"Nature is the best Guru...Best Teacher...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

"Nature is the best Guru...Best Teacher...

Because it does not say 'Listen to me...Just obey my orders...I am the Master...I am your Guru...'...

Because it has no EGO that I AM EVERYTHING...I AM THE MASTER...I AM THE GURU...WITHOUT ME, YOU CAN NOT LEARN ANYTHING...YOU CAN NOT LIVE HERE...WITHOUT ME YOU ARE NOTHING!!...i ONLY CREATED YOU...I AM THE GOD...I AM THE GOD OF ALL GODS...I AM THE CREATOR...I MADE EVERYTHING ALL AROUND...I KNOW EVERYTHING...I AM THE RULER...WITHOUT ME NOTHING CAN HAPPEN...I AM ABOVE ALL...I AM ABOVE EVERYTHING...NO ONE AND NOTHING IS ABOVE ME!...SURRENDER TO ME!...FOLLOW ME! YOU ARE MY SLAVE!!!...IF YOU FOLLOW, I WILL SHOW YOU THE RIGHT WAY...I WILL GIVE EVERYTHING...OTHERWISE I WILL DESTROY YOU!! SO, BE SCARED, BE FEARFUL, BE OBEDIENT!!'...it does not say all these...but truly it is all these!!...

It is there everywhere...even when locked up inside the room we can feel the air...we can see the sky...we can feel its coolness...it's creations are there all around...flies, mosquitoes and ants😃...everything teaches us lessons of life, survival and many more....

Nature, it is everywhere!!...it does not say 'you are shatriyan, so i will not teach!!' and all such crap...it does not distinguish between religions, caste, race and all dividers we created...it loves all equally...It says knowledge, skills, experience and wisdom are all common and universal...not the property of anyone or any community or race or religion...it sees everything and everyone same!!

It plays with all...it entertains all...it loves you...it takes you along...it accepts all your aggression and cruelty...it heals and recuperates by itself...it makes us to think...it makes us strong...though hard but enjoyable lessons that are a fun...it makes us to understand...it makes us to learn...on its lap...IT IS THE MOTHER...IT IS A GREAT FRIEND...IT IS A GREAT FATHER...IT IS A GREAT LOVER...it teaches us, makes us good human beings by positive methods...it shows its fury only when we disturb and push it to the edge!!

So, LEARN EVERYTHING FROM THE REAL AND TRUE GURU...THE NATURE!!...You will be taught in the right way...it will not ditch or cheat...it will make you strong, and not a parasite, lazy, weak, walking-coffin!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist.

Pazhagi paar, paasam puriyum...Pagaithhu paar, 'veeram' theriyum!!"

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

Recently one student shared two tamil lines..."Pazhagi paar, paasam puriyum...Pagaithhu paar, 'veeram' theriyum!!"...many such lines are written by many people with rhyming words for a good feeling of reading!!...Are they correct?...Are they true?...Even if they are correct or true in traditional terms, do they allow people to live in harmony, peace and good health?...I think they have been intentionally or unknowingly created by 'divide and rule' people...Type A personalities...people dominated with personality traits like Aggression!!

The meaning of these two lines is...'Socialise or interact with people, to understand the meaning of love...Be in enemity to see the Aggressive strength in you!'...hope my translation is near-perfect!!😃

In tamil there is a word...'VEERAM'...it is understood through negativities...i.e fight with the enemy...destroy the enemy...you will know your strength...that strength is defined as Veeram...of course, your strength assessment depends upon the strength of the enemy!!

But FIGHTING or DESTROYING or KILLING are negative...the victory...the feeling of pride or goodness or fulfillment or satiation of ego needs that one gets through these negative methods is in the PLEASURE domain. So, they don't lost long. Anger, aggression is always set in the enemy and his people that such negativeness can never result in long term peace, happiness and good health. Hate is negative. All feelings and emotions one gets out of these negative personality traits or thoughts are all damaging to the body, family, society, country and world. Therefore, the behaviours of destruction will also result in destruction of all....everyone...and everything one day!!

