hai friends...how are we?
...as usual, it is not a gender specific mail...it is applicable for all genders...
...as usual, it is not a gender specific mail...it is applicable for all genders...
we have been seeing that
boy wants his mother in other girls...now, what a girl wants?
girl wants simply a TOY!!!
there
is no girl on this earth who has not played with a TOY in her FANTASY
WORLD created by her own with her IMAGINARY CHARACTERS, PEOPLE and
EMOTIONS.
if
we carefully notice, any baby girl, whose brain has developed to a
stage of observing the
surroundings and people around and MODELING them, starts playing with
her toy, behaving the same way in which people around behave with her
and others...the sensors observe the behaviours of others and converts
into a learning process and the child starts imitating those behaviours
with the toy...in this process, of course, the mother is her first
teacher!
so,
it bathes the toy, decorates, plays with it, beats, kisses, hugs,
cuddles, teaches...it does everything that mom and others do to
her...what ever others do around her...she talks to the toy with same
content, emotions and other behaviours learnt by her from others...
if
the teddy is lost or torn or damaged, it is able to part with it and
ready to accept another toy and starts creating her world again with
this new toy!
my
daughter had a teddy, the dirtiest, but with all types of fragrance,
make up etc...when i go to office she says bye bye and tells the teddy
'daddy is going and you are keeping quiet!...say bye bye...like
this...yes, now you are a good
baby!' and kisses it...
the
baby girl creates her own world...her own characters...all characters
performed by only that girl and the toy...though the toy does not
move....baby girl knows this...but it assumes that it is a live
character and is performing...the baby creates her own definition of
happiness...makes the toy its soul mate...the best friend...shows all
types of emotions...plays with it, eats with it, lives with it, sleeps
with it...
what
we do when the baby plays?...we just sit away from the baby girl and
enjoy her behaviours...did we make any attempt to learn from the baby
girl?
when the baby girl learns 'behaviours' from us, what do we learn from behaviours of this child?
1. happiness is within
us and not outside. It is created by us around and within us.
2. we can create our own world of happiness with people and characters in it
3. we are adaptable with the characters created in our own world as they are created by us
4.
fantasies are more colourful, joyful, perfectly suiting our happiness
types and levels as realities can not bring the extent to which
fantasies bring.
5.
nature
has created us with abilities to love many and not just one!...it is
just a question of time and our attitude...death or separation of others
is not the end of our lives!
on the lighter side...we can even perceive the following...
...we can even perceive the following...
1. only toys can
make a girl happy and not boys...may be a boy who is a 'live toy' can make her happy!
...may be a boy who is a 'live toy' can make her happy!
2. girls can never live in reality!
3. fantasy is the only choice for girls to be happy!...in real world they can not be happy!
4. she can only be happy with imaginary characters and not with people in reality!
5. a girl can adapt only with imaginary characters and not with people in reality!
(if i type more, i know, i will only get kicks and not kisses!!!
...whavvv...when i look up in the sky i can already see many new chappals flying towards me!!!! I can also hear the sounds of the grinding teeth!!!)
...whavvv...when i look up in the sky i can already see many new chappals flying towards me!!!! I can also hear the sounds of the grinding teeth!!!)
anyway, jokes apart, it is not only for girls but applicable for boys also!
those
who have rigid unadaptable characters can either under go the
counseling process and soften themselves to be adaptable or create their
own world with nature, items, characters and live within themselves.
Human beings being social animals it is better to choose the counseling
method. Of course, when we do not have the people whom we like (due to
separation (divorce, life circumstances), deaths, one sided love between
lovers or spouses or friends or imaginary people),
the place we like, the items we like, the life or living we want to
have, then fantasy is the only choice to keep our heart and smiles
ticking!
did any one teach the girl child to live like that with her toy?
No one! it is the nature which has given us this skill or talent or power! A baby knows this and why not we, the grown ups!
why are we crying with unfulfilled expectations from people?
other day i saw the car of an unmarried working woman, with a cute teddy neatly seated and belted,
her best friend, soul mate, child, husband...all in one!!
Many
highly educated ladies abroad live their own life like this baby girl
in their own world and their friends (not in india...in india can a girl
remain without marriage? (let us isolate the small percentage of
unmarried)...there are enough people around to plan her marriage even
before her birth, dream about it and force, compel, brainwash and make
her agree for a marriage, as that is the prime reason for birth of a
girl in our culture!!)
)
all girls, irrespective of age, have a teddy in their room or bed and live in their fantasy world at times!!
ok then...be a baby girl...keep smiling...keep rocking...keep playing with toys!
rams
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