only younger women / girls can produce healthy off springs...so, every one gets attracted to younger girls / women...whether boys or middle aged men or old men...unfortunately nature believes or created older men also capable of creating healthy off springs!
no one gets attracted towards old women for reproduction...or get infatuated with older women...
no movie heroine is a older women...all heroines are between 15 to 25 years of age...rarely into thirties, but looking young and youthful (so, all our movies are about infatuation and not about love the way they depict!).
so, older men also get attracted towards younger girls / women...
Is it right?
Nature has not produced anything as right or wrong...so, as per nature it is right.
But we have created social systems. Nature has not created these. Each and every social system has its rules and regulations. Roles and statuses for the members in the social system. So, the indian society does not accept it. At the same time indian girls from weaker economic sections get married to rich older men with the approval of society.
Why it does not accept it?...because the social system called family is created to support each other for life long. The old man will die soon and the girl will be left alone for life (not considering remarriages or divorces...looking at the issue straight!).
All social systems like marriage, family etc are accepted ones. Statuses like father, mother etc are accepted and well defined ones. But love, lovers, extramarital affairs, older men loving younger women or younger men loving older women are not defined in our social systems and therefore there are no roles and statuses defined. So, they are not accepted by the society openly.
Also every human being is attracted towards the other human being, irrespective of age, for their wants and needs. They always establish the 'missing relationships' and needs of their life. So, a girl can see a man as father, brother, friend, mentor, guide, adviser, guru, soul mate, lover and what not!...similarly the man also can look at the younger girl / women as sister, daughter, friend, lover, soul mate etc. Either of them can give physical relationship to the other just to retain the relationship or 'after all he / she wants it. Let him / her take. I don't mind. My needs are different!'...So, most of the time the girls miss their parents and establish a parental relationship with older men. Some of the older men too, who miss their daughters, establish such a relationship.
It is also true that the older men, as they are experienced on earth with respect to all sorts of relationships, matured in life events, adapted to their wife and children, are capable of understanding and adapting to younger women / girls easily...so, the girls see a good mentor / friend in him. Especially the girls of today having more of 'achievement motive' look for good guides, mentors, friends, soul mate than a lover in older men.
Also, if you have noticed between spouses, the adaptability is better during their early stages and younger ages of life. The reason is they don't want to lose the other person who is meeting their needs well (this takes place naturally and sub consciously). Nature ensures this for 1. reproduction to go on well 2. the off springs are groomed well with love and affection. The older they become, the lesser the adaptability (they fight, get frustrated with each other...many who have felt 'ultimate love or 'he is my ultimate lover!' feeling, have landed up in this situation, may be with in about 5 years of togetherness!!).
Also acceptability or right or wrong etc depends on the two people involved and th society. There are societies which accept or just don't care or mind such relationships.
There are many who also feel that 'how long we live together in relationship' does not matter...i.e the duration of the relationship... the valuable times spent together, success in life etc matter more...but certainly indian society is not meant for such relationships. So, may be they have to escape to some other part of the world to retain the relationships.
so, the crux is...
1. right or wrong depends on the two and society around them.
2. missing relationships in life are the ones that is felt between the two.
3. physical relationships are given 'just to retain' the relationship
4. relationships are established between two human beings for gratification of their needs and wants of body and mind, known or not known to them consciously or subconsciously
5. need of the body is basic for survival and the need can make the organism to adapt to any extent with the other person
6. girls who have not got good fathers land up with older men seeing their dream 'fathers' in them.
7. such relationships are nature driven, not learnt, not acceptable to the society and social systems
8. less adaptability between older spouses can make the other person to go for the missing relationship outside the marriage or family social system, which again is nature driven and not acceptable to the society here.
9. older men adapt better and yield more to retain the younger and youthful opposite sex.
10. the love depicted in indian movies are infatuation and not the love that can lead to life long relationships (provided the 'body' motivated relationship does not mature to 'behaviour' based relationship)
though i can keep typing on this issue, i think it is enough here. More later.
peacefully yours
rams-psychologist and sociologist
Saturday 15 March 2014
Hai all...
two commonly found loves among students and adults are 1. ‘addictive love’ 2. ‘obsessional love’. Mostly boys and men are seen affected with this mental disorder. Of course, girls also get affected.