LOVE...i.e a set of positive traits...thoughts...plans...strategies...feelings, emotions...activities...will result in everlasting peace, harmony, happiness and good health of individuals, families, societies, countries and the world!!

LOVE IS THE ONLY CONSTRUCTIVE WEAPON IN THE WORLD WHICH CAN MAKE ANY ANIMAL OR GHOST😃ALSO TO CHANGE AND DROP DOWN THE WEAPONS OF DESTRUCTION IN HANDS OR IN MINDS!!

So, veeram or strength or valour is not in muscles, thoughts and activities that result in HATE and DESTRUCTION!!

Veeram is in bringing about changes through positive methods that will bring in everlasting peace, happiness, good health, harmony!!

Of course, if threat is eminent, then destruction is unavoidable!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

“Look deep into Nature, and then you will understand everything better.”

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

“Look deep into Nature, and then you will understand everything better.”

This is not my statement. This is said by Einstein. But I am fully convinced about it.

For all the questions that appear in our minds...why...how...when...why not...what if...where...whether in our society or at home or in organisations or about life...when we look deep in to Nature, we will get the right answers!!...This is what my personal experience is!!

Look deep into Nature....outside and inside...

Outside means in the deep forests...the plants and trees...the birds and animals...those inside waters and on land...on the mountains and hills...inside the deep oceans...the vast meadows...the drizzles and rains...the fogs and snowfalls...in the skies...at the twinkling stars in the clear night skies...the bright planets...that bright cool moon...that hot shining star, Sun...in the vast universe...YOU WILL GET THE MEANING AND PURPOSE OF LIFE, ABOUT PEOPLE, RELATIONSHIPS, FAMILY, HOW TO LIVE PEACEFULLY, HEALTHILY, HAPPILY AND HARMONIOUSLY...THE ANSWER FOR WHO IS GOD ETC.

Inside means, inside the plants...stems, leaves, roots, fruits...inside their cells...inside those chemical reactions at various parts...inside the fundamental structure of the cell...in the same way inside the animal cells...inside the genes...inside the protein structures...inside those last chemical chains...inside those metabolic and other chemical activities...WE WILL GET ANSWERS FOR HOW OUR BODY IS MADE OFF?...HOW THE BRAIN IS MADE OFF?...HOW AND WHAT ALL CHANGES TAKE PLACE DURING VARIOUS STAGES OF GROWTH. AGING, MATURING, AND EVOLVING?..HOW THEY INDUCE OUR THOUGHTS, FEELINGS, BELIEFS, LEARNING, INTENTIONS AND BEHAVIOURS?...INSIDE THOSE HORMONE AND NEUROTRANSMITTER CHEMICALS...

We only look for things that vary...independently and dependently...the nature in which they vary...why they vary and how they vary?...how the environment affects them?...things that do not vary..i.e constants...the relationships between all these...this is what we study in physics or chemistry or biology or history or geography or mathematics (it helps to analyse the variables and find out their relationships and values of unknowns)...all the researches in the universe is all about only these!!...When we study for marks we get marks!...When we study for getting admissions in good institutions and get good jobs in corporate organisations we get them!!...When we study about all these for money and wealth, we get those!!...When we study all these for knowledge, learning, awakening, enlightenment, maturing, growing, evolving into a good human being...in to an intellect...then we become a Light of Wisdom and Energy!!...WE GET WHAT WE LOOK FOR!!

So, be with Nature...Love Nature...penetrate Nature...live with Nature...be aligned with Nature...play with Nature...Analyse Nature...enjoy nature...laugh, dance, sing with Nature...be on the lap of Nature...there is no happiness without Nature...there is no peace without Nature...there is no good health without Nature...there is no understanding of anything under the sky without understanding Nature...we are all elements of Nature...there is nothing and no one which is beyond and above Nature...God is Nature...Nature will never ditch us if we are good human beings as per the definition of Nature and the way it is has created us!!

Many thousands of years back when we were wanderers and 'food gatherers' in the vast Nature, we unknowingly learnt everything about life, others, our relationships with them and Nature!!

But when we became 'food producers' or 'food buyers' or living in societies in civilized (??) self made towns and cities...inside concrete structures...we lost the real learning about life that is the basic backbone!!...We got lost in the vast illusions, something we don't know!!

So, “Look deep into Nature, and then you will understand everything better.”

Look at my Cover Pic and Read...sorry...Learn...what is written there!!😃

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

"mostly our beliefs are our poisons in life!!"

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

God has no religion!
God has no language!
God has no emotions!
God has no physical form!

These are my statements. They may be true or false. Wrong or right. It is immaterial. At least they will make us not to be lazy, not to be totally dependent on gods or others, energetic, self confident, make us grow in knowledge, skills, experience and wisdom in multiple domains, globally, be good, do good, believe that 'what i think, feel and do will only save me, make my destiny, make my future, make my life, make my relationships, protect me from all evils, i have to look after my body and mind without affecting others' mission to achieve the above, without being a hindrance in others' lives. If i do good, only good will happen to me and all that happens to me will be good only!...god will look after only good human beings who look after themselves, do good to others, humanity, all living species, world and earth!!"

It also does not mean i am against gods or religions or temples. Any thing we believe in is right as long as it gives us peace, happiness, good physical-mental and social well-being, allows us to grow in wisdom and live with others in harmony without hates and other negative thoughts, feelings and behaviours!!

So, nothing wrong in believing in anything that is health enhancing for us and all those around...how does it matter whether it is superstitious or proven!!...People, relationships, peace and harmonious living is more important than all those listed above which divide all of us!!

But we need to be cautious about those who want to cheat or exploit our beliefs for their good and survival and guard ourselves against them...selfish motives!!

Peacefully yours...rams...Psychologist!!

If we keep our relationships within boundaries then there is no problem. Is it not?

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

Qn: If we keep our relationships within boundaries then there is no problem. Is it not?

Ans: Yess!!...Very true!!...The problems occur for self and others when people are not able to keep their relationships within boundaries. The boundary is the state where all the people involved in relationships are in peace, happy and harmonious. It requires....1. healthy mind...2. less dependencies...3. right understanding of life, people, relationships, human nature...4. right perception of socialization and social rules and regulations.

So, when the mind is not healthy, when the life style is not healthy, when the hormonal and neurotransmitter secretions are not stable or healthy, when the dependencies in various dimensions of life are more, when people do not understand the life healthily, when they do not understand the human life, human nature, nature and its relationship with human beings correctly, when they don't understand the dynamics of relationships correctly, when they don't understand socialization and issues related to socialization correctly then all the personnel involved in the relationships suffer.

So, too much of love and dependencies beyond boundaries between wife and husband, sister and brother, parents and children, between lovers, between friends....all result in pains, loss of peace, happiness, health and harmony!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

THIS IS FOR ALL....

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

In all social media and responsible media, all youngsters and responsible citizens are posting all kinds of pics, videos and news or posts about increased use of non-biodegradable packaging products (polythene bags, plastic bottles, health compromising chemicals coated or packages using such chemicals).

People in power, all the corporate profit makers, selfish media and all social service personnel and all kinds of ______ leaders (you can add anything in the blank) also motivate 'cleaning' the places (sea, roads and other common use places). ARE THEY, SPREAD WORLD WIDE, USING THEIR AUTHORITY, POWER, INFLUENCE TO STOP MANUFACTURING SUCH ITEMS or USE SCIENCE TECHNOLOGY ONLY IN HEALTH ENHANCING WAYS FOR HUMANITY, EARTH AND UNIVERSE?...WHY?...SELFISHNESS?

There are only two ways...either they change (will all the selfish people change??) or people change (not to use them)...Is it possible to avoid all kinds of products which are packaged with non-degradable packs?...Why not we destroy the packs by burning ourselves instead of throwing them?...UNITY IS STRENGTH!!

Peacefully yours...rams...psychologist!!

Living with Nature is the best thing for peace, happiness, health and harmony!!

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

God or Nature has created this earth and all of us with all the things around. Nature has made it in such a way that peace can exist when we think, feel and do things naturally in the way nature has created us. When we live against nature, we lose peace, suffer, lose many and much more and harmony is lost!!