These loves cannot keep both in happiness, good health and peace and ultimately kill both, as they are mental disorders and need to be treated by psychiatrists and clinical psycholo...gists, else will kill one or both.
More about these loves are there in my blog and here on fb. The character of Kamal Hasan in tamil movie Guna is an example.
Unfortunately girls think that they are true loves (during the initial phase when boys exhibit behaviours) and spoil their lives.
When girls approach boys or men with these loves, men use them up and leave. The girls later kill only themselves or the man too.
So, men and girls/women, better wake up!!!!
1. When you come to know off such cases advice their relatives to take them for medical treatment.
2. Shift your place of dwelling and escape to another city not known to the addictive / obsessional lover. Cut off all the contacts with the person.
rams
two commonly found loves among students and adults are 1. ‘addictive love’ 2. ‘obsessional love’. Mostly boys and men are seen affected with this mental disorder. Of course, girls also get affected.
These loves cannot keep both in happiness, good health and peace and ultimately kill both, as they are mental disorders and need to be treated by psychiatrists and clinical psycholo...gists, else will kill one or both.
More about these loves are there in my blog and here on fb. The character of Kamal Hasan in tamil movie Guna is an example.
Unfortunately girls think that they are true loves (during the initial phase when boys exhibit behaviours) and spoil their lives.
When girls approach boys or men with these loves, men use them up and leave. The girls later kill only themselves or the man too.
So, men and girls/women, better wake up!!!!
1. When you come to know off such cases advice their relatives to take them for medical treatment.
2. Shift your place of dwelling and escape to another city not known to the addictive / obsessional lover. Cut off all the contacts with the person.
rams
Saturday 8 March 2014
What is Cuteness?...How can we be cute always throughout our life?
Hai all...how are we?
I received phone calls, sms and mails saying 'hai, where are your cute long posts?'...so here we go...(smile)
Once my friend said ‘My wife was cute during school and college days. Now she is not cute and has become witchy daa!’.
This is the statement of many guys. Of course, girls also have their truck loads to say ‘He was cute during the initial days. Now he has no time to konjufy me and barks all the time at every one’. Men in early middle or middle age show cuteness for 10 mts before their need is met. That is all.
Such perceptions bring a gap, growing gap, between the two physically or mentally or both and affects their social wellbeing with the other.
What is cuteness?...Where it goes as we age?...Is cuteness related to age?...Is it possible to retain it throughout life till the last?
All babies are cute. For children, their grandparents are always cute. So, cuteness is not related to age. We can be cute all throughout. Then where is it?
All cute people are beautiful. They radiate love and peace. This makes them attractive, makes many to come towards them, to be in their presence, to be in relationship etc. So, they give a soul filling happiness. But all those who are beautiful are not cute. Why?
Cuteness comes due to
1. Physical appearance
2. Behaviours
Both these change as we age. So, cuteness also changes and goes off. But if we are conscious of retaining our cuteness, then, yes, it is possible to retain our cuteness.
Is it possible to control the change in our physical appearance?...to an extent possible with lots of fruits, vegetables, cutting down some food items, exercising, meditation, yoga etc. We can slow down the aging process. But can’t stop completely.
But we can certainly keep the cute behaviours to exist always.
Cute people are always small in size, but even tall and big people can look cute and sweet.
Though it is a subjective term, but in general, kids are mostly perceived cute by all. It is a perception in the mind of the perceiver. One, who is judged as cute by one person, may not get judged as cute by another person.
Youthfulness is also assessed as cuteness, which is the part of appearance. Anyone who is dressed up funny is cute.
What are the characteristics of cute people?
1. they are not sad
2. they are always happy. They don't keep calculating the losses and gains in life events. They just want to be happy and be in that. They take everything in lighter sense and positivity. They can be happy at any place, in the company of any one and nothing and no one can deter their happiness.
3. they are always in the present. They don’t think about the fear of unknown future and sad moments of the past when they are with people, places, life situations etc. They always recollect the happy moments of the past and think only about the bright future.
4. they think positive always, show positive behaviours and emotions
5. they are full of love, happiness, peace and affection
6. it gives a nice feeling to be in their love envelope, feels heavenly to be in their presence.
7. Whatever they do is what they feel like doing. They don’t think ‘what others will think about me?’
8. they are non judgemental. They don’t assess, evaluate and judge people in front. They just show the true emotions and talk the truth as to what their heart says.