Human beings have created many not aligned with nature and some aligned with nature. Those aligned with nature will remain forever and those not aligned with nature will be revolted, fought against and will not sustain long and will vanish some time eventually!!

All of us are aligned with some things of Nature and somethings which are human made. We are also not aligned with many things which are human made. But in generally we are aligned with all the things which nature has made. The conflict comes in our mind with Nature and our learning or understanding. Whatever is health enhancing for us and those around is good for us. Remaining are not good for us. But ultimately Nature rules in the minds!!

So, all those we have created against nature is damaging the earth and life of all us on earth and all these will be demolished or erased or destroyed by Nature on its own or through us only!!

Therefore, start loving nature...nature's creations...start making relationships with Nature and its elements which are unconditional...truly everything except human beings are unconditional...and all relationships and outcomes of relationships like happiness or suffering are all our own perceptions out of our own learning or understanding which could be right or wrong for us...and need not be same for others...start learning to live on your own and with others without any expectations and assessments!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

THIS IS FOR ALL WHO HAVE RELATIONSHIP ISSUES IN LIFE....

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL WHO HAVE RELATIONSHIP ISSUES IN LIFE...

Human beings are social animals. Though we have evolved from animals, our socialization is much more complex than animals due to our complex brain...complex mind formed out of it...this complicates our life...makes it miserable...makes us to lose peace, happiness, good health and social relationships. Probably if we had the simple brain like the animals, life would have been simple.

Unfortunately we have been taught from the time we are born that 'he is your father...she is your mother...she is your sister...he is your brother...he is your uncle...he is your friend' etc.

People around have named each relationship between us and others specifically. Based on gender too. Many relationships are gender specific and can not be mixed. This relationship is a social status. We, by default, understand the relationships in a way we understand during growth. We form certain expectations, faiths, 'he should be like this...she should be like this...i expect him or her to behave like this...i expect him or her not to behave like this...etc'...Society also has defined all these in specific ways with dos and don'ts. We also perceive some of them matching with the definitions of the society and some beyond the society definitions!!

Family relationships are by default and the society has defined the sets of rules, regulations, duties and responsibilities, expectations etc. But truly EVERYTHING DEPENDS UPON THE SOCIAL DYNAMICS BETWEEN US AND OTHERS IN REALITY AND PERCEPTION...THE KIND OF RELATIONSHIP WE HAVE FORMED OR PERCEIVED WITH THE OTHER PERSON...HOW WE UNDERSTAND THE OTHER PERSON AND THE RELATIONSHIP WE HAVE FORMED WITH THE OTHER PERSON...THE KIND OF FULFILLMENT OF EXPECTATIONS PERCEIVED BY US...THE EXTENT OF EMOTIONS AND FEELINGS WE HAVE FORMED WITHIN US IN A RELATIONSHIP...THE KIND OF COMPROMISES AND SACRIFICES WE HAVE WILLINGLY SHARED WITH THE OTHER PERSON OR WE HAVE PERCEIVED FROM THE ACTIONS OF THE OTHER PERSON...OUR PHYSICAL, MENTAL AND SOCIAL DEPENDENCIES ON THE OTHER PERSON...FINANCIAL, LEGAL AND OTHER DEPENDENCIES TOO...

For a good mental health and peace one requires all kinds of relationships that we have known off....in perception or reality or in fantasies...but every one does not get people who can help to perceive true, trust worthy, reliable, life long relationships...all the kinds of relationships...every one is not permanent throughout our lives...

So, many perceive many kinds of relationships with one or more people on earth...i.e perceive more than one relationships with the same person with or without sex...e.g one can be wife, mother and sister too. Relationships we perceive are not based on gender. e.g a man can be perceived for a motherly relationship (generally mother is a female).

Though we are taught to form relationships based on age, we do form or perceive relationships beyond age also. e.g a female can perceive elderly aged husband as a child also.

So, in totality, we decide what kind or extent of relationship or relationships we form or perceive with others in reality or fantasies to fulfill our needs and wants. Relationships may or may not depend upon the social dynamics between us and others. Our mind forms relationships for it to remain in peace.

The body is formed by nature. The brain is a natural part of the body. The mind that is formed truly out of nature forms a 'relationship' that actually has no name...it just forms to remain at peace!!

NATURE HAS NOT FORMED OR NAMED THE RELATIONSHIPS. WE HAVE ONLY NAMED THEM. NATURE TRULY DOES NOT IMPOSE RESTRICTIONS. THE BODY AND MIND OF NATURE ACCEPTS EVERYTHING THAT IS NATURAL. EVERYTHING CREATED BY NATURE WILL REMAIN FOREVER. ANYTHING MAN MADE OR CREATED BY US WILL NOT GIVE US PEACE. IT CAN PROBABLY GIVE ONLY A TEMPORARY FEELING OF GOODNESS CALLED PLEASURE. IT WILL NOT ALLOW US TO LIVE IN REALITY AS PER NATURE. IT BECOMES ARTIFICIAL AND ANYTHING THAT IS ARTIFICIAL WILL NOT GIVE US PEACE, HAPPINESS, CONTENTMENT AND FULFILLMENT FOREVER. THEREFORE, ANYTHING THAT IS CREATED BY HUMAN BEINGS WILL VANISH OVER A PERIOD OF TIME AS THEY DO NOT ALLOW PEOPLE TO LIVE IN PEACE AND HARMONY.

E.g a person who has not perceived his mother as mother can not be forced to perceive his mother as mother. In true spirits, the relationships are not by default, they are perceptions of the individual!!

A sister who has perceived her brother as the ultimate human being on earth, for perception of all kinds of relationships, can not be separated from her brother on the name of marriage, naming new relationships in his or her life!!...It can not give her or the brother peace and harmony.

In general, any relationship that does not involve sex in reality or in fantasies is to an extent accepted or negotiable or understandable by us or by society. It need not necessarily be, because, time, attention, energy, money and wealth sharing become elements of possessiveness between two people!!

Truly sex does not last long between any two people and the relationship sustains only if there is an attachment, stable and life long commonness in thinking, beliefs, needs, wants, expectations, definition of life etc, valuing the person or the relationship beyond all materialistic things on earth from the both the people concerned!!...Otherwise no relationship lasts for life time in true sense, whether it is default or created!!

So, peace and harmony exists only between two people or in a family or amongst a group of people who have formed or perceived relationships and inter-dependencies when we understand all these and accept that NATURE RULES...NATURE WINS...WE ARE PART OF NATURE...BODY AND MIND ARE BEYOND SOCIAL NORMS...ALL SOCIAL NORMS ARE FORMED BY US...IF THEY ARE AGAINST THE NATURE, THEN THEY CAN NOT RESULT IN PEACE, HAPPINESS AND LONGEVITY OF RELATIONSHIPS OR PEACE OR HEALTH OR LIFE...

So...the issue is...there is a need to understand that naming relationships is against nature...it can not allow one or people concerned to live in peace and happiness. If people are able to form or perceive relationships within social norms, then it is fine. The issue comes only when such are formed beyond social norms. In reality, every one forms a relationship in his or her entire life time with some one or something living or non living (existing or non existing) in reality or in fantasies, temporarily or permanently a relationship that is beyond social norms!!...That is how the NATURE's mind is for it to exist in peace and good health!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

Are you a young parent?...Are you ready for marriage and make a family?

Dear all…THIS IS FOR ALL…

The right method of parenting should result in future-ready, globally-fit, independent and confident children who can take care of themselves in all respects from childhood, not dependent on others for anything including love-affection-care and all kinds of body needs, able to meet all kinds of challenges, with high levels of adaptability, flexibility and maturity, ability to get along with all kinds of people and cultures, decision making skills in life and organisations, ability to create their own wealth, fame, recognition, authoritative positions in societies and organisations, with high resilience, with strong-flexible-healthy body and mind with good health enhancing morals, values, ethics and life style as the back bone of life, free from health compromising life styles.