9. They might seem to be irresponsible, but they don’t get anxiety struck thinking about the next moment and future. They just do what is required to be done as the part of responsibility. They believe that ‘responsibility’ is not about thinking all the time about it, not doing anything, remaining anxiety struck, fearing about the future and spreading only unhappiness, stress, tension, shouting, frustration, spoiling the moods of people around and screwing up the physical, mental and social wellbeing. It is all about ‘PLANNING and DOING’ happily and enjoying every moment of the ‘doing’. That is all.
10. Our understanding of ‘Responsibility’ spoils cuteness. So, handle it as in point 9.
11. They want to be happy always. They do things which give them happiness or derive happiness out of what they do. As they involve mentally and physically in anything they do, they derive happiness and satisfaction in whatever they do and so are happy and cute.
12. Cute people are always full of fun, jovial, charming, attractive and accept people as they are. They don’t dictate others to be like them. They allow the others to do whatever they like. They don’t expect others to behave in a certain way.
13. Their mind is always free and not preoccupied.
14. Cuteness is mostly related to the ‘face’, thought it has some elements of ‘appearance’ and ‘behaviours’ of other part of the body.
15. Cuteness is the replica of mind. One with positive mental structures only can be cute. One full of jealousy, cunning, revenge, hate in the mind cannot be cute.
16. Some are cute only during certain brief times and life situations. Some are always cute.
17. Cuteness cannot be manipulated. It has to come from within. One can act and appear to be cute.
18. Cute people positively motivate the others to care for them without their knowledge.
19. Cute people have soft body features and not scary or ‘rough and touch’ features. If one has such tough body, they can bring in cuteness through, not their appearance, but through their behaviours.
20. Cuteness evolves from the basic ingredient of one’s personality i.e INNOCENCE. Innocent people generally are cute.
21. Nature has created all the infant organisms (humans, animals, birds, insects etc) to look cute, so that they are taken care of or cared by others for their wellbeing.
22. Cute people exhibit childlike and infant like characteristics, facial and body expressions and are non-aggressive in behaviours.
23. A person who radiates only love and peace perceives everyone around them to be cute!!! One with caretaking behaviour and affective orientation in life also perceives every one as cute only!!!!
24. Apart from behavioural traits, physical characteristics like size, shape and proportionality of facial parts (e.g chubby cheeks and big eyes) also contribute for the cuteness factor.
25. Cuteness comes out of innocence. Innocence means ‘not being evil’. Not knowing. Not knowing the nature and effect of their acts.
26. Cute people radiate pleasure and satisfaction. They are graceful and charismatic.
27. Even those people who are categorised as not beautiful and dirty also can appear cute. So, cuteness is more on the perceiver and it is related to the ‘mind set’ of both the people involved.
So, we might be aging and losing the cute appearance due to aging. But Let us not lose our cuteness in being anxiety struck on the name of ‘being responsible’ and ‘behaving as per age’.
So, guys and gals, let us be cute always and forever!!
rams...(cute smile)
I received phone calls, sms and mails saying 'hai, where are your cute long posts?'...so here we go...(smile)
Once my friend said ‘My wife was cute during school and college days. Now she is not cute and has become witchy daa!’.
This is the statement of many guys. Of course, girls also have their truck loads to say ‘He was cute during the initial days. Now he has no time to konjufy me and barks all the time at every one’. Men in early middle or middle age show cuteness for 10 mts before their need is met. That is all.
Such perceptions bring a gap, growing gap, between the two physically or mentally or both and affects their social wellbeing with the other.
What is cuteness?...Where it goes as we age?...Is cuteness related to age?...Is it possible to retain it throughout life till the last?
All babies are cute. For children, their grandparents are always cute. So, cuteness is not related to age. We can be cute all throughout. Then where is it?
All cute people are beautiful. They radiate love and peace. This makes them attractive, makes many to come towards them, to be in their presence, to be in relationship etc. So, they give a soul filling happiness. But all those who are beautiful are not cute. Why?
Cuteness comes due to
1. Physical appearance
2. Behaviours
Both these change as we age. So, cuteness also changes and goes off. But if we are conscious of retaining our cuteness, then, yes, it is possible to retain our cuteness.
Is it possible to control the change in our physical appearance?...to an extent possible with lots of fruits, vegetables, cutting down some food items, exercising, meditation, yoga etc. We can slow down the aging process. But can’t stop completely.