But mostly our pampering-comforting-parenting has been to spoil the children, make them totally dependent on parents or others for even their basics, follow all kinds of health compromising life styles, be crooks on the name of being smart, low morals-ethics-values on the name of ‘some how you should win and achieve’, to be rigid and highly sensitive to even small issues of life, with personality traits that are harmful-inharmonious and damaging for self and others around. They are not able to live alone, live in families or societies or organisations, Unable to make friends, remain alone and feel lonely and become a pain for self, parents, others around, organisations and society!!

Especially our mothers, to get the feeling of goodness of loving and caring their children, pamper them too much and spoil them!!

Parenting is not simple and easy the way it was a few decades ago, where truly every one grew up on their own…with bones growing as days passed by…without any structured grooming…dependent on the assets of parents…without any education and skill development commensurate with the demands of the employers, societies and social organisations like family.

So, it is a big challenge to groom children of today scientifically for the complex global future ruled by science and technology and uncertainty filled social and organizational dynamics in all spheres of life. If someone can not spare time for grooming their children it is better they don’t produce one as they will only produce pains for them and others for life time.

Don't get carried away with the advises of your parents and grandparents who only produced people of the past and present.

So…so…so…wake up present young parents and future parents!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

"Almost all the achievers have lived differently than their parents...relatives...friends...and people around in their culture, village, town, city or religion or caste or sub caste groups"

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL YOUNGSTERS, STUDENTS AND PARENTS...

In our society almost every one is living just a normal 'existence' life. For most of them living the day to day life itself is too difficult, troublesome, scary, threat-filled and painful. Most of them are not achievers. This includes most of our parents also.

If we have to be achievers...if we want to lift the status of the family in multiple dimensions...if we want set a different higher plane of reference of living for our future generations...if we want to be good role models for our children...if we want to be god fathers for many in the society...if we want to set a different standard of life and living...a healthy...peaceful...happy...successful...contented...fulfilled life with fame, authority, power etc...then...

WE HAVE TO LIVE DIFFERENTLY THAN OUR PARENTS...THAN THE PEOPLE AROUND US...THEN OUR RELATIVES....THAN OUR FRIENDS...

OUR DEFINITION OF LIFE AND LIVING...OUR OUTLOOK ABOUT SETTING GOALS...THE PATH OF ACHIEVING THEM...ALL HAVE TO BE DIFFERENT.

People around us may not allow us to live like that. They will say their definition of life and living is the best...nothing better than that...so, they will force you to live like them only. But we need to have stronger spine, patience, to explain them, expose them, make them undergo, feel, experience and change to understand your concept of life and living...so that they are with you to support you!!...Hating, fighting with the significant people of our life...like parents and best friends...is weakening our own assets...whereas making them to feel that success...that peace...that happiness...that new life will change them to a different domain. It takes time, requires patience to deal with them.

But if nothing works out, nothing wrong in saying "I love you! I will look after you!...But i will live as per my definition and will take the future generations of this family to different levels of success, peace, happiness, good health, achievements, fame, power, authority, status, contentment and fulfillment!!" and living differently as per our definitions.

Almost all the achievers have lived differently than their parents...relatives...friends...and people around in their culture, village, town, city or religion or caste or sub caste groups.

But check out if your goals...the path...the method of achieving the goals...all are health enhancing or not. They should not be health compromising!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist.

our actual true assets on earth!!

haiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii all.....our body is our first and only asset...let us look after to exist on this earth.............our mind is the next most important asset...let us take care of that to live on this earth and enjoy this only life!!

peacefully yours..rams...psychologist!!

How to remain young in appearance??

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

Our appearance and energy levels determine the age estimation by others...

So, let us keep the appearance in shape and keep the positive energy levels high to remain and appear young to others!!

Good sense of humour, understanding the life in the right way, being without stress are few things which add up flavour to our young appearance!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

Are you the POOJA ROOM or ANUS?

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

Our body has BRAIN...which has a high status on our body...as it has intelligence, memory and acts as the computer of our life...If it stops functioning we die. So, it has its importance.

Our body also has an ANUS which is dirty, has low status and we show faces when we hear about it. But that is also important. There is no living organism without this. If it stops functioning, life becomes miserable.

In the same way at our home also we have POOJA ROOM where gods are kept. Probably the cleanest and high status room in the house. The same house also has TOILET which has low status. But it is important.

In the same way the society also has people who do work with their brain...ie higher education, high end knowledge and skills associated with it...they have good status...Society also has uneducated casual labourers who have no money, no home, no education, dirty body, dirty clothes...they have no status in society. But they are also important, otherwise city will stink.

So, it is not possible to eradicate the low status parts of the body or home or society. There will always be such people. As they are also important. Without whom body or home or society can not exist.

But it is upto us whether we want to be anus or brain...toilet or pooja room...brainy white collar job professional or a casual daily wages labourer or a poor person struggling for basics.

Every one may not have high intelligence to be the brain or pooja room. But every one can put in hard work and acquire skills which comes by hard work, dedication, interest and thereby, even with average intelligence they can be the pooja room!!

So...so...so...everything in our hands!!...We decide who or what we will be!!...If we are lazy and irresponsible then we become the anus!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

We spend too much of time, energy and money in impressing others for fake fame...through creation of jealousy...

Hai all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

Every one spends lots of time, energy and money in IMPRESSING OTHERS. ("naalu peru nammalai pathhi nalla vithamaa pesanum"..."oorey nammalai viyanthu paakkanum...puhalnthu pesanum"...)...mostly people try to achieve this by spending money lavishly...mostly in a manner that the money is not useful for anyone!!

Truly they are only provoking JEALOUSY in others. And they feel good, proud when others feel jealousy about them. This is fake and truly every one will only talk bad and ill when the person is not there in their front.

Jealousy arises out of negative comparisons which can not give peace.

Positive comparisons which results in positive thoughts, positive emotions and positive behaviours towards becoming a good and responsible human being is always good!!

But mostly comparisons are negative, jealousy and therefore people only lose their peace!!

Here both the people get affected in a long run!!...The feeling of goodness is only short lived, fake and goes off resulting in a loss!!

Instead if some one tries to be a good human being...helpful to others...i.e usefulness value (not nuisance value!)...then that person is remembered for long and people get impressed in a positive way. The money, time and energy can be spent by them in improving their humanness, knowledge, skill and wisdom.

So, let us not compare...not feel jealousy...not try to impress through fake methods...not try to make others feel jealousy about us!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

i am convinced that poor people know the value of everything....

Dear all...We have an auto rickshaw driver with a vision...who defines life as 'freedom...education...support to children...their life is his life!'...he knows the value of EDUCATION and HUMANNESS....and his daughter becomes a top ranking central government officer.....and while being an officer, she spends her life to make a difference in the lives of others!!...She makes every disturbed or disadvantaged person to laugh!!

But i see every day soooo highly educated, sooo highly placed officers and top management people...who have small brains...pigeon brains...and narrow minded definitions of life...and torture and screw up the lives of their children!!

and these children come and cry...asking for a way out!!

in fact many of these highly educated and so called achieved people come and tell that their children are psychos and need treatment!!

We have all kinds of people...!!

But i am convinced that poor people know the value of everything...money...food...wealth...tears...hunger...people...relationships...education!!...It comes through a "learning-through-self -experience"...it can not come through class room learning....THE VALUE OF LIFE AND LESSONS OF LIFE!!...One can not get these lessons by spending money!!...

One has to experience!!

A poor person who has this richness...i.e lessons of life...is richer than the rich people we come across every day in our lives!!

There are rich people, highly educated and highly placed, highly achieved people in government and private sector...whose 'standard of living' may be great...but they may be corrupt, animals, without any morals and ethics...without any value systems...the 'standard of life' of these people is into dust bins!!

But there are some poor people...who have the richness i have described above...they groom their children with good 'standard of life' than 'good standard of living'!!

The 'standard of living' of all dons may be good...but the 'standard of life' of Mahatma is good!!

Keep it up ...Your father is great!!...Incomparable!!..I wish every parent is like your parents!!..Please share the pic of your parents on my wall...let my face book wall get blessed!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!