But we can certainly keep the cute behaviours to exist always.
Cute people are always small in size, but even tall and big people can look cute and sweet.
Though it is a subjective term, but in general, kids are mostly perceived cute by all. It is a perception in the mind of the perceiver. One, who is judged as cute by one person, may not get judged as cute by another person.
Youthfulness is also assessed as cuteness, which is the part of appearance. Anyone who is dressed up funny is cute.
What are the characteristics of cute people?
1. they are not sad
2. they are always happy. They don't keep calculating the losses and gains in life events. They just want to be happy and be in that. They take everything in lighter sense and positivity. They can be happy at any place, in the company of any one and nothing and no one can deter their happiness.
3. they are always in the present. They don’t think about the fear of unknown future and sad moments of the past when they are with people, places, life situations etc. They always recollect the happy moments of the past and think only about the bright future.
4. they think positive always, show positive behaviours and emotions
5. they are full of love, happiness, peace and affection
6. it gives a nice feeling to be in their love envelope, feels heavenly to be in their presence.
7. Whatever they do is what they feel like doing. They don’t think ‘what others will think about me?’
8. they are non judgemental. They don’t assess, evaluate and judge people in front. They just show the true emotions and talk the truth as to what their heart says.
9. They might seem to be irresponsible, but they don’t get anxiety struck thinking about the next moment and future. They just do what is required to be done as the part of responsibility. They believe that ‘responsibility’ is not about thinking all the time about it, not doing anything, remaining anxiety struck, fearing about the future and spreading only unhappiness, stress, tension, shouting, frustration, spoiling the moods of people around and screwing up the physical, mental and social wellbeing. It is all about ‘PLANNING and DOING’ happily and enjoying every moment of the ‘doing’. That is all.
10. Our understanding of ‘Responsibility’ spoils cuteness. So, handle it as in point 9.
11. They want to be happy always. They do things which give them happiness or derive happiness out of what they do. As they involve mentally and physically in anything they do, they derive happiness and satisfaction in whatever they do and so are happy and cute.
12. Cute people are always full of fun, jovial, charming, attractive and accept people as they are. They don’t dictate others to be like them. They allow the others to do whatever they like. They don’t expect others to behave in a certain way.
13. Their mind is always free and not preoccupied.
14. Cuteness is mostly related to the ‘face’, thought it has some elements of ‘appearance’ and ‘behaviours’ of other part of the body.
15. Cuteness is the replica of mind. One with positive mental structures only can be cute. One full of jealousy, cunning, revenge, hate in the mind cannot be cute.
16. Some are cute only during certain brief times and life situations. Some are always cute.
17. Cuteness cannot be manipulated. It has to come from within. One can act and appear to be cute.
18. Cute people positively motivate the others to care for them without their knowledge.
19. Cute people have soft body features and not scary or ‘rough and touch’ features. If one has such tough body, they can bring in cuteness through, not their appearance, but through their behaviours.
20. Cuteness evolves from the basic ingredient of one’s personality i.e INNOCENCE. Innocent people generally are cute.
21. Nature has created all the infant organisms (humans, animals, birds, insects etc) to look cute, so that they are taken care of or cared by others for their wellbeing.
22. Cute people exhibit childlike and infant like characteristics, facial and body expressions and are non-aggressive in behaviours.
23. A person who radiates only love and peace perceives everyone around them to be cute!!! One with caretaking behaviour and affective orientation in life also perceives every one as cute only!!!!
24. Apart from behavioural traits, physical characteristics like size, shape and proportionality of facial parts (e.g chubby cheeks and big eyes) also contribute for the cuteness factor.
25. Cuteness comes out of innocence. Innocence means ‘not being evil’. Not knowing. Not knowing the nature and effect of their acts.
26. Cute people radiate pleasure and satisfaction. They are graceful and charismatic.
27. Even those people who are categorised as not beautiful and dirty also can appear cute. So, cuteness is more on the perceiver and it is related to the ‘mind set’ of both the people involved.
So, we might be aging and losing the cute appearance due to aging. But Let us not lose our cuteness in being anxiety struck on the name of ‘being responsible’ and ‘behaving as per age’.
So, guys and gals, let us be cute always and forever!!
rams...(cute smile)
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